Before now, these things were viewed as bad and immoral, but is has become rampant and a greater percentage of people are beginning to accept it. This means that values have deteroriated over the years. What is your personal opinion regarding premarital sex?
2006-11-12 04:10:43 · 12 answers · asked by Victor A 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I think that it's time to realize that our babies ARE having sex and could have babies themselves. Instead of denying it, we need to accept and move on from there.
I had premaritial sex with my husband when I was 20. I had a baby before marriage. You know what the worst part was? My church shunned me.
I should mention that I was against premaritial sex until then. I didn't even kiss a guy until I was 17. I was a prude! I'll even admit it. Now that I've grown older, I'm not upset that I lost my virginity at 20.
I think at this point it's not about reinstalling value in the teens. It's about realizing that they are having sex and saying, "okay. If you have sex then you need to be safe." I would rather have my children learn about STDs, condoms and birth control and come to ME to ask for birth control then to hear a few months later that I'm going to be a grandmother or hear that my child has AIDS.
2006-11-12 04:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The question has an inherent bias. What if the rise, or perceived rise, of premarital sex wasn't a deterioration of values, but rather an improvement in how we view sexuality?
There's this perception that sex is somehow immoral, but it is a part of who we naturally are. Individuals aren't always sexually compatible, and the only way to find out if you are sexually compatible with the person you love is to practice safe sex. How horrible would it be to find out that the person you married is not sexually compatible with you? Talk about a tension filled marriage!
Also, I don't believe that there's been an increase in the number of people having premarital sex. I believe more people are talking about it.
Teens are going to have sex. The best thing we can do is help them make smart decisions rather than denying that it's going to happen.
2006-11-12 04:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What cave did you come out of? Premarital sex has been around since people. Only religious fanatics think it immoral and bad. The values haven't changed, only the realization that it's part of being human and if you ignore it, only mistakes will be made. Information about issues is always better than isolation from them. My personal opinion... Would you buy a car before taking a test drive?
2016-05-22 07:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, teenage pregnancy is down from its all-time 1950s high, but yes, teen sex seems to be a more culturally accepted norm. But is it better to pretend it doesn't happen (a la 1950s) or deal with it honestly?
In most societies, age of adulthood coincided with age of ability to procreate. Bar mitzvahs and other traditions now associated with teens were meant for adults.
In the past 100-150 years, we have created a society where teens don't count - their voices are easily dismissed, they are legally in the same classification as toddlers - one response here even calls them "babies." In the past 60 years, we have developed a automobile-centric society where teens are more and more reliant on "adults" to transport them to take part in social events. The 'burbs are generally riendly (or even community-friendly) places.
The only 'society' of their own becomes the rigid, often cliquish faux-reality of the schools.
Their bodies are giving them mixed messages, they feel the ability to participate but are denied the full opportunities. Their world is controlled, controlled, controlled.
And we wonder why teens feel alienated? Why they don't follow well-intentioned "adult" advice?
When you say, "This means that values have deteroriated over the years," you are partially correct, in so much as control is a "value."
While a governing party (parent) has control, they are responsible for their charge (child). Sooner or later, control is going to ebb - part of their responsibility is getting their charges ready for self-governance; this can be done in stages.
But parents who coddle their children all the way through college years are not preparing their charges for self-governing; they are relinquishing control without transferring responsibilties. They protect Junior from the realities of life, and intentionally or not leave them high and dry after it's too late.
And that is the truly immoral part of the equasion.
2006-11-12 04:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its immoral, but I do think that there should be more done to stop it at such young ages. I think so many of them arent wise enough to truly understand what they are getting into and just do it because tv and movies encourage it. It probably hinders the psychological growth of the adolescent - it doesnt allow them to just grow up and be kids and develop the teenage part before moving on to adult situations. Plus I think a lot of them end up regretting it anyways once they are older.
2006-11-12 04:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by radiancia 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with SnowBunny. When I was in high school back in the 50's i was in a class of 40 & 2 of the students droped out because they had babies. 3 got married a week after they got out of school. Its been going on for a coons ageThier just more open about it now.
2006-11-13 07:28:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hay Victor,
Unfortunatly our thoughts had been changed.Now bad is not bad.We r wraping bad in a colorful sheet.Premarital sex in all respects is not suitable.It creates many problems.Lets tell me what will be new after your marriage.You have already taste it.So plz avoid.
2006-11-12 04:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by alphazee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh absolutely. i fully believe that a couple must purchase a permit from the state before engaging in sex. not.
what i do think is that there should be a test, of knowledge of course, and of competancy, and intellectual and emotional maturity.
oh, and one other thing. if you think you're old enough to have sex, then you're old enough to get a job and start supporting yourself (and any children that might ensue).
2006-11-12 04:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think we, or our kids invented it. Much ado is right, we're creating a problem out of something thats been around for centuries.
2006-11-12 04:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by SnowBunny 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Teenager preg stats are down !! It has always existed, it is just talked about openly now.
2006-11-12 04:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by DEADGONE 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋