I have been married for 6 years. When I first met my husband he told me he had a daughter. In the 12 years we've been together he has only seen his daughter like 3 times. He and the mother of his so called daughter had decided that they were going to get back together beforeI married him. About a year ago him and her were sneaking around behind my back and her husband's back. Since that sneaking around has been over he decided he wants a DNA test. He doesn't want me to come with him to the appointment, but I want to go. The girl and the mother will be there too. The mother separated from her husband about 6 months ago. Should I be worried about him and her? Should I go with him to the appointment? What should I do?
2006-11-12 00:48:04 · 10 answers · asked by 3boys,&3girls 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The DNA test IS your business. Go. The more relevant question is why you are with this butt head. Any guy that only sees his child 3 times in 12 years is scum. So, him being a cheating scum isn't suprising.
2006-11-12 01:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd be more concerned about why after all this time he's even interested in a DNA test. You don't mention if he has been paying support for this "daughter" or if that is an issue that has come up recently. If he hasn't been paying support and this woman is suddenly demanding it, then by all means he needs to know if the child is his.
Find out what his intentions/reasons are for having the test. There's no real need for you to be there. If there's any trust left, he'll tell you the results.
I'm guessing by your "nick" the two of you have kids. That's where the focus should be.
2006-11-12 09:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by tori 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would have been worried when he was sneaking around my back a year ago. If it's because you don't trust him go! he has proven not to be trustworthy
2006-11-12 08:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should be worried. AND, yes, you have every right to go with him to the appointment. You should not have stayed with him when you found out he was cheating on you with her, but you did; so, now you really should be aggessive about what you want from the relationship.
If he really loves you and you are number one in his life, then he would and should include you in everything, including this. If he doesn't want you to go, I would think he is hiding something.
2006-11-12 08:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by Author Al 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I would be VERY concerned about this situation and insist on going. Don't let your guard down honey - you know deep down, he can't be trusted. If he did it before, he'll do it again!
2006-11-12 13:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you cant trust him, and it doesn't sound like he deserves your trust maybe you should move on!
However!
You are his wife and have every right to be their so if you want to go get in the car and go with him!
2006-11-12 08:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why be worried? What's done is done. Respect his wishes and do not follow him. You will know if the child is his when the tests come back
2006-11-12 08:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
you being the legal wife have the right to go;however,you must go with dignity and show her you are there to support your husband.Do not give her the satisfaction be a lady.
2006-11-12 08:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wauw it sounds like it is time to move on.....you deserve better!!!!
2006-11-12 11:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by Caro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you go to the appointment
and you make sure that you are their when the result is in
2006-11-12 09:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋