Age or experiences?What makes a man mature?

Question

What makes a man mature?Age or experiences?
How possible is that a younger man is more mature than a older man?
What's your understanding of maturity?

Answer 1

Definitely NOT age by itself. How a man was raised, his life experiences and how he handles himself, his confidence in himself, his relationships with family and friends, his work ethics, his morals, taking his responsibilities seriously, having personal accountability even when he's wrong -- all of these bring about maturity much more than the passage of time. One of the most attractive things I find about a man is his relationships with his family. If there are family members to which he is estranged, it makes me think twice. If he couldn't work things out with someone of his own blood, then he's probably not mature enough to have an honest and open intimate relationship. Thus, he's unattractive to me. The mature man loves his mom but is not a "mamma's boy," respects his father, is FRIENDS with his siblings, and respects his elder family members. A mature man loves to have fun but understands the boundaries of fun and irresponsibility. A mature man makes the people around him comfortable and happy without being a martyr or wanting recognition. Also, a mature man has to have a certain level of intelligence to be able to understand all of this on the deepest levels.

Geez, if you find this guy, let me know. LOL

Answer 2

Age is irrelevant without experience. True, age brings a certain natural common experience to us all such a our bodies growing from children to adolescent, then from adolescent to adult and then of course the aging process. But I doubt that is what you mean and that is a some what limited experience that few would say can affect our character and our world view.

Our brains and our intellect can also affect our maturity. A person of limited intellect may well get less out of an experience than a more intelligent person.

And then of course, there is the question of how do we define maturity, and the other question, is 'maturity' always a good thing?

Answer 3

Experience... and not just experience, but the way the man processes and learns from that experience.
Just "going through a divorce" doesn't make a kid mature or "being poor" or "traveling the world." It's all about what they learned from the experience and the awareness of how their perception of life has changed as a result.

So you could be an old guy who has no interest in reflecting on himself or his circumstances. Perhaps even running from his failure in life. That's immature.

But a young man who faces up to consequences, who takes responsibility, and who has respect for others based on his understanding of what he has experience is life - that's my definition of maturity.

Answer 4

Life experience makes a man mature, especially those who went through the hard lives. It is possible that a younger man is more mature than an older man because the younger man had a more tougher life than the older man who has an easy going life.

Answer 5

Maturity is a mixture of things - being aware of things outside your life, being in charge of your emotions, and having a feeling that you are capable of taking responsibility.

The longer you live (age) means the more likely you will experience events that will make you become aware of your strengths and weaknesses. We learn and adapt - some faster than others - and that is what makes us mature.

Answer 6

I'm female and I'm sure the answer is probably both, but I know at age 16 , I rented my own place, worked 2 jobs and supported myself. That was 10 yrs. ago but, believe me , I was a lot more mature at the time than my friends because of experiencing that.

Answer 7

experiences make a man mature definitely.
for instance, a 15 year old who lives in poverty. he hardly gets to eat 3 meals a day and yet he survives, live a happy life with a family who is equally loving. put this against a 25 year old boy who generally has food to eat- maybe even excess. one day its taken away from him- he wont survive, probably cry, get into stress. but there are other people surviving, facing the same problem. growing up in certain atmospheres and situations make us wiser, but if we still cannot discern the right frm the wrong, there is no use.

maturity is the ability to exercise that wisdom.

Answer 8

I would be more upset if he cheated with an older woman(I'm 17). To me that must mean that there was obviously something really special about her. If it was someone my age I would still be mad but maybe she's just a pretty girl or she was throwing herself on my guy, but an older woman has a type of wisdom and sexiness that I'll only be able to match in time and not to mention she's much more experienced in sex.

Answer 9

Experience is not what happens to a man throughout his life. It is what a man does with what happens to him. So, it doesn't related with age; but with personalty and choises-experience

Answer 10

it depends on if the person is say 30, but has the maturity of a 20yr old.

A 5 yr old could behave and talk in ways of that of a 15yr old.