would you allow.....?

Question

would you allow a 9 year old to have a boyfriend?

Answer 1

Depends. I would only allow "play dates" at either home. For instance, have him come over for dinner, then watch a movie as a family. Don't let them play in her bedroom, unless you are going to be there the whole time!

Answer 2

Not a chance.

A nine year old is still very much a child and should be encouraged to act as one. There will be time for a "boyfriend" when she's much older.

I'm sorry, but parents these days seem to think it's ok for children to grow up as soon as possible. It's really just not. Why do children these days have to grow up so quickly? When I was nine I was still playing like a child. I was still acting like a child. I still had the innocence of a child. Why in the world would a person encourage a nine year old to grow up so fast? Why would a parent not encourage a child to be a child for as long as possible?

A nine year old have a boyfriend? Not a chance. My children are going to be what they should be... children. They will not be little adults.

Answer 3

I have a 9 year old daughter and you have raised an interesting question. I am of the mindset that other than maybe kissing and holding hands, what harm could come out if it? Obviously you want to monitor the situation closely, but telling her she can't have a boyfriend will probably do more harm to your own relationship. She will probably just have the boyfriend behind your back anyways. Keep your relationship with nyour daughter open, honest and supportive.

Answer 4

Hell no i wont why would a 9 year old need a boyfriend for?

Answer 5

Only if things were going to be montiored between them. Most "boyfriends" at 9 y/o are nothing more than some boy that you sit next to at lunch or in the library at school. Or sit next to in class and maybe hold hands with on the school bus. I think it would be harmless. You know your daughter better than we could on here. You know what she's capable of better than anyone. If you think it's just an "inocent" thing, then I don't see nothing wrong with it.

Answer 6

Thats depends on what you consider a boyfriend. My 8 year old likes a boy in her class and she calls him her boyfriend but the only contact they have is in school.

Answer 7

At that age it is probaly just a little cutesy thing that little kids do, like having cooties but its the other way around. I would say no but they would probaly go out at their school and throw sand at eachother or whatever it is they do.

Answer 8

Yo a nine year old isn't even interested in boys.

A nine year old boy is still in the "cooties" mindset.

Give your daughter another three years

Answer 9

It depends. I definitely wouldn't let them date, but if they want to talk on the phone a little, or IM each other on the computer in the living room, I would let them. At that age, though, they usually don't do either or even sit together to eat lunch.

Answer 10

allow ??? how??? do they play after school? Talk on the phone? We all had "boyfriends" at 9. I like you ---you like me stufff...it's not like they can drive and sneak off. I think it is pretty safe----pay attention to what they are doing if you are concerned.