Im almost 15 and i lve with my dad and brothers .....ive been sexually active for a while and i use protection and yet im for sure prgnant i have taken 3 pregnancy tests!!!1 How do i tell my dad? wat do i do i dont know how to raise a kid!
2006-11-12 03:05:00 · 23 answers · asked by [XoX]Brittany[XoX] 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You have to sit him down. And tell him to please not judge you, but you are pregnant. Your dad and your brothers love you, and they will help you. If you choose to raise the child, that will be hard, but I'm sure your family will help you. If you choose adoption, they will help you with that. Make the choice with your family.
Good luck
2006-11-12 03:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that this is bad news for you. Take solace in the fact, though, that you're not the only teenager who's had to deal with this.
You have a lot of choices to make. I hope that you make the right ones. Understand that this is going to be a time of growing up for you, and that your life is never going to be the same again, no matter what you decide.
First and foremost, you need to make a list of your options, and pick one or two that are the most reasonable options to choose. You want to be able to give your father a list of options that you have decided so that he feels that he doesn't have to make "the decision" for you. Only tell your father for right now, until you decide what you're going to do.
Your options are to have the baby and raise it (which I would not advise at your age). You have a lot of life ahead of you, and I know, personally, how much you miss by having a baby so young.
Adoption is a great option for you, in my opinion. Thousands of families are out there, right now, who desperately want a child that they can raise and love as their own. Knowing that you put your baby in a place of financial security and love will make you happy in the future, and will keep regrets at bay. You can even choose an open adoption, meaning that you can send pictures back and forth, and that the adoptive parents would let you see the baby from time to time. For someone in your situation, though, this is really the best option.
Then, of course, there is abortion. I am pro-life, myself, but it is an option available to you, and I'm not going to tell you not to do it. This is your pregnancy, your body, and your life, and abortion is a demon that you will have to face later. Many women who have one regret it for the rest of their lives. Also, on the flip side of that coin, some women don't feel that either of the first two options are something they can do, and they decide that abortion is the best method. Please think through the first options, though, before you decide to abort your baby. Just because the option is available to you doesn't mean that it should be the first choice.
I don't think that you should try to raise this baby, though. You're not even old enough to get a job, right now, and you won't be by the time the baby is born, either.
Look into adoption, hun. You'll feel better with knowing that you gave your baby a chance with life, and that your baby is being given the very best that you cannot give, now.
2006-11-12 11:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all Congratulations on being pregnant. Although this is scary for you, be asured that it is scary for most women no matter what their age when they first find out that they are pregnant.
Tell your Dad when he is at his most relaxed, and be prepared for him to be upset or angry, as this is a big thing and he may feel that he has failed you as a parent. This does not mean that he doesn't love you and that he won't try to help you. He may need some time to take the news in. So maybe be prepared to stay at a friend or other relative's house if he is likely to take it pretty badly at first.
If you are worried that he may take it badly, maybe try to have another adult there with you to support you. Or even have one or all of your brothers there with you for support.
You could tell him that he is going to be a grandfather a bit sooner than expected, and this might help to make him realise that it's not so much about you, but the child you are carrying.
Tell your dad that you have concerns as you don't feel that you know how to raise a kid and that with his love, guidance and support you feel that you would do this better than you would alone.
Good luck and congratulations, hope that it all goes well for you.
2006-11-12 11:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by Netto 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie... I am sorry to tell you and you are probably going to get a lot of this on here... but if you were not ready to take care of a child then you should not have had sex... OK... now that the parenting has come out... how do you tell your dad?? hhhhmmm... You need to talk to him and tell him just how you told it here... "Dad, we need to talk... I have taken 3 pregnancy test and I am pregnant." Be prepared for him to go off... no one wants to see their 15 year old daughter pregnant. Good Luck!
2006-11-12 11:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by Shaunna H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same thing happened to me; only I was 17! A kid is a huge responsibility but it's going to change your life-hopefully for the better, just tell your Dad, there will be Drama for a few days but it will pass. Ofcourse you don't know how to raise a kid, but it is something that will come to you as time goes by. Turn to family members or friends for help-it will be fine!!
2006-11-12 11:17:30 · answer #5 · answered by S V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go in to your dad and tell him you have something to talk to him about. Sit down and say, I haven't been to the doctor but I'm pretty sure I'm pregnant. Let him know that you know that you made a mistake and you want his help. Talk to him about your options. Discuss abortion, adoption, and raising you child. Weigh the pros and cons and make sure that he knows that you need his help now more than ever.
2006-11-12 11:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look im in the same boat im almost 16 i have been with this guy for a year and a half... i live with my dad and he would kill my boyfriend!!my mom lives in the same town as me.. but she always wanted me to at least graduate and of course i think im pg and i wouldnt no how to break the news... my cousin who is now 18 got pg when she was about my age and she kept her kid and that is her life.... just tell your dad of course he would be mad your his lil girl but you know what there's nothing u could do to stop it you already are so him freaking out wouldnt solve anything.. and i think he knows that.. as soon as he hears this news the first thing that is going to come to his head is how he's going to do what is the best for you and the baby it wont be as bad as you think.. its scary but just run and do it dont think about it and be strong!! good luck. if you do good then maybe when its my turn to break the news it wont be as bad...
2006-11-12 12:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound almost proud that you've been sexually active for awhile.....and you are only 14!!! Play with fire and get burnt. Do I feel sorry for you? No, you must now be responsible and grownup. Tell your dad. There is no beating around the bush. He is going to be MAD. Take it. Seriously consider adoption. I am against abortion, especially since it would be a form of birth control for you. I am unable to get pregnant and it really boils my blood when teens like you don't consider the consequences of sex. People like us become parents because of people like you. I am so very grateful for that. I have a beautiful son we adopted. PLEASE consider adoption. It is the best gift you can give your baby. You yourself admitted you don't know how to raise a baby. Do the responsible thing. Life is no longer about you, but about the baby.
2006-11-12 11:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by calebsmom 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
wow, so you are 14, pregnant and don't know how to raise a child. you obviously did not use protection, pregnancy happens with unprotected sex, i do not believe in accidents anymore, we live in an era where accidents can be avoided, what in the hell are you doing having sex at 13-14? you don't know how to raise a kid but you sure know how to spread your legs huh? same thing huh! it will come out the came it came in! you figure it out, your own mistake your own responsability, how do you tell your dad? there is ony one way, dad i am 14 years old and I AM PREGNANT, good luck!
2006-11-12 11:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well sweeitie... this is a chance you took every time you had sex. (although that doesn;t help now...) you do have options. technically (although i am against it) abortion is an option for you.... a better one would be to put the baby up for adoption, there are many many couples that are ready for a baby they just cant make one, and they would take really good care of it for you.
If you decide to keep it remeber that it is going to be very hard. You should apply for medicaid and wic... (medicaid- visit the department of children and families website for your state) (wic- visit your state's health department's website)
As for telling your dad, you just have to tell him.... calmly and hope that he handles it well. good luck and let me know what you decide to do.
2006-11-12 11:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by NewMommy!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋