He feels compelled to gift us something. Is that normal for a child to involve themselves into an anniversary?
I told him it's not nessasary and that it's more of a private celebration for me and my husband. Do you think that was accurate to tell him?
2006-11-12 02:50:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did not mean to hurt him. I will ask him if I had.
2006-11-12 02:53:36 · update #1
He said it didn't bother him, he said it made sense since it's not a birthday. He's still figuring out what anniversaries mean.
2006-11-12 02:55:53 · update #2
That's sweet! I'd tell him that he need not give us anything at all because having him in our lives is blessing enough. True, it is a personal thing,and he should learn that he doesn't have to give people gifts for their anniversaries, but be sure to show him that you appreciate that he cares.
2006-11-12 02:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's so sweet! Tell him that it is very thoughtful of him, but you don't want him to buy anything, he could make something, like a card if he really wants to...or he could keep his room clean, or help with the dishes, or help his dad make you breakfast in bed...This gets me thinking, is he asking to get you something because he sees unhappiness between the two of you? And he thinks that getting you something will make things better...? Just a thought? Happy Anniversary! I don't think an anniversary has to be a private celebration...you are also celebrating the family you have become...during the day you could do something as a family, like go to the movies...then in the evening, the two of you spend time together without your son.
2006-11-12 11:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to be involved, can't you let him? Surely a celebration of his mum and dad's love is something special to him! I usually get my mum and dad a card for their anniversary, because its a day when I can celebrate the fact I have great parents with a strong happy marriage!
2006-11-12 10:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by guylian_chocolate_seashell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a point there that your celebration is a private one,"but" you know what maybe your anniversary will be happier if your son,you and your husband are together celebrating your anniversary.Hope this would help you.
2006-11-12 10:55:04 · answer #4 · answered by justin t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was most definitely not accurate. Your son loves you both and is trying to be considerate. Your marriage is absolutely a part of your son's life he is proof of that and should be allowed to participate in recognizing your anniversary. How can you tell him that your and his father's marriage is private and only your private issue? You should be proud of your son for being such a considerate and loving young man as to give you such a compliment.
2006-11-12 10:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by HGS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to tell my daughter to keep her room clean for a month without any nagging.
It was a wonderful present for all of us. LOL
Think about this....when you guys have been married 50 years who do you think will give you an anniversary party....your son.
2006-11-12 10:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow... if I had a kid and he/she asked the me that question, I think I would cry. [Alright enough of the softer side of me...]
Personally, I would've been hurt had you given me the answer you gave him. Let him do whatever he wants (within reason of course) and allow him to feel as if he's part of your special celebration... after all, he IS!
2006-11-12 11:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by Wedding Crasher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really.......he is now involved with ALL aspects of your life if you tell him it's not his place he'll feel blocked out of part of your life, and might start to not like you hubby because he gets you to himself and he (the son) doesn't....kids don't understand part time so don't say it. I think you should let him get involved...just tell him to make you something if you don't want him to spend money.
2006-11-12 10:56:47 · answer #8 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have told him that a nice card would have been sufficient. But to alienate him from the celebration was wrong and hurtful.
2006-11-12 10:51:59 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
chocolate. a box of chocolate covered chrries or the sort if he must get something.
2006-11-12 10:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋