Don't be smart when u answer. I wanna know something about being gay. I know it means you like someone of the same gender, but I mean, what are some signs that you are DEFINETLY gay and not just having a brain "fart" or whatever? how do u know FOR SURE?
2006-11-12 01:55:21 · 13 answers · asked by ~Drew Mania~ 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Straight guys don't look at other guys and think about the way they look attractive, or want to be with them or spend time with them. They might envy another guy, but that's about it.
If you're gay or bi, it doesn't just happen over night, you slowly become aware of it. You think more about other guys as being who you want to be with (even if you aren't sure about what gay sex really is all about).
The good news, you don't have to be in a rush to find out. Take your time. Be true to yourself, whether you're straight, gay or bi, just be honest to what your heart tells you is the real you.
2006-11-12 02:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Brain fart? My gosh, I hope that your sexual orientation doesn't peg itself on a 'brain fart'.
Now, I NEVER advocate that people experiment in order to know their sexual orientation- all you need to ask yourself is whether you feel sexual attraction to whatever gender you have in mind. That's enough. But for you- people who consistenly ask 'how do you know FOR SURE'?, then my only advice is to try it. Go, find someone of your same sex, and get it on!
If you like it, you're either bisexual or gay. Then get it on with the opposite sex. If you like it, too, you're bisexual. If you hate it, you're gay. Problem solved!
However, that's dangerous, dangerous, dangerous- because people have bad sexual experiences all the time, failed couplings that end in one or neither getting off, and just aren't that great. Can you imagine if we all based our orientations off of one or two experiences? If you love someone, the sex will probably be better. When you aren't using someone as a 'gay test', the sex will probably better- because you're more relaxed, happy, etc..
So, all in all, don't use people as guinea pigs the way I've just described. It really won't help you. Sure, it's the only way to know FOR SURE the way you want, but why does it matter so much??
If you can contemplate possibly being with the same sex sometime in the future, just let it be, eh?
2006-11-12 20:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being attracted to others of the same gender is one sign that a person might be gay, thinking of what it would be like to be sexual with someone of the same gender is another sign, masturbating with the fantasy of being with someone of the same gender is another, someone getting excited when she or he sees a nude or nearly nude pic of someone of the same gender is another, trying out an online and/or on the phone experience with someone of the same gender is another sign a person might be gay.
Just ONE of the signs above by itself doesn't mean a person is definitely gay. However, most or ALL of the signs above together 'could' mean a person is definitely gay.
Someone who has never 'gone there' in person with someone else of the same gender may have a lot of questions. One question important to ask oneself is: COULD I 'go there' with another person of my same gender? And if the answer is yes, then I believe the only way for that person to know for sure if he or she is gay is to try it, to 'go there', in person with someone of the same gender. He or she might be nervous beforehand and that's normal. If the person can 'go there', in person, with someone of the same gender and it feels right and good, that is a definite sign of being gay.
Sometimes a person might find out when 'going there' that he or she likes being with each gender, that's when the person can think of themself as being bi-sexual. Over time the person may find that he or she prefers one gender over another, and that's ok too. Some people just know from the start which gender they prefer, and they know for certain. It's different for everyone, the way of knowing for certain, and the timing of when they find that out.
Myst
2006-11-12 11:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by Myst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have known I was bisexual even before I had the language to name it. Since childhood I easily connected to both boys and girls. My first sexual experiences were with women and really didn't have an interest in men until I was 16 or so. I've had long term relationships (including a marriage and children) with both genders and at 53, the love of my life is female and I know I am done with men. I never question how my body responds.
2006-11-12 11:12:32 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you don't need to be gay unless you like men. You can have feminine swings, for example, liking pink, putting on makeup, giving yourself a facial and pedicure(which I think all men need), enjoying the "frutier" side of life...but its not all bells and whistles. Unless you want to sleep with men, you are not gay, but its ok to take a look at the frutier side of life without being considered gay.
2006-11-12 10:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by nmhflute 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. When you find yourself attractive to the same gender.
2. When you keep looking at the same gender and checking them out instead of the opposite
3. When you keep on thinking about the same gender.
4. When you think about kissing the same gender instead of the opposite.
Who knows.. maybe you're just curious?
2006-11-12 10:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by Candy 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you are unsure whether or not you are, then you are probably gay or bisexual. Straight young people do not question their sexuality, they just know it. The same goes for a lot of gay/bisexual people, but not all.
2006-11-12 10:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by cammie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are people who are completely straight and those completely gay. but these are rare. Most are somewhere in between. It is just something you have to evaluate for yourself.
2006-11-12 09:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
when u look at boys and it makes u horny and u like it. and u want to kiss them and touch them, and hear them say i love you. regular relationship stuff. try not to worry too much, u have a lifetime to figure it out, and it probably wont take that long.
2006-11-12 10:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
"Step away from the......" If you want a fleshy relationship with someone that is one thing, if you want to be cheerful, what is wrong with being cheerful?
2006-11-12 10:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋