my 14 month old son is behaving really nasty towards me and only me i love him to bits and dont understand my?

Question

head is going to explode i dont no what to do i am a brillent mom why dosent he love me i dont no if it is because i am depressed and only being silly but his temper is horrible he hits me and i no he is only a baby but i really dont no what to do please help

Answer 1

This is normal behaviour for children this age... dont think you have done something wrong, nor think you must resort to spanking/hitting to 'fix' the problem of him being a bit nasty sometimes. He certainly isnt always like this right, just when he hasnt gotten his own way?

I agree with the last few comments saying to tell him firmly, 'No, we dont do that' and perhaps hold his hands to restrain him from hitting you when he gets into a temper. I've been doing that with my 12mth old, as she too is getting a bit fiesty nowadays. She just started the 'backbend of rebellion' as a friend of mine has called it before, where she arched her back and threw her head back as a way to let me know she was upset. Ended up smacking her little head against the floor as I wasnt expecting it. Hope those days are few, it's hard to see. This is a stage though and hopefully with consistency your baby will stop acting out. They know what they want more and more, but cant yet express themselves. They are learning other ways to communicate besides just tears and crying, a completely natural process. Keep your thoughts positive!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

hmmmmm.....14 month old may be picking up on the depression why don't you get grandma and grandpa to keep the little tyke for a couple of days for you because first and foremost you need a couple of days to yourself for relaxation and maybe you can figure out why you are depressed....he will eventually quit hitting just tell him "No" firmly and sooner or later he will get the point unfortunately you have a long road ahead with this type of stuff and one day when you look back it won't seem as important. also he may not be hitting you out of anger he may just think thats the proper form of play.....don't ever take that as he doesn't love you and don't think of yourself as silly...if all else fails you could have him checked by a pediatrician to be sure nothing is going on with him and a good pediatrician will also give you good tips on how to handle this type of situation properly.....goodluck and like I said pack him up and send him to the grandparents for a few days so you can collect yourself then regroup and be mommy again, just don't call up every 5 mins asking how he is chances are since they raised you all of your life they can take care of him properly and if they have questions they will call.....not trying to sound cruel just trying to help you out

Answer 4

You have nothing to worry about! Such an early age is impossible for him to judge you or hate you. This kid is at the age where he would shake Saddam Hussain's hand and share a taxi with Adolf hitler. He may ignore or be nasty to George Bush but that is obvious!

I have a daughter the exact age and she looks at me sometimes as if I have sh*t my trousers! There are other days when she can't stop laughing at me.

Just enjoy being a parent. Things could happen which WILL get you worried so enjoy it while there is nothing to worry about at this present time.

Richard

Answer 5

One thing is for sure with children...you don't have to teach them to be mean, they are born that way, but you do have to teach them to be nice. But for you to become the best Mom that you can be, your going to have to handle your depression first. Go to your doctor and get on some meds until the chemicles in your brain are back at their right levels. In the meantime, don't let your baby hit you. If he hits you, you take the hand he hit you with and tell him "No No!!" In a very firm, but not screaming like a crazy person, voice. What ever toys he is playing with at the time he hits you, you need to pick them up and not let him play with those, or any toys, for 2 minutes. Then when you go to give the toys back, you say "If you hit Momma, I am taking the toy away again". He is going to have to learn and we all learn through repetative behavior. Be consistant with your choice of correction and it won't be long and he won't be hitting you anymore.

Answer 6

You think he's acting "nasty" towards you because he's too young to know better. It's your job as a parent to teach him how to behave. If he hits you again put your hand on top of his and tap your hand while saying no. If you consistantly say no when he hits you he will learn (eventually) that it's unacceptable behaviour. Good luck.

Answer 7

my daughter is also 14 months. He's probably testing his limits like my daughter, Right now shes screaming back at us after we say no the first time. SHe is also hitting herself and throwing a tantrum when we pull her away from things. I know from working with my autistic children. IF he KNOWS its bugging you when he hits you. He's going to continue to do it.

I know its hard especially I got poked in the eye from my client this week. BUT you have to tuff it out. DONT SHOW EMOTION. and redirect him. I've started telling my daughter "hands down" or "gentle hands" when she goes to hit herself, others or even my moms 14 year old dog.

Hope it helps

Answer 8

He hits because he doesn't have the words he needs to communicate how he feels or what he wants, etc. yet. This is the main reason little kids hit or bite.....as an attempt to communicate.

When he gets upset, name his emotions for him. "That made you angry!" Or "I see you're getting frustrated" or "You didn't like that." Etc.

If he goes to hit you, restrain him. Tell him firmly, "No hitting."

Answer 9

for a brilliant mom your spelling is TERRIBLE

you need to get professional help for your son
I knew a kid who behaved this way and it was becuase he had hearing problems
if he hits you or behaves bad simply WALK AWAY.. he will learn that this behavior is unacceptable and ends any play time.. dont yell dont do anything.. say "NO" and immediately walk away - dont come back until he settles down - leave the room.. or pick up un and put him in another room and dont get him until he settles


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to be fair my spelling sucks too.. and my handwritting is terrible....

Answer 10

well if he hits u make sure u discipline him.. or he'll keep treating u like ****... which if u let him do, then u deserve.. sorry to say...
he is young and might not understand what he is doing.. try to make it clear to him that thats not right behavior to u by being stern with him... yeah hes young but they learn young that they can manipulate.. dont let him think that he can get to u.. and seriously be mad at him when he acts that way.. maybe he'll learn that what comes around goes around.. at this age, its when they learn actions and consequences.. they learn which parent they can get away with what from... and its hard to believe but its true.. definately dont let him think he can be mean to u... and if nothing works... ask his pediatrician see if maybe something is wrong