I need advice - my fiancee has really hurt me emotionally - w e have argued for 4 days this week - today resulting in me leaving
What do I do?? DO I try to resolve it or Just walk away??
I still love him
No horrible answers please - Best gets the points
2006-11-12 03:25:57 · 19 answers · asked by schmushe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask yourself, Is it fixable, and is the argument a deal breaker...
If the answer is it is fixable, and the argument is not a deal breaker, cool off, then sit down and talk.
If it is fixable, but, the argument is a deal breaker, then cool down, and take time to rethink your commitment,
You might have been given a chance to see a future argument that would cause divorce.
EITHER way, do not make a decision mad.
2006-11-12 03:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it can be resolved then next time you two get into an arguement, don't walk away from it. Stay put cause that will only leave you more agry and how can you resolve an arguement if you keep walking away like that? Through many arguements, an apology comes out whether it's from you or him. When arguing, don't get ugly cause that would only bring the two of you pain. Best of luck.
2006-11-12 04:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by youngpoet_33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are really stressed out about the marriage, which is totally normal for both you and him. Even if the argument wasn't about the wedding. Men are TERRIFIED of commitment, no matter what they say. He is probably broken hearted too. Look inside and see if these arguments are patterns...do they happen all the time or only recently/not often. If so, go back and apologize...and put it behind you. I know you feel you are right (because you left) but in the long run, this kind of stuff really doesn't matter. Good luck.
2006-11-12 04:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by Honeypai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him tomorrow. Tell him that you both need some space for awhile to let things cool off. Give it about a week and if he doesn't call you then you call him. If he doesn't want to come to the phone or talk then don't call him again. Let him make the next move. If you mean anything to him he will call. If he doesn't call don't call him. Just get on with your life. But I'll bet if he does call it won't be for quite sometime when he is lonely and you have started dating other people again. By then you will know what you want to do.
2006-11-12 03:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by marlene g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well !! my advice would be to ignore him !! Better to ask him ,what he wants and if he said he wants you ,then you have to move away from him ,If he follows after that,you better seek your family members help .Because you are only 13 and you are supposed to concentrate on studies and sports,or any extra activities. You have to start building your foundation ,for your future ,at this age.Sorry if you don't like advices !!!
2016-05-22 07:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would need to know what way he hurt you. I'll just go by personal experience. My husband had an affair with his bosses wife when we were engaged. I chose to marry him anyway. It's been a long hard road. I wouldnt wish it on anybody. Good luck.
2006-11-12 05:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by denise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,i need to know how he has hurt your feelings sounds sort of asimple arguement so share ypur feelings whith him do not fuss or yell tell him that he has hurt you an let him know how an i think true love will over come
2006-11-12 03:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by bigdogrex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats hard maybe try to meet for like coffee and talk it out but if you are moving out before you are married i wouldnt advise getting married to soon plus what were the fights about and if you still love him follow your heart and try to resolve it as soon as you read mine stop waiting for more answers and call him up honny he is probably worried sick and waiting by the phone
2006-11-12 03:29:48 · answer #8 · answered by Nightchild 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to resolve it. If you still love him, it's worth it to try no matter what happens. I'm sure he still loves you too. Hope you guys can work it out.
2006-11-12 03:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by Rei-chan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what the fight was over maybe you just over reacted but if this isnt the first time that he has hurt you badly than that is emotional abuse and walk away prince charming will come in time.
2006-11-12 03:35:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋