i am 17 and pregnant. i want to keep the baby but i dont know how to tell my boyfriend i want to keep it. he said he doesnt know if hes ready to be a father but if i keep it he will do his best. hes by my side no matter what and i know that. i just dont know how to tell him i want to keep it..please help
2006-11-12 04:57:41 · 10 answers · asked by KDUB100 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Your boyfriend already IS a father, ready or not. This is his chance to prove what kind of a man he really is. If he really loves you, he will stick around and do what he can to support you. If not, it is better that you know now rather than later.
My advice? Just straight out tell him, "I am keeping this baby." Don't be overly emotional or weepy, if you can help it. Stay calm. Remember, he may initially react with panic or anger. Stick to your guns and do NOT allow yourself to be manipulated by him in any way. You do not need to feel sorry for him. It was HIS choice to have sex with you, and I'm sure he's old enough to realize the potential consequences of sex. The person who most needs and deserves your pity and protection is your baby, not your boyfriend. Keep that in mind, and if he needs it, give your boyfriend time and space to come around.
Stay strong.
2006-11-14 03:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that its a little to late for him to tell you that he's not sure if he's ready to be a father.
That is something that should have been thought about before having sex.
As far as telling him, just tell him. You need to start thinking about yourself and your baby first. You cannot control what your bf will do or how he will behave.
I'm sure that you will do OK and be happy. Just make sure that you are not keeping the baby to keep him. In the end it just won't work.
Good Luck to you and I pray for a healthy baby for you..
2006-11-12 05:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'll tell you what....if you want to keep this precious gift from God, then thats fine. You will make it.....I had a cousin who did the same thing (only he was the bf) they are no longer together, although the little girl is now 5 and cuter than ever. They had some rough times, but that comes with being a parent. Seems like you bf is a good guy, so just tell him. It's time to step up to the plate and take life for what it gives you. Just hang in there, and live life for the fullest...for you and your baby.
2006-11-12 05:03:08 · answer #3 · answered by buckeyefever7 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Really think about what your feelings are before you tell him. Tell him what your descion is and let him know that you know he said he would be by your side, but if not you can do this on your own. I would let him know that he is not the only person who is not ready to be a parent, but sometimes life throughs you a curve. You both wanted to do an adult thing like have sex, you need to both be ready to be adults. You'll be fine, he sounds like a nice guy. Just remember what is the most important thing know, your baby. Your baby comes before anyone or anyones feelings. Good Luck!!
2006-11-12 05:05:22 · answer #4 · answered by eling13c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you want to keep the baby, then just sit him down and say "i'm keeping the baby". make sure he knows that you are not going to pressure him into staying around, and that it's his choice. but no matter what you are going to be the best mom that you can. if he loves you then he will make changes in his life so that he can grow up and become a father. i hope everything works out for you... good luck and congradulations on the new baby!!!
2006-11-12 05:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by gizmo_chik04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are keeping the child. He still has a choice to stay or leave. Hopefully he will make the wise choice. Many universities have childcare centers on campus, and reduced rates for special cases. Class schedules often allow students to attend full time, two or three days a week. Everything will be harder with a baby...but children make life a little brighter too! Good luck.
2006-11-12 05:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by Calvin James Hammer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ya im almost 16 and my boyfriend is all about getting threw college and im pg being a college student he doesn't really have much money as it is and he is NOT ready for a kid we're not ready for a kid but thats a very big thing and it changes your life.. in so many good ways then bad.. just tell him how much this baby means to you and that u are going to keep it... if he really loves you no matter what answer u give him he isnt going to love you know less the sooner the better just straight up tell him u want to keep it.. thats all i really have to say good luck!!
2006-11-12 05:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him, if he runs or if he stays you than will know his true colors
2006-11-12 05:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by norsmen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kailyn h I think your bf needs to stop worrying about college and start worrying about jail.
Seeingas he is in college I am assuming he is atleast 18 and by law if someone 18 or older sleeps with anyone under under 16 it is child molesting and sleeping with anyone 16 or 17 is staturatory rape.
2006-11-12 05:08:47 · answer #9 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
good luck, you'll be a single mother. if his not ready he won't stay.
2006-11-12 05:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by tear drop 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋