Highly Confused - about her and my career?

Question

Though my prob is not difernt than wht many hav,I stil need ur sugestion.
Thers this gal who is a very good friend of mine&we hav been friends for somtim now&we r very close to each other&share every bit of each other.Nw I realize that I hav kinda crush on her or may be love.I hav absolutely no prob in sayin her about my feelings&there r chances that she may also accept my proposal.I also wana marry her if she accepts.
But I wana do higher studies.Both of us r only 21&have no hurry of marriage,but in a country lik India wher marriages of daughters r performed as soon as they reach their early 20s,I am not sure hw long her parents or she gonna wait for me&as I have calculated completin my studles&settlin down wil tak the nxt 6yrs,so thats around 2012.
Is it posible that I complet my studies& setle down in life&also get my gal too.I cant explain all my feelins in words but I hope u can understand what I wana say&what I wana convey to u.
Please suggest me something ethical.

Answer 1

Seems like you really love this girl. Well a lot of people get married and talk about working and going to school at the same time, but you have to remember that if you do that, you have to have time for her too because what's the whole point of getting married with her if your not going to give her attention. If your planning in going to school first, why not go to school for 2-3 years first then get married and you could finish your carreer too. You should talk to her first about your feeling and tell her you really do love her and you want to marry her, but also tell her you want to finish your carreer to give her and you a better life. Talk with her you'd be surprised what she may tell you. Good luck. Hey if it helps. I've been married for a little over a year and my husband is so good with me that he lets me work and go to school at the same time because it makes me happy. I still have four more years to go and he helps me out a lot that make me appreciate my husband, but then I do help him a lot too in anything. So hope every thing goes great.

Answer 2

I'm sorry I don't know much about India or their culture- I'm in USA. But I see in this question that you are really struggling to keep the lady you love AND offer the best for your future together by completing your studies.

This shows you to be a man of honor who is thoughtful and responsible. This type of man would impress her family, especially her father, who would admire your committment to his daughter AND to your education.

Is it possible in your country for you to speak to her family directly about your love for the woman and the time it will take to complete school? Her father may agree to give you her hand in marriage AND wait until you finish your studies.

I wish you the best.

Answer 3

it is sad that there still countries that practice arrange marriages.but you can marry her if thats what you want.and you can also go to school,but you also need to make sure you have a job to support your studies and your wife.i dont know how it is in india,but in usa,the woman can work and help her husband with the expenses.and then if children come,you just need to make sure you have a job that pays good enough to care for your studies,your wife and children when they come.

Answer 4

you at the instant are not good in learn, you say. think of heavily and record down your strengths - what you think of you're good in. Ask your mothers and fathers to do the same exercising independently, so additionally ask your acquaintances who understand you nicely and function your interest in ideas. Thereafter, evaluate the lists and decrease the products to 3 or 4. this might provide you a concept of what you're able to do. talk your looking with mothers and fathers and acquaintances. to illustrate, while you're good in coping with human beings, you're able to do public kin or social sciences or HRD or journey administration. that is in basic terms a initiate. by the variety, I recommend you are attempting writing perfect words (not SMS language) - this might furnish help to once you persist with for courses or perhaps on your examination papers. Please reserve SMS for what that is meant - SMS.

Answer 5

get your ed out of the way this is between you an her noy her parents come back to usa an bring her here 21 you make the decsion

Answer 6

What does she think about it? I don't see why u can't do both. Lots of times working as a team works better then being alone.Talk to her and see what she thinks about it. Good luck and congrats.

Answer 7

There are people out there that are married and still go to school.

Answer 8

lots of people are married and go to school...but I'd check on her.. she may be promised already to someone else