my boyfriend really wants to have sex, but i really dont. im 15 & hes 16 and i think its really young to have sex, but he thinks diffrently. i go to a private school, so i learnd not to have sex untill later like my whole life, but he goes to public school, and he was never taught that and people in his grade are having sex and they are asking him why he hasnt had sex. and idk i just really dont want to have sex. i turned 15 last month, i think its really too early.
2006-11-12 04:41:26 · 40 answers · asked by yo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's nice to see you've got a good head on your shoulders and all-- now, that boyfriend of yours should easily understand after a good talk that it's too early for numerous reasons, otherwise, leave him! It would be unfortunate, you would probably say, but not for your health and so much more! It's just, you're completely right about it being too early. Emotionally, maturely, even physically... this would simply be some crazy thing, and then it's over. You two maybe even get on with your own paths and that's that. The point is, boys (and girls, of course) are very strong on sexual impulses, and therefore need to be told it's not time. They need to learn to respect! What kind of (responsible) boyfriends, and more, can they be if they can't respect the need and want of their companion? You're not ready, period. Even he's not ready. I mean, thirteen year olds can feel like they're ready for a sexual experience; do you really think they are? Of course not. Some grownups are never ready, so.... anyway, talk to him firmly-- gently, but straight to the point. If he understands, waits, is loyal to you, etc. great! If not, however, he is a long mile from being worthy. A girl needs someone for her needs, not someone who thinks their needs are his companion's needs or whatever. So, think this all over, get your words ready and take the big leap into discussing this over with him. Oh, and also, tell him to ignore those kids just rudely asking him why he isn't having sex. He needs to get over the pressure, the influence, and does what's right for him. Okay, I think you've got it, so I'll just finish here and now, wish you my best of luck to you and take care. Adolescence is a bumpy road! I should know... ; )
2006-11-12 09:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i must say u sound like u have a good head on your shoulders and u are thinking right.15 is to young to have sex. you have to sit him down and let him know that u are not ready and if he puts up a fight or says if u love him u will do it DONT fall for that u are a young lady who has a lot of life left so that means if he can not respect u for that then its time to let him go. u will find someone that will wait until your ready .Hes not the only fish in the sea. GOOD LUCK.
2006-11-12 08:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by srwilliams35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 15, too. I do go a Public HS, and I have been taught no. That doesn't mean they get it into their heads. A lot of boys do it to show off. If he's pushing you to have sex, then why is he still your boyfriend?
I commend you for taking a stand and saying no. I would NEVER have sex in HS. It will change the way you, and everyone else thinks of you!
I would suggest think breaking up with him.
2006-11-12 06:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by countrygurl587 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 15 you are too young to have sex. At 16 a boys hormones go wild, and wants sex from any girl. It doesnt matter if its you, or someone else. Do not let him influence you in any way. You and your boyfriend need to understand the consequences of your actions. Neither of you are ready for that kind of committment. Ask yourself this question. What would my Father say? I think that would be your answer.
2006-11-12 04:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by ob10830 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sound as though you are a very smart girl who knows her mind don't let this guy make you do anything you don't want. If he loves you he will understand your need to wait. If he doesn't than it just proves that all he wants is sex and is not interested in you.And your right 15 is young.Stay strong most girls your age give it away too easy and up regretting it in the long run. Good luck!
2006-11-12 06:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very smart and I am so happy you feel that way! Sex really is a big thing and you should wait until you are ready. If he won't wait there are plenty of boys out there who will. This makes me smile. I waited until I was 19 and I would have waited longer but I was dumb and I got drunk and I was taken advantage of. I have a 14 year old daughter from that first time and I wasn't ready to be a mom yet.
Just be you and follow your instincts. You are RIGHT.
2006-11-12 05:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by beanietara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns. Sex is one of those things you don't want to play around with until YOU are ready. It doesn't matter what your partner wants, especially when you're still a teenager and in school, as what you feel comfortable with. The other thing to consider is that if you do give in, are you prepared to deal with the consequences? Are you will to go out and buy condoms? Are you ready to go get checked for STDs? Are you ready to deal with the possiblity of getting pregnant? Don't let your boyfriend pressure you - you'll end up regretting it. If he really cares about you, he should be understanding and respect your decision to want to wait. If he continues to put pressure on you, then I'd suggest breaking up with him because there's obviously only one thing he wants.
Good luck!
2006-11-12 04:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a man who has now taken the journey through life and as a man who at one time was just like your boyfriend. We all wanted to have sex with every girl we went out with at the age of 16, it's a man thing....putting a notch on our belt, so to speak.
My advice as a grandfather, a father, and a person who many years ago was thinking just like your boyfriend, don't do it for him. You'll know when the time is right and hopefully it will be many, many years from now when that times comes. Enjoy your young life now and don't do something a few years from now, long after the boyfriend has left that you'll look back on and regret.
2006-11-12 04:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by justanopinion_03 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you don't wanna have sex and he does. tell him "NO!! I ain't gonna do it, if you gotta problem with that then just leave" because no man who truly love you and understand you. After you said no the first time would keep asking for more. Stand your ground. Dump him if you need too. There is more fishes in the sea. You only 15 you got your whole life ahead of you. SEX can wait.
2006-11-12 05:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if hes presuring u into having sex and u dont want- then dont. its ur body, not his. if he wasnt 2 have sex he will just have 2 find another girl that wantsa 2. i am completely against sex before marrige, and i think ppl should accept that. what they do w/ their bodies is their choice, and im not gonna judge them. and they shouldnt judge those ppl who want 2 wait till they are older or married.
good luck, and i hope u make the choice u have taught 2 be right. if i were u, id go w/ what i know and have been taught- not what everyone else is doing. dont be a follower- be a leader!
2006-11-12 05:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by clueless 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋