i need advice.......?

Question

i dont know what to do i just found out that i was pregnant and i cant financially take care of this baby......and everybody is telling me to get an abortion cause i need to finish school and i cant take care of a child, but i dont want to get an abortion

Answer 1

LISTEN WHAT YOUR "HEART" SAYS.....

Answer 2

well don't let people tell you what they think is best for you. In the end of all this YOU and only YOU will be having or not having a baby. If yo do not want to have an abortion, great don't have one. If you feel that you are worried about not being able to support this baby, you have many options. One is adoption, and the other is there is a great deal of assistance that may be available for you if you have the baby. I had a baby about 9 months ago, and I was worried to death that I would not be able to survive financially. Well I know it sounds like a cliche, but things have a way of working themselves out. You will be OK, just work as much as you possibly can now that you are still early in your pregnancy. Also you can finish school, trust me. Many women have done it before you and many will do it after , it is very possible. You can do it, if you want to. Take Care of yourself, and Good Luck!

Answer 3

There are so many answers to your situation. You are the only one who can truly make the right one. I was a single mother for 7 years and we're doing just fine now. As everyone here says, ther are a ton of programs if you know where to find them. You can apply for a Pell grant which, as a single mother you have a pretty high chance of getting, this will help pay for your school, and for your school supplies. If you decide to keep the baby and not give him/her up for adoption, there are all kinds of part time job which you can do and keep your baby with you. Along with WIC, food stamps, and housing help, you can do babysitting in your home or apartment during the hours you're not at school. This will help bring in some extra cash for your bills. It is entirely possible to keep this baby, raise it, and get your schooling finished. If you do decide to keep and raise the baby, make sure you do as much school as you can while the baby is still young, and put some money away before the baby is born. I would also suggest what I did. Whenever you get paid, buy one thing you'll need after the baby is born, such as a thing of wipes, a set of bottles, some bibs, a pack of small diapers, etc, etc. This will help reduce the amount of money you spend after tha baby is born, and it will be a huge relief to already have these things on hand. Also, start checking out garage sales on friday and saturday, you can find things like car seats for less than half price, strollers, baby monitors, just about anything you could need or want really. If you start preparing now a little at a time, you'll be 90% ready when this baby gets here. Good luck, and remember, this is your decision only. If someone is trying to pressure you, they don't really care about you or your feelings. Distance yourself from them until you've made YOUR decision.

Answer 4

Then don't do it just because others are telling you that you should. There are other options, like adoption. If you don't want to get an abortion then don't. If you do, you will most likely regret it and be haunted by it for the rest of your life. Carry the baby to term and consider adoption. Your situation may change before the birth, and things may work out so that you can keep the baby. You never know what the future holds for you.

Answer 5

You have a couple other options if you don't want to have an abortion. You can keep the baby, it's difficult but I did it. I was pregnant at 20, had my son at 21 and 11 years later we are more then fine. Or you can give the child to a family member if there is one willing. Or you can give the child up for adoption.

There are plenty of parents out there looking to adopt. I just answered a question of someone who wants to adopt. I'll provide you with the link and maybe you guys can get together and make arrangement.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AtF_hNJs2tcb3eSympq7WHLsy6IX?qid=20061111231812AAyiA55

Good luck with your decision. It's a tough one, but one that you can handle.

Answer 6

Have the baby, if you get an abortion when you really don't want to, you'll regret it & feel guilty for the rest of your life. You need to come up w/ a plan - get a second job, move to a cheaper apartment to save up money and to beable to support the baby. There's lots of things that can help you until you get on your feet, such as WIC, start at your local health department.

Answer 7

Not many people are ready when they find out they are blessed with a pregnancy. You can keep the baby and finish school. You will be amazed of all the programs that are out there to help you and your unborn child. Such as WIC, the goverment, and such. Your doctor can help you find help too! This is your body, and only your decision. Don't do anything you will regret. I had two unplanned pregnancy's out of the three children. I was scared, but it works out. Even in time you will notice how family, and friends give you support down the line.

Answer 8

Well, there are a lot of people who are going to tell you what to do. Carefully think through the options and scenerios...from there, do what you think is the best. Only you can decide what is right for you.

It would be good for you if you could find an open-minded adult to talk to and discuss the different scenerios. Someone who's not going to try to persuade you one way or another, but someone who will help you figure out what it is you want to do...and support you through whatever decision you make.

Good Luck, hun!

***And just so you know....there ARE organizations and aide out there to financially help people in your situation. Something to look into...

Answer 9

Don't listen to anyone else but yourself. If you can't financially take care of a baby then go to a planned parenthood and talk to them about adoption. There are so many couples out there who can't have children who would love to adopt a baby. Good luck with your decision.

Answer 10

Have the baby, and if you can't give it what it needs, see if a family member or a friend can help you, so you can finish school.
If you truly can't support it even after that, the best thing to do is give it up for adoption, so the baby can have a good and normal life. But try your best to keep it, and try to stay in contact with it if you do give it up.

Answer 11

Please don't abort, there are many programs out there to help you. All a baby needs is love not alot of money. It will work out if you think positive. How about the father or your family?