i've been married for almost a year and we have a baby, alot of times i dont have time for sex or am to tiared, so my husband jacks it, is it normal for a man to every ime he gets horney to do that, every time i mean it if i dont want it he does it, i think its nasty as much as he does it?
2006-11-12 01:37:44 · 12 answers · asked by babylove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is pretty normal.
2006-11-12 01:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
hmmm a toughie...I think a guy if he wants to work on it, doesn't HAVE to resort to masturbation each time he can't get what he wants, but it sounds like one person is doing all the domestic chores (hopefully I'm wrong) and the other is not picking up the slack when he/she is home from work, etc...and this could be leaving the "home" partner exhausted, so perhaps some open discussion could eventually give you both more time to sit, relax and be more receptive to courting, romance and sex if you both put the ideas into practice...
It is normal for males to have a more heightened level of desire, sexually speaking, and although he's trying to be a gentleman by not pressuring you, nonverbally, he's also saying that his needs aren't being met, so you both need to look into this issue before it becomes a real problem, like infidelity...
Be open, honest and direct about what's going on, discuss why you're too tired or don't have the time for sex...See if you can find time for going out on a date or just watching a movie together at home when the baby is down for a nap...Whatever you do, plan on waiting at least 3 years before deciding on having another child...Believe me, chasing two small children of similar ages will really wear you out!!
Hope this gives you some fresh ideas and that you're able to iron out the kinks...Good luck!!
2006-11-12 02:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by kdot14103 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys jack off all the time. Perfectly normal. If you are not going to let him do you, don't guilt him about jacking off.
Some guys jack off 2 or even 4 times a day in addition to sex with their wives 1-3 times. Really.
If he is ONLY jacking off and won't have sex with you then you have a problem.
2006-11-12 08:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him politely to help around the house, relieve your workload. You might have some energy at the end of the day for your pleasure, as well as his. As far as jackin it, it is normal for some woman to enjoy watching him pleasure himself. Some also find it disgusting. If he does it allot, maybe he should do it by himself.
2006-11-12 01:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. A horny guy needs relief..it's not easy to just let it go...there are strong instinctual feelings you have to repress to do that. To "jack it" helps relieve it. But, you know , even tired you can help him with minimal, if no effort at all. Send me a note if your interested in some ways to do it. I'm not going to go into detail here.
2006-11-12 01:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by flashpro 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is normal for a guy to do it all the time. If you just broke down and gave him some once in a while, he would not have to do it as much.
2006-11-12 01:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it normal Give him his daily needs.
Also honey, have you heard of capital letters and the spell checker button?
"tiared, ime "
My 5 Year old can type better. Please.
2006-11-12 01:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Normal. Tell him to be careful because if he does it too much, it will start to look like a bicycle grip!
2006-11-12 01:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's fine - definitely better than the alternative of finding it somewhere else! Have you tried "helping him out" when he's horny?
2006-11-12 01:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Y don't you give him head instead? That would make him love you more.
2006-11-12 01:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by Grant C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋