My co workers daughter is in middle school. Last week she was falsely accused of cheating on a test.The teacher humiliated the girl to tears in front of the class, even put her hands on her, the girl walked away, the teacher grabbed her again and tried to reach in her pockets!!!..it turned out she was NOT trying to cheat.There was a conference with the teacher, the mom, the girl and the principal. I asked the mother what she planned to do about it within the school, and she just said "Nothing, we already had a meeting with the principal, I do not want to embarass the teacher any more, I will just leave the poor woman alone" The teacher admitted she felt the girl was cheating but totally denied grabbing her. Other kids in the class did verify the teacher grabbed the girl.After what the teacher did to her daughter, why the h--- is she worried about hurting the teacher's feelings? It was proven that the girl was not cheating, she does not get in any trouble in school, and is quite shy.
2006-11-12 05:19:14 · 16 answers · asked by eastcoastdebra 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The school did NOTHING to reprimand the teacher, the girl did not receive an apology, she retook the test under close supervision and got the same grade as before
2006-11-12 05:20:17 · update #1
she is not a single mom, the dad was away on a business trip when it happened, it was impossible for him to return
2006-11-12 05:23:34 · update #2
wow it sounds like the mom has issues with authority figures,,,, by respecting them to much and when they dont deserve it ,,,,
if that was my daugh,,, i would be infuriated, both by the false accusation, and the putting hands on her,,,
the only thing similar, though not as bad , to happen to my child in school, she was out of the cafeteria when they were told no talking, on errand for her teacher, she came back , said something to a friend, the assistant pricipal told her off, and gave her detention,,,, man, i stormed threw that school, grabbed her out of the detention, told the assitant off on my way in and on my way out,,,,
school personnel should/must be held accountable for there actions, which can traumatize young children.
2006-11-12 05:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every parent handles stuff different. You may have gone in there blazing guns, but this mother felt like the school was doing there right thing. This is a moral issue and sometimes what you think is wrong isn't wrong in another family. The mother may just be one of those people that is soft spoken or doesn't handle conflict very well. If this is the fact maybe just bring something up on the way you would handle what happened. At least put an idea in her head that just because a person that is in charge of her child doesn't have right to put their hands. Maybe she is one of those types that thinks it is ok to let that stuff happen. Everyone is raised different you just never know what their beliefs really are.
2006-11-12 13:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by adarmbruster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortutunatley, no one can know for sure aobut whether your co-worker cares unless she could be interviewed and be known in private at home.
Further to this, it is not always known to the parent if a teacher is truly disciplined by the principal or school board.
If a parent presses charges against the teacher, it could complicate matters for the child in the classroom.
If there is more than one class of a particular grade or another school closeby, a parent in most cases has the right to change schools or teachers for the child's benefit.
Most importantly, the child needs support at home, whether justice is exacted or not. The best way to achieve this is to is to support your co-worker, whether she is right or wrong is to EARN the right to be heard. That way you may be invited to bring up the matter and make winning suggestions to her about validating her child in her injured state.
Do not judge the co-worker nor rehearse the wrongness of the matter, but rather discuss the needs of the child. Perhaps you can get a sense of how things are at home for the co-worker and be in her shoes for a minute.
2006-11-12 13:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by plantbywaters 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my believe me as a parent I would try to be lady like because my temper flares up on this one. No one would ever put their hands on my children in school especially a teacher. I think I would have went to the board of education someone higher then the principal. What is your co-worker talking about, this teacher humilated her daughter in front of other class mates. I am sure the students spreaded it all over school what happened. This teacher needed to be repramanded due to her actions. I would have not stayed calm in this situation. I would have told this teacher if she ever did it again to her or anyone she would lose her job. Definitley i would have wanted a full apology in front of the whole class that she did this to in front of her of her daughter. You can't even touch your kids in the home, how can you even grab a child like this in school ? Especially when the child did nothing wrong and dwas not be aggressive towrd this teacher. Belive me it would have not sdtopped there with me. Your co-worker should have handled this in a better more stern way with the teacher and the principal.
2006-11-12 13:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by MizzSweetness 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cant believe a mother would do this to her own child. It was clearly shown that the girl was not cheating. Worry about hurting the teachers feelings would be the last thing on my mind. I dont think its that the mother doesnt care for her daughter maybe she just isnt into confronting people, and speaking up for herself. Maybe she has things going on that she just wasnt really all there, because its just so hard to believe that someone would do this.
2006-11-12 13:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by munchkin0430 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother of this child needs to address this situation.....Teachers are not perfect...they have faults also...I had a teacher pick with my daughter about her weight(daughter is a plus size young lady) on a daily basis. My husband and I went to the school and had a meeting with the teacher, he apologized to my daughter never had another problem.......
2006-11-12 13:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by purpleone726 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's just a weak parent. The girl proved she wasn't cheating and the incident is on record. If the teacher tries anything like that again she'll be dealt with more firmly because it would be a second offense. Lastly, it's none of your business so stay the hell out of it.
2006-11-12 13:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Smarty Pants 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be that the mother is afraid of confrontation. Many times, a single mother will avoid the issue rather than deal with the adult's behavior. Unfortunate for the child!
2006-11-12 13:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Schools can do what they want for the most part, by pushing it the parent might feel that the school will retaliate in other ways. I've seen it happen. But regardless, its not your business. The family is dealing with it the best way they think they can.
2006-11-12 13:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one!!! Theres honestly nothing you can do sounds like the mother has some personal problems or just does'nt like confrontation. Just be thankful the girl was cleared!!
2006-11-12 13:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by oska 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋