How to mend a broken heart?

Question

How to believe again?

Answer 1

When one has been hurt, lied to or cheated on it is hard to believe in relationships and love again.

The number one human love in your life should be for yourself. You can heal your broken heart by being kind to yourself. Take yourself out on outings that you enjoy. A museum, an art gallery, to a concert or a play. Read books that will make you feel good about yourself. Take long hot baths and pamper yourself with creams and lotions. If you're religious, get back in touch with your spiritual side -- attend church and read books that reaffirm your commitment to your God.

Don't isolate yourself. During the coming holidays, spend time with those people who love and nurture you. Surround yourself with positive influences and ignore negative people and remarks.

After you've loved yourself, someone new will come in to your life and make you wonder what it was you saw in the one who broke your heart. The pain you're experiencing now will become a distant memory.

Life is yours for the taking, my dear.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

i agree with all the previous suggestions offered above. you can follow any one that you find works best for you at any given time.

let me just add something equally important:

give yourself the honest chance to deal with the pain by confronting the loss. look the problem in the eye, objectively, and accept what went wrong and why...not to pin the blame on anyone, yourself, least of all. it's too late in the day to start blaming anyone; nothing will change the fact that you're confronting a painful loss, regardless of who caused it more and why. sometimes, it's just enough to know what happened, how and why.

then grant yourself a good cry whenever you feel it's the only outlet for the pain, because words and rage are no longer enough. yes, allow yourself to get angry...and pour it out.

then take it one day at a time. it will be a struggle just getting through the day without the usual routines that you two used to have with each other. the others before me here have made some very useful suggestions on this point; try them and see what works for you on any given day.

what is important is for you to determine, once and for all, that you have to move on; rage and cry, if you must ( and you will!), but don't get stuck in the pain, in the anger, in the loss. find a reason to move on...then find a way to do so.

good luck! you'll do just fine...just asking how to get over it means you want to.

Answer 4

Let time help you, little by little you are going to feel better. I know it is hard to believe but it is true and the best way to help yourself is to keep busy with friends and work. Don´t allow yourself to drift away into dreams of how it used to be but focus on the present, not tomorrow. One day you will find yourself ready to believe in love again and you can look back at the past as something that helped you grow.

Answer 5

Nothing will mend a broken heart even though they say time but i hardly believe it!!

Answer 6

Only time will heal a broken heart. One's heart cannot heal fast after it has been broken. Give your heart some time, or wait for the one that will come in your life and heal it for you.

Answer 7

First of all, believe in yourself. It is not necessary to be in a relationship or married in order to have a productive life. Sometimes you just have to accept your losses and keep going.

Answer 8

Time heals ALL wounds. Sorry that I couldn't be more original, but it's true.

Answer 9

You should have faith in God and know that He has a plan for you.
He will bring you the one in His timing.

In the meantime, just learn from your experiences and use them for the future. : }