Though my prob is not difernt than wht many hav,I stil need ur sugestion.
Thers this gal who is a very good friend of mine&we hav been friends for somtim now&we r very close to each other&share every bit of each other.Nw I realize that I hav kinda crush on her or may be love.I hav absolutely no prob in sayin her about my feelings&there r chances that she may also accept my proposal.I also wana marry her if she accepts.
But I wana do higher studies.Both of us r only 21&have no hurry of marriage,but in a country lik India wher marriages of daughters r performed as soon as they reach their early 20s,I am not sure hw long her parents or she gonna wait for me&as I have calculated completin my studles&settlin down wil tak the nxt 6yrs,so thats around 2012.
Is it posible that I complet my studies& setle down in life&also get my gal too.I cant explain all my feelins in words but I hope u can understand what I wana say&what I wana convey to u.
Please suggest me something ethical.
2006-11-12 03:38:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The old saying goes, "When in Rome , do as the Romans" If you are in a culture, that is t is demanding marriage at a certain age and you really think you will lose her because of it, you better walk the chalk and get married. You can have her too and still have your career., unless the custom there specifies, you have to support her financially and she isn't supposed to work. If she feels the same way about you, the two of you can make it work somehow. Otherwise see if you can become an exchange student and bring her to the United States, so you can choose to do what you want.
2006-11-12 03:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by ptt_pntr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years are really too many years to wait for anyone, especially in Indian society. You will need to discuss this with your gf before anyone can comment on this. Only if she loves you with equal passion and devotion, she will have to make up a career of her own. Any wavering and it will be difficult to make past the age 24 or 25.
2006-11-12 23:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 17:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a saying...u need to give in to get something....always...so i would suggest...u have to be planning...Ur career such a way that after u finish Ur graduation...u can get a job marry her...and then along do all Ur further studies...
or else make ur parents go and talk to hers....
come on u have not even proposed to her...that's a long way to go.....
what does the girl do...she too can work...when u are doing Ur higher studies..if only she agrees to...and now-a-day..all girls first wants to be independent...and i think..let things flow normal...u speak to her and things will sort out of its own....
2006-11-15 07:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first,express ur love.if she accepts..go to her parents.b4 u go to her parents tell her what u ve in store for ur future...if she is still willing to wait for u to settled down talk to her parents and get enagaged...like the formal engagement we indians do b4 wedding...then move on for ur career.if she is equally career oriented u can support her and help her achieve her goals...so that both of u can get settled and the get married...it totally depends on what ur friend(crush/love) thinks abt this.take life as it comes....if ur love is true and if u were meant to be together no matter what u ll get married...so stop worrying....give it a try...talk to her with confidence....do take ur's and her's parents advice before deciding on ur wedding after her approval coz according to u, u cant marry her for 6 years from now which is quite long...all the best...
2006-11-12 08:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can talk it over with the parents and the girl about your plans and if they agree, be engaged first. The engagement announced , so that everyone will know your girl is spoken for. Or you can get married (agree to have kids later) and continue with your studies. Take your pick.
2006-11-12 04:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey,
first of all the really admire ur maturity of thinking...hmmm...
whatever thoughts u have are really practical and i guess discussing it clearly with ur girl will solve most of it...
i had a similar sitn 5 yrs back...we were in love but our career was imp too...and it was very difficult to make it work ot to think it would work...but we did it...we survived even 2 yrs of long distance relationship...and now we are happily married since 1 1/2 yrs...patience ,deication...communication pays...
good luck...
and as far as ur 2012 thoery concerned...i guess u can always work things out...both have to make compromises and sacrifices...and it can work...may be earlier....
good luck again
2006-11-12 07:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by crazyabs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont count your chickens before they hatch is a very famous saying and I am forced to remind you of it as that is exactly your problem. you think that if you propose to that girl she will asccept but isnt there a chance of her saying no also? before even bothering to find out about her feelings you are worried about your future? wake up dude! brush your teeth extra hard, have a perfumed bath, dress up to kill, and then go out and propose her first!
tell her your feelings and first find out what she thainks about it. if she too likes you and says so then tell her about your plans of career and marriage. ask her what she wants to do in her life, and her opinion in marriage. just remember that you cant proceed to step 2 before clearing step 1.
also dont be so over confident. be prepared that she might also say no.
2006-11-12 17:35:33 · answer #8 · answered by urfriendfrlife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its Just friendship it cannot be a love because noone can move from the top to down and noone like to go like that so it willbe only friendly friendship.
2006-11-12 04:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by Ramasubramanian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are indian follow your customs. Are you indian and in america. I say finish school unless you both are carreer oriented. If that is the case then marry her.
2006-11-12 03:43:28 · answer #10 · answered by kim j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋