the divorce paper are just now down but my ex still call every day sometimes six time in one day all hours of the night am trying to be nice to my ex but it seen as if it is working out wrong my ex is now asking the kids about who i have coming around whats the thinking on this
2006-11-12 02:42:39 · 7 answers · asked by lines 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Easy,the reality of the divorce is hitting himhard and now he wants you back. Hes realizing what hes losing and what its going to cost him and realizes hes better off with you and the kids. Hes just not too sure how to approach you on this and is afraid there might be someone else so thats why hes asking the kids questions. This happens hundreds of times where divorces are concerned, and the reactions when reality sets in are always just about the same as your exs. Once he finds out for sure there is no one else he will pick up the pace and if there is someone else he wont stop and he ll try to break any pending possible relationship up. You can try straight forward answers with him telling him its over and youre no longer interested in him, but doubt seriousily itll do any good. Ive seen some cases get so bad the wife has had to get protective restraining orders against the ex husband. Men are slow at really grasping the reality going on around them so it takes a little while for a divorce to actually register. Good luck
2006-11-12 03:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many people act this way after a break-up or divorce,,the thought they can be so easily replaced isnt a nice one and if you answer the phone all the time the chances are you are not seeing anyone,,also,,some people do like to blame the fact you may have been seeing someone before the split on the break-up in the first place,,,for you to be seeing someone MAY just mean you were seeing them before. dont give in to emotional blackmail,,to be including the kids is putting pressure on them that will make them feel uncomfortable around him,he needs to stop this,,at the end of the day you and he are no more and it may be wise to tell him to stop calling at all times because what you are doing is nothing to do with him,,if he continues,,get caller id and ignore the phone,,whether or not he thinks you are out is irrelevant,,it is your life and he should get one too.
2006-11-12 10:49:37 · answer #2 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he thinks now he don't want to see anyone around you or the kids. men who do this an call so many times a day like this are just showing you they are jealous of who or what is going on in your life. i would tell him that he made his choice now live with it an quit calling me so much ! he is probably doing his own thing anyway during the hours he is not calling you. he just wants to keep tabs on you !
2006-11-12 11:19:49 · answer #3 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the kids he needs to ask you. They need to stay out of yalls problems as much as posible and tell him the same. Tell him when is and is not ok to call.
2006-11-12 10:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say quit answering the phone!! Unless there is away you could work it out!!
2006-11-12 10:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by liyah's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh?
2006-11-12 10:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And the question is?
2006-11-12 10:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by Eileen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋