When i meet new people, i tend have this fear in me and my eyes become red,they beome wet and red as if i want to cry.really wat i the matter with me?.
2006-11-12 02:12:13 · 9 answers · asked by ronnisab 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
you just need to learn to relax a little everyone gets nervous, try doing to breathing exercises deep breath in then hold for a few second and slowly exhale this should reduce your immediate anxiety. and when they meet new people but remember that strangers are only strangers until you have said hello to them
2006-11-12 02:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get nervous, just like I do and millions of people do (all the not so obvious people who later make the best partners).
This is probably because you worry too much about what others may think of you. Relax, even if some of them do not like what they see, you will eventually find your way to some true friends and to a true partner.
In the mean time, try to memorise three good questions or conversation topics (or little anecdotes, stories, cheerful remarks or context-relevant comments) which you can use to start a conversation with, and use them when you approach people, male or female, cute or just-friend-ly.
That way you will never be at a loss for words, and never mind if you are sometimes unable to get through your script - you will be glad you gave it a go and pulled back having made people's acqauintance, honest !
As no two people like or dislike you for the same reasons! The main thing to fear is never making an effort - all else is an outcome.
2006-11-12 04:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by Wise Kai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you at all. Everyone has bad experiences that affect there personalities. If you are soft hearted, and really like people, you tend to worry that people won't like you as you are. Since you don't know what type person they are. It makes you nervous, and a little scared, and then embarrassed that you feel this way. Then you stress yourself about the possibility that you will look or say something foolish. And guess what? Sometimes you do, not always,but enough that you feel others won't like you.
I have a silly suggestion for you. Try talking to someone while you are standing in line, paying for something, going to the show. Stop someone walking and ask them for the time. But first, imagine that that person is afraid of you, and you want to let them know, you like them. What have you got to lose? Nothing
What have you got to gain? EVERYTHING. Just try it.
2006-11-12 02:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by T C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first we gotta work on spelling
No im just kidding :)
Anyway umm i think most people get nervous, the watery eye thing umm thats your own way of getting nervous least you dont shake or studder. Those are far more embarrassing. If i were you i would try (in a dark setting) like going to a club or a NIGHT (emphasise on NIGHt) on the town. Therefore you wont worry about your watery eye so much and mabe get more comfortable around people. Take baby steps. It might sound crazy about the night thing but it actually works.
2006-11-12 02:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by And kayla was like 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop caring what other people think about you. Why does it matter what they think? What you think is the only thing that matters. Do what i do: don't give a **** about anything or anybody. Just yourself. Don't be afriaid of them rejecting you or not liking you. Just aproach them and don't think about what could go wrong. Worst case senario: they don't like you. So what? Are you gonna lose sleep over this? There's billions of people in this world, who cares if one person is not going to like you. You have to face the fact that not everyone is going to accept you, and you might as well live with it, and move on, and get on with your life. Like I said, just be yourself, and I'm sure people will accept you. Wait, I didn't say that.......... but I'm saying it now. Just be yourself and be happy!!
2006-11-12 10:12:36 · answer #5 · answered by Yay! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing much to worry about. Such things do disappear with age and time.
2006-11-12 02:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to join a group.
2006-11-12 02:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by something'srotten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out more, and bear in mind that they are just as scared as you are.
2006-11-12 02:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probably because you care too much about what others think about you.
2006-11-12 02:25:05 · answer #9 · answered by samikat2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋