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I really want to know what you would do. I'm a senior in high school and I want to hang out with a group of people that I kind of have wanted to hang out with for quite a few years. They seem to like me and I feel like for the first time I really have a shot at it. But I feel kind of guilty and I don't know if I should. I've always felt obligated to people. I have anohter friend who I like but we don't really get to talk to much at lunchtime because she talks to her other friends mostly, (who I get along with but I'm not really acquainted, I like everybody) and sometimes she's not there she's sitting with her bf. But we like to talk on IM. Half the time I'm not at lunch anyway because of meetings and she doesn't care and one time I told her I had to sit with someone else to work on a project and she didn't care and was surprised I thought I had to ask her if I could sit somewhere else. Still I feel guilty, and I feel guilty about everything. And I don't know what you would do? Thank

The thing is she already has a group of friends. I honestly don't think she would go with me, not because she doesn't like them or anything but because we have different interests. That 's kind of why I feel like it makes more sense for me to hang out with the other group more and her to hang out with her other group more. I honestly don't think that she would mind. But I just don't know if that's a schmucky thing for me to do. I'm, not there half the time and she doesn't seem to care. In my mind I have this vision of it all working out but I don't know if I 'm just fooling myself. I feel guilty and I don;t want to complain but I'm just getting sick of feeling obligated to people all the time

Answer 1

NO, BE FRIENDS WITH EVERYBODY TAKE TURNS SPENDING TIME WITH THEM ALL! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

You are over-thinking this too much, like a teenager usually does. I don't understand why you feel guilty about hanging out with a group of people. I remember being insecure about the decisions that I was faced with and what I can tell you is what I have learned, do what you feel is right in your heart. Each situation you have experienced has brought you to where you are today, and each decision you make will bring you into situations that will mold who you will become. With that little tid bit aside, do what you feel most comfortable doing. Don't worry so much about what they are thinking because it really doesn't matter all that much. What matters is what you are thinking.

Answer 3

I know you hear this a lot in high school. But just be yourself. I wish I'd followed that advice when I was in school.

Here's the deal, if these people are good people, then be friends with them. Invite your other friend to join in. Or invite them to join you with your other friend. If they don't want to, or don't want to be seen with your friend (or vice versa) then they are no good. If they are real friends they will accept you and your other friends.

I know it seems like a big deal, but I can tell you that in the long run, you will wish you had done the right thing here. In a few years popularity will mean nothing, but the people you hurt will always remember.

Hope this helps!

Answer 4

ah friends n friendship
i myself were somtime friendship crazed but now seein u can never find someone sincere and caring and true i gave up
now i just be nice to all d class n all my friends(old) and thats the only thing we can do whan no1 wants to be loyall n nice
people n this world is sooo hateful n uncarin abt others ffeeeilllingssss

Answer 5

talk to her more on IM and tell her sorry