Straight forward enough, I'm looking for suggestions on how to become more relaxed, easy going, worry less, and stress less.
2006-11-12 06:10:21 · 12 answers · asked by clarity_is_peace 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You could dope yourself up on medication, as many would sugest, or you could learn some new perspectives.
Numbing yourself to life doesn't make things go away. It merely makes you more apathetic.
Counseling is one way to discover the sources of your displaced anxiety (and yes, all destructive behaviors and bad habits are caused by displaced anxiety). Smoking, drinking, binging, starving, violence, seclusion, excessive worrying, and OCD are all caused by displaced anxiety.
You don't have to be in control of anything but your own behavior. You don't have to control your emotions; that's unrealistic. Perception is key, and it is what you may need help with.
Realize that your behavior is guided by your emotions, which are influenced by your perceptions, which are influenced by your unbringing and past experience.
As you grow into adulthodd, you have more independence and control over your life. You are in charge of the choices you make and your own behavior. You can start replacing "I can't" with "I am not willing to". You have more responsibility, especially for taking care of yourself.
Start by going to short-term conseling (just a few sessions). This will empower you a great deal. You will learn some new perspectives, and discover how much power you really have that you have yet to tap into.
We all have good reasons for what we think, do, and how we behave. We don't always realize how it affects us. Objective counselors do. They do not judge us or condemn us. Their mission is to point out what we are doing, and educate us about alternative perspectives. Psychologists do this with confidential discussions, and psychaitrists do this by medicating us. It is, however, highly irresponsibly to administer any medication therapy without counselling.
You are brave and courageous to seek assistance in the first place. That indicates that you are taking responsibility for your life. Maybe you just need some pointers, and a psychologist can help.
On your own, you can modify your diet, and consume foods that stimulate the production of seratonin and other stress releivers. You can exercise regularly to help your body release endorphins, and make dopamine, norepinepherine, and other feel-good chemicals.
2006-11-12 07:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard that meditation works, listening to your favorite music when things get chaotic, and avoiding news (on radio, tv, newspapers) are all helpful.
I should admit I have not learned the art of doing these things and feeling less stress and less worry. I think some of the problems with a general answer to stress and relaxation is that we are all different, have different stimuli that affects what we worry about. So not one answer helps everyone the same. And your personality has a lot to do with how you react to stressors in life.
The site below says relaxation is a skill that can be perfected. I would agree with that.
2006-11-12 06:22:40 · answer #2 · answered by wellab76 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Easy answer to a straightforward question:
Find the humor.
Truth be told: Irony fuels EVERYTHING. It is very easy to stop taking things so seriously when you come to that realization.
Honestly: Take your crappiest situation imaginable - At some point in the future, it will be just another funny story. Why wait? Skip the middleman and go ahead and find it funny right now.
You will find with practice that anger and other negative emotions that you may feel in response to a situation are just knee-jerk reflexive reactions, and it takes much much less energy to replace that reaction with one of amusement.
Give it a shot.
Give 'er the ol' college try, eh?
eh?
2006-11-12 06:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by nowyermessingwithasonofabitch 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Practice loving yourself regardless of what others think of you, provided you're convinced you mean well to yourself and others. If you have doubts about your meaning well, you might benefit from some meditation about improving that aspect of yourself. Be that as it may, ultimately your own mind is the only one that either frees you up or holds you in bondage. And then there's the part that few realize: YOU are the one who frees up your mind! So who are YOU? This additional question cannot be explained away. But if we look for its answer within ourselves, we shall eventually discover it...
2006-11-12 09:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by Archetypal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to accept that not everythinhg is in your control or your responsibility. You also must spend more time doing trivial things that please no one but you. Take a trip, a yoga class, play with your kids, a pet, spend more time on recreation, just have more fun. Try not to let problems at work or life overwhelm your thoughts or control your actions.
2006-11-12 06:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by WriterChic 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm precisely that man or woman that sort of man or woman i suppose. however you gotta first be aware of your facial expressions, attempt to appear nearly prime... now not too out of it despite the fact that, do not react to something anybody says and after a couple of seconds reply with as little emotion as feasible. then it simply comes obviously after that.
2016-09-01 11:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by cheuvront 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take up meditation!
sounds stupid and feels sort of pointless at first but it does work!
I suggest you getting a book or audio book called creative visulatation... and then find basic meditation guides out there you can find them at some stores too!
Good luck!
also try going to a free web site! coping.org helps you deal with live stress! and gives you tools for personal growth
both of these things have change me and helped me see stuff that i didnn't understand!
Good luck! :)
i strongly erge you to check the site out!
quicker discription it's all text and alot of persona questions you ask yourself! best to print out but not needed!
free!
Coping.org
2006-11-12 06:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
move to California, gaze into the sunset over the Pac O as it mesmerizes you and you become laid back. If that doesn't work take xanex
2006-11-12 06:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by King Midas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Live in the moment. Don't worry about the past cuz u can't do anything now. Ur future is 100% dependent on ur present... so focus on that.
I am big believer in fate.. so that helps me. If it's meant to be... it'll happen, I can't stop it.
2006-11-12 06:19:27 · answer #9 · answered by xSoVa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Xanex
2006-11-12 06:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by cereal_killer034 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋