homework for 12 year old son what do you want to happen to your body when you die do you want a funeral?

Question

He lost his dad 12 months ago

Answer 1

thats quite a heavy subject for a twelve year old, i am all for teaching kids about death & related subjects in a way they understand ie through stories etc..But this is too much too soon it could terrify him especially as hes lost his dad such a short time ago, i think that you should possibly get some other mums/dads from your sons class to talk about how they feel about this subject being so black & white being taught to their kids, and if your not happy talk to the head of the school about it & see if he could alter the lesson slightly so its not so traumatic for these youngsters. good luck XX

Answer 2

Why, in the sixth or seventh grade, or any grade, would a teacher want to have kids tell what they would like to happen when they die? That would upset some children and scare others. Especially when they suffered loss of a loved one. That teacher is obviously inexperienced and should not be a teacher anymore. Talk to the principal right away. That is not right.

By the way, I would want a funeral when I die.

Answer 3

I know you are finding this a sensitive issue after having so recently lost someone however I think that the assignment would be an interesting 1 death is a fact of life and talking about it or writing about it can also show loved 1s if the worst happens to a person what their wishes are. Also it will maybe help your son deal with his loss by expressing his emotions.

Answer 4

It seems you are looking for re-assurance that this is an absurd task to put upon a child recently bereaved.
I strongly agree and the school should be immediately informed, perhaps the teacher assigning the homework was unaware of the situation, even so why on earth are they asking 12 year olds what they want doing with their bodies.....
I am appalled.

Answer 5

WELL HOW WAS HIS TEACHER SUPPOSED TO KNOW THAT???

I actually think that this is a very important assignment. most kids arent taken seriously about this, or at least their parents feel like they could override them because its THEIR child. If a kid has their death wishes written down, then the parents can know for sure what their son/daughter wanted, without a doubt. for example, I want to be cremated and my ashes blown away in the wind of my favorite city. well if my parents wanted to see me before I am gone forever and they didnt know about this idea of mine(or knew but shrugged it off because I was just a kid) and they decided they wanted an open-casket reception. well that pretty much overrides my wishes. now if I had this assignment and we had a conversation about it, maybe my parents would actually listen to my and what I want when I die

my point is, maybe this was necessary. have a discussion with your son. be mature about it. then you at least wont feel bad if you do have to bury your son and you dont even know what he wanted.



note: you guys seem to think that this assignment is extremely absurd. well if you read a book about death in class or it was in the cirriculum, then it would be completely appropriate to what the kids are learning. Generally the homework assignments are the work of multiple teachers, so dont go blaming just this one. its not nescessary to go to the head of the school either. just let the teacher know how you feel and im sure he/she will understand. dont go making a big deal out of a little mishap.

Answer 6

consistent with hazard he does not appreciate you when you consider which you do not call for appreciate. If my son could have stated as me that, i could have ripped the video recreation out of the wall, and say something such as you choose to verify a bi*** i will coach you a Bi***. i could have positioned that video recreation in my closet till he wrote me an in depth letter of apology and made him carry out a little substantial butt kissing previously i grew to become into great to him back. Your son only disrespected you enormous time, and you form of gave him a slap on the wrist??? you're able to desire to bolster up now, the teenage years are dashing at you rapid, you're able to desire to get a grip previously its too previous due. i think of because of the fact the punishment is desperate for this time, you should somewhat sit down down on the table with him and enable him comprehend that calling you names hurts your thoughts and is not proper. My mom continuously mentioned you are able to think of it yet you will better not say it. I say only enable him comprehend he crossed a line with you and if it happens back there will be problems.

Answer 7

I would make a complaint to the school, and the govenring body. That is disgusting. I would go completely nuts if my son was given that homework, especially if he had lost his father. What subject was it in?

Answer 8

I guess you're saying this was his homework assignment. How horrible. It's none of the teacher's business. This should go to the principal of the school and the school board asap. Teachers like this give all teachers a bad name.

Answer 9

I agree that this question is too burdensome at his age. Maybe appropriate for high school class. You can talk to the teacher and explain the situation. Teachers are usually willing to work out alternate solutions.

Answer 10

my mum was diognosed terminaly ill when i was a child, loss is a difficult thing to face, i'm sorry for your's. i feel very clear on what i want after i die as a consequence, i want to be cremated, just in case i'm not dead rather burn than be buried alive (sorry know thats a bit gross) then i want my ashes thrown into the sea whilst frank sinatra's somewhere beyond the sea is playing!