2006-11-12 00:16:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Obey his word like it is the word of the lord thy God and you will be happy, stop thinking about yourself (or being futile by trying to think for yourself) and accept that your husband knows best and has provided for you and two children. It is now up to you to serve him and his family unselfishly and stop with this feminist "love" nonsense, you have made your bed now do as you are told and you will find, without the illusion of free choice, you will be happier
2006-11-12 00:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am in the same boat u r actually. We have one child and its hard when u have kids. Sometimes he's the best thing that ever happened to me and other times its like I wouldn't care if he walked out the door. But my reason is he tries to tell me who I can and cant be friends with he tells me what I should and shouldn't wear and he thinks I am out cheating on him so........ I don't know what your reason is but u both need to be happy. Talk to him and tell him how u feel. See if u can work things out if not then it's best if u split up. Some people say stay together for the kids but whats the point if u are going to argue all the time. The kids would see more peace if u weren't living together. U have to look deep down inside of ur heart and ask yourself "Why did I marry him where is the love we once had" and see if it can be rekindled if not and u really don't love him u will find fault in each other every day and it's not going to work. It takes 2 to make a relationship and 2 to break one up. Anyways this is how I feel about it. The best thing to do is talk to him tell how u feel and see if it can be fixed if not then divorce is the only answer. Good luck to u.
2006-11-12 08:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by crystal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you didn't say "the man i'm married too or the guy i'm livin with".
he's your "hubby". still in luv just need some quality time to spice up the relationship. when was the last time the two of you had a date? kids are a great addition to a relationship but you become kid oriented with everything. nothing wrong with that, find a good babysitter so you both can be together with no worries about the kids and become acquainted again.
2006-11-12 08:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by blueJean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so simple:
Stop! Think! Both of you!!!
Just turn back the time and fall in love again. Remember the reasons why you fell in love the first time and appreciate it. I am telling you that nobody is more for you then your spouse. Love him and most important: respect him [not like in the army]. Tell him that you are proud of him and appreciate him for everything he's doing and you will be amazed how much he'll romance you after a while.
Is normal for the love to fade... but you [both] have to put some wood on the fire everyday. Even if it is a tooth pick.
God bless you and may that I hear good news from you!
2006-11-12 08:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by doar_mark 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you thinking that. Love is from the heart and emotion and thinking comes from the Brain and a reaction.
However, What are you going to do about it?
Marriage is such a powerful thing to have.
Why is it that our generation takes it like, taking a bath.
I have seen and met so many husbands and wife's, who have been married more then 40 yrs 50 yrs the longest and beautiful was 75yrs of marriage and still loved & loved each other, you could feel it. Dont just give up. Do something about.
2006-11-12 08:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl I have been married 15 years and been through H---! with him you could not imagine how many times I thought I was falling out of love w/ him or in love w/ someone else. We have 3 wonderful children. And guess what? If you are a strong person you will make it. Now if he is abusive to you or the kids please get somewhere safe. However, if this is just a phase please try to work it out. Just try to remember why you feel in love in the first place.
2006-11-12 08:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by carol w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really did not give us enough information. Is he treating you badly or abusing you? In that case get out. If not, read on.
Falling in love and staying in love is something that takes work by both parties. Try doing more stuff together. Or counseling.
Of course, if you do not want to fall back in love. If YOU want to leave the relationship, then you won't want to do the above.
It is really up to you. If you want to keep working on the marriage or to sue for shared custody.
2006-11-12 08:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really so sad to hear people say this or ask questions about this. I cannot EVER imagine falling out of love with my fiancee...it will NEVER happen. Work hard on it, remember your vows and HONOR them. Take time to rekindle what you had, talk about it, try new things in intimacy....do everything you can to save it and if it still doesn't work...maybe you were never meant to be. Good Luck to You!!
2006-11-12 08:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why?there must be a reason why you fall out of love to your hubby....pls be considerate enough before making a decision....and put your 2 kids on high priority...
2006-11-12 08:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by Adele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want the marriage????? If so get some counselling and also get some romance back in the realtionship.... Date night, going away for the week-end or over night at a hotel...Both of you has to move out of your comfort zone and work at it. If one is unwilling, then I say move on. no use flogging a dead horse......
2006-11-12 08:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋