my boyfriend is so cheap. he never wants to go out because he says that we can save our money.?

Question

Well, we both work and I am the type that loves to go out and have fun. but he likes to save and buy or rent movies and watch them at home. I don't know how to explain to him how good it is for our relationship to get out and enjoy us!

Answer 1

I can understand both of your points of view... both my husband and I go through moods that we'll just want to go out.....and other times we just want to stay in, and compromises need to be made.

Maybe he just likes the relaxed environment of your place...he works hard and just wants to come home and relax and spend time with you, at home where he's comfortable.

If he has days off of work together (like a tuesday and wednesday, or the weekend) let him know you'll give him the first day to do whatever he wants, relax, enjoy not being at work...but the second day is yours to "reward yourselves" for working so hard, and to get out and do new things. Or take the first day, and give him the second day "off." Whatever works.

Let him know that you are proud of him for trying to improve the financial aspect of your world, but you'd like to just go out and enjoy each other's company in a different environment.

I fell in love with my husband all over again when he "made" me go out for the night... Nothing out of the ordinary for us, a little shopping in the city, the movies, and then out to dinner and home again...but it was so special and I don't know why!

Coax him out to the movies. Is there one that he wants to see that's just in the theaters right now? Maybe something he'd be interested in seeing? Take it how you can get it....it may not be something you're interested in, but it gets him out with you. Then mention you're hungry, and would love to go to (???????? Applebees, or whatever...doesn't have to be expensive, just something a little more "meaningful" than the dollar menu at the nearest Jack in the Box)

Hell, like loreal says, "You're worth it!"

Not to start a fight here, but it could work to use that line almost exactly...."Don't you think I'm worth the $50 we'll spend tonight?!"

Answer 2

If he is having a particularly difficult financial time, bear with him.
If he is just a penny-pincher and can afford to go out, try working it both ways. Stay in sometimes. He obviously likes that. At other times, agree on something fun to do outside the house that won't break the bank. You can both get what you want.
Don't be shallow,though. He may have some expensive goals that he's working on.

Answer 3

The key word is boy friend. If he will not do the things you like now then it may be time to move on. This is why you date.