I'm in a really bad situation. I was neglected/suffering abuse at home...I missed 4 years of high school...and got G grades in my GCSEs as a consequence (apart from in English) I'm scared because I dont even know basic stuff such as how to use a bus, how to cook, etc....I have been severely depressed and as no-one's helped me sat at home ding nothing for the past 2 years. I am now 18. I cannot believe this is happening...it's like a nightmare. What on earth should I do? I haven't a clue how to fix my education? even if I did have....i still have a problem......my mum still doesn't look after me/is abusive. She behaves as though she doesn't want me to ever become independant/have a life. she wouldn't support me even if I went to college. I feel so scared. Should I try to move out into a Foyer?? they are a place for homeless young people which offer training and support too....but I don't even know if this would work....I don't have a clue how I would get there(no-one would take me and I don't have a clue how to use a bus) and for example to live there you need to claim benifits(I don't have a CLUE what this even means) that's how bad things are/were...that's how ill I was with depression. I cannot believe this has been allowed to happen.
Does anyone know out there what I should do?
I don't know if I could even work out how to fix my education AND how to live in a Foyer. it's so hard. Would I have anyone looking after me in a Foyer? I mean really looking after me? How can I fix my education? people say do GCSEs...but I can't as I'm too far behind in my work (they only cover work from the last 2 years in school....and I missed years of school even from before then) I'm so so scared. I don't have ANYONE in my life to help me. my relatives i haven't had contact with for about 6 years properly...i don't have ANYONE. i'm so scared. PLEASE HELP!! what should I do?
plus it's even worse because I'll now be 19 years old before I can even start on any sort of college course...and I haven't been to school properly/had a normal life since age 11.
PLEASE HELP!!! I feel like there is no way out.
2006-11-12 00:36:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
A Foyer sounds like a good starting place; at least go there, explain your situation and ask what they suggest. While it may not be your best permanent option, they will be supportive and helpful AND treat everything in confidence.
I understand how frightened you are, I came from a situation with some similarities and even now that I have a new life, I do get scared by the small things. But you CAN make it through and make a good life for yourself. Start where you are and go one step at a time. Fear is a natural reaction...just work through it one baby step at a time and you WILL get there, I promise.
2006-11-12 00:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by anna 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to worry alot about your lack of education. There are many people out there who don't have a qualification to their name. You have to get yourself some experience. If I were you I'd start looking for a job, doesn't even need to be full time. This will give you lots of experience and you will feel happier for it. The job doesn't even need to be fantastic, you just have to prove to yourself that you can be independent. After a while you can move up the career ladder and eventually be doing the type of work you enjoy. Also, after you a while when you've settled down in your job you can think about doing some studying, this can be at either an adult education collage or the open university. Finally, it sounds like your mother isn't the best, just try to get on with your own life, and get yourself booked in to a counselling session if you feel the need to. Councillors are great because they are impartial people that you can talk to about anything in a safe environment. Good luck my friend and I wish you all the best.
2006-11-12 01:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Slug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok my advice which may seem odd is to go to your local RAF, Navy or army centre and look at joining one of those. Personally not the army cos youll face bullying there. But RAF or NAVY. You will learn to be indepentant, make amazing friends, learn life skills and more importantly move out of home and get paid to learn a new trade. Its a good life that will build you up slowly to be a better and stronger person. I been in RAF 5 years now and best thing ive ever done. Its like a family. Dont believe the bad stories. The initial training is obviously hardwork but good fun also but after that you will thrive for the fun. Good luck and look into this advice cos it may change your life
2006-11-12 00:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh sweetheart. You are seriously in need of some tender loving care and support. You say you don't know how to use a bus, but somehow you must find a way of seeing your doctor and then get some help from social services. Perhaps find your local citizens advice office. They can give you so much information and talk to social services for you if necessary. Social services will advise you about making a benefit claim and how to get out of the hell hole you are living in. Good luck xxx
2006-11-12 00:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by deebradley2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly, in a situation like this, contact your nearest bodies of help *immediately*. they can be a school counsellor first; or any teacher; if you have no idea who you can look to for help. since this seems very life threatening to your future, it is time to open up about your background.
dont be shy or embarassed about your family situation. upgrading and educating yourself is a step to bringing yourself out of such a depressive situation.
all the best, dear.
2006-11-12 00:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anna D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please Please Please get proper medical help.
You are abusing other useres of Yahoo Answers with your repeat postings.
You have been given lots of very good advice and sympathy from many many users.
You are ignoring everyone and posting the same topic questions over and over again.
You never choose best answer or give feedback.
I am from this point on reporting all your questions as repeat postings.
I hope others will join me and you will seek help from the proper qualified channels.
Anybody who thinks I am being out of order should check this users profile of asked questions and read them to see all the conflicting information before forming an opinion.
2006-11-12 03:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by angie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "can't believe this has been allowed to happen"? I find it hard to believe you can't get on a bus. Just take some money and get on one. The conductor or driver will tell you what to do. Try to stop thinking of yourself as a VICTIM, you are old enough now to take responsibility for yourself, but it won't happen if you just sit around moaning about how "hard done by" you are. I don't say this to be harsh, but to be realistic. You don't need to waste ANOTHER MINUTE on blaming someone else, however negligent your mother has been. (She probably had much the same upbringing herself!) Be honest and try to do your best and things will start to work out. Give up blaming.
2006-11-12 00:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by survivor 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I agree with Angie, i also think that people should not post any answers, we are feeding this person, this person is either really sick or really sad, looking for a sympathy vote, i think this person is of reasonable intelligence and should realise their is help available out there!!
2006-11-12 04:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by carol g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to your local GP - it sounds like you could do with some advice and pronto....they should be able to point you in the right direction
2006-11-12 00:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by extremely_confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a simple answer to your question its called growing up.
You need professional help you may not be able to grow up on your ow en,
2006-11-12 00:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by Billy Butthead 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋