my fiance and I and our 4 month old baby went to visit his trailer trash half sister. Our baby is at the age where she will put anything in her mouth.His sister put her unwashed thumb in our baby's mouth and let her suck on it for a good minute all while laughing and commenting on how funny it was! I was mortified and too shocked to speak! I think that is so rude and and that she shoud know better. I would never stick my finger in anybody's baby's mouth family or not!I was mad at my fiance for not saying anything and at myself. I though it would be easier for him since it is his sister and i didn't want to seem like a ***** which i am often called for asserting myself. I am so mad i couldn't bring myself to say " you know she has a pacifier or her own thumb to suck on thanks!" Would that have sounded mean? I am the baby's mother afterall.
thanks
2006-11-12 02:45:53 · 20 answers · asked by californiamermaid 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
NO!!! thats YOUR baby and that is DISGUSTING!!!! you should have told her straight up, thats just nasty, nobody knows where her fingers could have been!!!!!
2006-11-12 04:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by candygirlrw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! You are being very sensible worrying about this. You'll just have to get through it and take one day at a time.
Being a parent is about being tired, worried and protective. Some people say you should never be too protective. But if they are only months old, then sod everyone. That baby needs to come first.
Avoid danger until it's safe. Don't go to people's houses if they have a little sh*t there sticking things in gobs. YOU KNOW the answer. Don't let anyone judge you! This is a baby and they must have NOTHING in their mouth unless you or your partner says so.
Hope this helps. If it's rubbish advice, I did try my best.
Good luck!
2006-11-12 02:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by gulliblepeople 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, right off the top, you display your bigotry to all of us by referring to her as trailer trash. Further, the fact that you said nothing when she put her finger in your child's mouth demonstrates that you're not assertive. perhaps folks think you rude instead? you certainly come off that way here.
as to someone putting their hands anywhere near your child, partiuclarly the face, you are required to protect your child from all harm and risk and this is a definite potential for serious illness. no-one should be touching your child's face unless they've just washed their hands properly and that goes for you, too. the number one way to cut down on illness and the spread of infections is to wash your hands at least 10 times a day; everytime you have the opportunity, pretty much.
sucking on her own thumb is a big no-no at this age, unless her hands are certain to be clean; even she can infect herself, particularly if someone with germy hands has been holding her, touching her hands.
you're angry and frustrated, but use that energy to think rather than attack and you'll be a much more effective parent and family member. your sister-in-law doesn't deserve to be called trailer trash by you do you call her that to her face? if not, don't do it behind her back; it doesn't make for strong family and that is what you want , isn't it?
2006-11-12 03:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by soobee 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that what that woman did was really wrong, and you have all the right to speak up! Next time your baby doing something like that, say "Ohh, looks like {baby's name} needs her pacifier! I'm so sorry she is sucking on your thumb, that must feel gross!!" and take you baby away.
As for your fiance, maybe he was too shocked to say anything... do they have a strong relationship, as in him and his half sister?
Well, whatever the case, if it ever happens again, you know what to do
good luck
2006-11-12 03:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you WANT to diffuse the situation non-agressively just get the pacifier for the baby and talking to her (rather than to the person with the finger in her mouth) say it "looks like you need this little girl!" (Or better yet just walk over and stretch your hands out to her saying "we need to go find your soo-soo" she'll probably reach for you and you can just take her away from the offending trailer park sister.)
Otherwise go with "Ewwwwww, get your finger outta my baby's mouth."
Who does this??? No one except her pediatrician (who's just cleaned his hands) has ever offered my baby a finger to suck on.
The only reason I'd EVER want someone to put their grimy hands in my baby's mouth would be if she'd put something in that that she could choke on, and even then it's not a great idea because they could just poke it back further.
2006-11-12 02:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here you have to be assertive but you can still be nice.Just pick up your baby and say Please do not stick your dirty finger into my baby's mouth!!!! You are the mother and have every right to to let others know how you feel about what they do with your child!!! If they don't like the way you believe your baby should be cared for then it is their problem and they will have to get over it.
2006-11-12 03:06:02 · answer #6 · answered by miss-snoopy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I ran into this same kind of situation with my baby (now 2 1/2). We were camping and his pacifie fell on the ground. He was in his chair. My mom's friend said she would get it for me and clean it off. She picked it up, poored her beer on it, sucked the beer off and put it back in his mouth! I was in AWWW!! I didn't say much, I couldn't, I was speechless! I told her later, after I had cooled down, that I would much rather his pacifire be cleaned with water the next time. You can use that same line after you have cooled down and just tell her that you are worried about all the colds, flus and germs around now that it is winter and you would rather her keep her hands away from his face. It isn't rude to protect your baby... it is your job!!! Good luck!
2006-11-12 02:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ohooooooooooooooo
you should chill pill
to suck the tumb or do any thing its a sort of love u r just mother nothing else but the other who loves the children then love in that way so u should not worry or show the negetive reaction
it may be ur child is beautiful or attractive in that child automatically one loves n she has relation with u n ur baby after all
so don't mind
ohoh she gives just thumb the people who love with the childern or their close one they give them the things sometimes from their own mouth after chew so its not need to be tense
u just think she loves ur baby otherwise she will hurt
because she is a little child with no egoism but ur sister has her self respect she will be away from u so think positive
2006-11-12 03:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by chamaktaysitary 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no it wouldnot have
in situation like this you need to get up take the pacifier and remove the person hand say thank you fo the help put the pacifier in to replace the finger
by the way where my children are concern I DON'T care what I am call
2006-11-12 02:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When that happen to me I just came out and told my family, we can not put our fingers in the baby's mouth. My niece always wanted to do that and I had to keep on her for it. Your not a *****for wanting to keep fingers out of your baby's mouth. You are just protecting your baby from getting something. There is so many diseases out there now and we have to protect our little ones.
2006-11-12 03:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by Mel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly. I would just come right out and tell them . baby's pick up enough germs on there own they dont need help. If they are offended? oh well! like you said. you are the baby's mom. think of it this way. remember. your child depends on you for everything at that age.
2006-11-12 03:00:03 · answer #11 · answered by chasebabylinda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋