Ok.. I'm 13.. And well as a a person I am usually weird and crazy, I don't care what people think.. But lately I'm not sure who I am.. you see I liked this guy (who I am now going out w/) and I knew the type of music he liked so I started to listen to it and say i liked it.. and now I do like it.. i think.. my friends listen to it too.. and I guess i do like it.. but i'm not sure..and there are other things like that that i have changed and started liking and not just for a guy... and i'm not as crazy lately.. or at times i'm tryin to be myself and i get so crazy i'm annoying.. i just don't get what's happening.. i don't really know who i am.. so what do i do?? and what is happening to me?? i'm just so confused!
2006-11-12 04:36:28 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh ya.. i'm also very intelligent in school.. but i seem to be slacking off.. i still get good grades but i don't find myself tryin as hard.. also i'm a tidy person but lately i just don't feel like picking anything up or puttin anything away
2006-11-12 04:49:20 · update #1
Do you have a mom, or dad you can confide in?They could really help you understand these issues.
But, if you can't talk to your parents, then as a parent of 4 myself, I will try to help you.
At your age, acting weird, crazy. and annoying is perfectly normal. Not knowing who you are is perfectily normal. Not knowing what is happening to you is perfectly normal and being confused is perfectly normal. So, "You Are Normal."
Now, how do you not feel upset with these feelings? Here is my answer. Just live your life to it's fullest. Take every day and make or do something good with it. Be a friend to someone who needs a friend. Be good to your parents. Say a kind word to your teachers...even ones you don't like. Find a really good book and read it. Discuss it with a friend. Do the best you can in school and always do your homework. Study for your tests and see if you can get a 100. I can see from your writing that you are intelligent. A 100 should be a piece of cake for you. Get as many 100's as you can and you will make the honor roll. That will make you feel great about yourself, and life.
Thanksgiving is coming up. Get a cookbook out and find an interesting recipe and plan to make it to go along with the other dishes that will be served. You will feel great about youself when everyone compliments you on what a delicious (fill in the blank) you made. They will all say "You made this yourself?" "Good job!" You will love it.
Find ways to involve yourself in something productive. Try not to sit around thinking about everything. Just 'do' something. When you do, you will quickly find that you fit right in and that you are just as good, cool, smart, happy as anyone else. You will gain confidence in your abilities and you will start to find out who you really are.
Sitting around, doing nothing but worrying about this will only keep you in a state of confusion.
Activity will give you a happy heart. You will start smiling again and you will feel you have a purpose on this earth. So, work, play, help, live your life. You won't regret it. You deserve it, so go after your dreams and don't stop till you get them.
Oh, and btw. "you be you." Don't follow, "lead."
2006-11-12 05:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by gailfrances 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you are going through what we all went through and we all felt just like you do now, so no worries. :) It's called puberty and as a woman, you'll go through more changes.
The first link gives you the scientific information regarding puberty, including the hormone levels and the physical aspects. The second link provides information for you as a teenager:
Just as those hormones create changes in the way your body looks on the outside, they also create changes on the inside. While your body is adjusting to all the new hormones, so is your mind. During puberty, you might feel confused or have strong emotions that you've never experienced before. You may feel anxious about how your changing body looks.
You might feel overly sensitive or become easily upset. Some teens lose their tempers more than usual and get angry at their friends or families.
Sometimes it can be difficult to deal with all of these new emotions. Usually people aren't trying to hurt your feelings or upset you on purpose. It might not be your family or friends making you angry — it might be your new "puberty brain" trying to adjust. And while the adjustment can feel difficult in the beginning, it will gradually become easier.
If you have someone that you can talk to (your mom or someone close that you trust), this will probably help ease some of your anxiety.
2006-11-12 13:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay stop, breath, be calm. If your friends like something why does that mean you should too? If this guy likes you then he will like you for being you. If you don't know what that is just know then just stop for a moment. Turn off all distractions, including the music he likes that you are probably listening to right now on your computer and sort of meditate. Think, who are you, just you, forgetting all lables you are given, all other things which you are known by, and look into yourself, your own soul. See who you really are and what you want to become.
Life can be tricky as you grow up, you change from being one person as a child to another as an adult, its the transision thats difficult, you kinda lose your place on the map for a while. Just try not to get totaly lost and stear your life along the straight path, may God guide you.
2006-11-12 12:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by midgetryley 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are young. You are supposed to be confused. It is really okay.
Hormones can play a major role in you at this stage in your life. Learn to laugh them off and never ever let them get the best of you. You will grow out of this puberty thing and if you keep a good head on your shoulders while going trough it you will come out of it a lot better.
Don't let the boy's get you down. You have a lifetime ahead of you. Do your best in school and do something for yourself.
2006-11-12 12:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't worry. there are many things in life you haven't experienced that you will begin to enjoy. there are more styles of music than they play on the radio.
that "crazy" is you discovering who you will become as an adult.
2006-11-12 12:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by peel_n_out 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Melani, you are maturing, you are going to be going through a lot of changes, over the years. Your hormones are starting to kick in. Melani, it is all about growing up! Welcome!
2006-11-12 12:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋