If you're 15 and pregnant and don't want your mum to know can you get rid of it without telling her?

Answer 1

You can go and see your doctor or visit a family planning clinic... But be careful it may seem your only option at the moment.. I don't think its wise to not tell your mum perhaps tell your aunt if you can't tell you mum, as you will need support afterwards and if there are any complications you will need looking after.

This may be a difficult time for you but there is plenty of support out there. All the best.

Answer 2

I can't tell if this applies to you, or you are just asking the question theoretically (everyone else who's responded just seems to have assumed this is happening now).

Any patient is entitled to confidential medical treatment as long as they appear competent to make their own decisions, and this applies to young pregnant women under the age of 16.

Doctors will however encourage pregnant teenagers to confide in their parents. There are no easy options when an unwanted pregnancy occurs, and termination or pregnancy although very medically straightforward is, for some women, a stressful and emotional experience for which they will need support. I also, however, know women who feel happy with their decision and know that it was absolutely the right thing for them.

A lot of people who have responded to you have urged you to go for adoption or keep the baby. You, however, have to do what's right for YOU. Adoption is a very hard route. To bring that child all the way through pregnany and give it up can be very difficult, and the regrets, wonderings and emptional repercussions can haunt a woman just as much if not more than a termination (and can often haunt the child, too). Single, teenaged parenthood can also be incredibly hard - your education may have to go on hold, and it's demanding, exhausting work raising a child alone at any age - especially if the relationship with your parents isn't great.

If this is happening, counselling (non-judgemental counselling, that is, which is not hoping to persuade you towards one option or another) can help you sort out your feelings and weight up all the positives and negatives of the options.

Answer 3

Hi there.
My name is Julia i'm 27 years old and i'm a mom of 5 children My 1st was born when i was just 15 i actully got pregnant with him when i was 14 was the most terrifying time of my life but i coped and got through it no matter what you decide you have to do it for you NO ONE can tell you what to you your body and heart/mind will tell you what is right no one has the right to judge we all learn to live with things if there has been a lack of love in your family this could be why you have wanted a child i'm not sure what your family history is but i was from a broken background My son is almost 13years old and he's the light of my life!! i never knew what love felt like till i saw him even though it was a hard time i made the right choice and i know what ever you do that you will do the same!! good luck!!

Answer 4

First I have a question for you. What if your mom had aborted you? Well my answer to that question is you would not be here. Sadly you can get rid of your child with out telling your mother but she will find out eventually, and you have to live the rest of your life wondering what it would have been like if your child was still living, because in ten, five, probably even a year from now it won't even matter because you will love your child, and so will your mother just like she loves you. My husband and I are only twenty and twenty one and we are expecting our first child, and it is such a joy to know that we are the ones who have allowed this child to be born. My husband and I were virgins when we got married it was promise that we had made to one another so being sexually active at age fifteen I can't imagine, but you must reap the consequences that you sowed. It's not your baby's fault. I think you should tell your mother. If you don't' want to be a mother there are many out there who do but can't have kids. So adoption is another option.

Answer 5

I used protection and fell pregnant at the time an abortion seemed the only option I booked the clinic and then I bottled out you need to realise that baby needs you now like you need your mum my son is nearly 3 now and has never seen his dad and sometimes I wonder what my life would be like without him but no other person has brought me so much happiness i also had cervical cancer last year and now I cant have anymore children im just glad i got 1 b4 that happened I believe now thats why god give me him even if i didnt realise it then.

Answer 6

Yes.

I don't know about other countries, but in the UK:

+ make an appointment at your gp.
+ do a pregnancy test
+ get results, talk to doctor about your options
+ get a refferal to a "special clinic"
+ have some scans and tests done at the clinic.
+ wait for them to book you in,

Good luck.

Your Gp etc can NOT tell your mother anything you tell them. It's a patient/doctor confidentiality thing.

IOnlny do this if you are ceertain, this will impact your whole life and it's something you can't change.

I believe that it would be the best thing to dom as not many people could support and look after not only themselves, but a child too, at the age of 15, but you have to believe that it's the right thing, and you have to be doing it because you want to, not because you feel you should.


when you have it done, your gp/hospital will offer to refer you to counselling, I suggets you take them up on that offer. It will give you a chance to talk about thigns =)

Answer 7

I am a woman who is 27 and I am not able to concieve. I would take the baby. A baby is a life.

You may not realize it at 15, but you will leter in life. Talk to anyone who has over 25 and ever had an abotion, they all regret it.

You can die from it!! You could also be perminantly damaged so you can never have children. These are the things they don't tell you. And if they did not have to tell parents we would have teenagers getting pregnant all over theplace and killing babies!

This is so sad to me!

Answer 8

You are in a very scary situation, and it's good that you talked to someone.

First, don't do anything that could get you killed. Some people might offer to perform an abortion for you, and they may not be qualified. It IS best to seek professional help by looking for a local women's clinic. Also, your local laws may allow you to go to a doctor without your parent being notified. I'd say checking out Planned Parenthood or, if you aren't from the States, something similar in your country.

What happens if you go somewhere to have an abortion, and something goes wrong? Your mom is probably going to be pretty angry that you risked your health without telling her. She'd probably be more angry that you didn't tell her.

If you are scared of telling her in person, write her a letter and tell her exactly what's going on. But she really should know. You are very young, and your safety is likely her top concern.

Are there any other adults you can talk to if you feel you absolutely cannot go to your mom? Maybe a school counselor or an aunt?

Whatever you do, DO NOT have an abortion without talking to an adult that can help you. No medical operation or pill is 100% safe, and you could end up more sick afterwards.

Please be careful and talk to someone close to you or someone that can help you. Please don't be careless with your health and safety by going to someone that isn't qualified.

My best of luck to you, dear.

Answer 9

I was 17 when i got pregnant and now im 18 and have a healthy happy little boy. When you say " Getting rid of it "...people look at you as you can tell by some of the comments; and think wow, this girl is immature. You were mature enough to have sex, now be mature with your decisions. You have to grow up real fast. Its a wake up call. You have YOUR child inside of you. An innocent little baby with eyes, lips, ears, tiny fingers and toes, and you want to destroy it? I never thought to ever get rid of my baby as you say, i look at him now and think how people could ever do that to something that never did anything to you. Do the right thing and go for adoption. If you have a best friend talk to him/her's parents if you are close with them. Or another family member who you are close with. If you cant make the mature decision im sure they can help you. I was scared to tell my mom. She freaked out in the beginning but after i had the baby she absolutely loves him...and if you change your mind im sure your mom will support you and help you the best she can. Your not alone. Other 15 year old girls have gone through the same thing and have kept the baby. If they can do it, you can too.

Answer 10

i think you should tell your mum whether you are going to keep it or not at least then you will have some support and your relationship with your mum will not suffer, ask your mum in a hypothetical way what she would think if you were pregnant then you can break it to her more easily!
you definitely need some moral support whatever you do, if it turns out that you cant talk to your mum then talk to a teacher or adult that you can trust!!
p.s. ignore all the people saying "haven't you heard of contraception" mistakes happen whether it be a good mistake or a bad one!!

good luck in whatever you decide to do!