In this class I am preparing, we are going to talk about emotional affairs - have you been involved in one? Has your spouse or ex-spouse. How did it affect your marraige?
2006-11-12 00:01:03 · 9 answers · asked by Miss Vicki 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anything that takes a part of you away from your spouse emotionally can be dubbed an 'emotional affair'. Different people will have different opinions about that.
Pornography use.
Phone sex with a call-in service.
Masturbation.
Talking about your marital problems with friends, but never with your spouse.
Putting more time into your friendships emotionally than into your spouse.
Any, or all, of the above can become 'emotional affairs' if they interfere with the emotional bonds between you and your spouse.
2006-11-12 00:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by Shayna 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are many definitions of "emotional affairs" because it is a relatively new term that has just started commonly popping up.
To me, it is a relationship that goes beyond a typical friendship (there may be flirting and or sexual innuendo, etc.), but has not yet crossed into a physical relationship - and it may never go that far. An emotional affair can precede a physical affair, but not necessarily.
My issue with the term is that I feel that it is over used. For example, the answerer that described pornography as a type of emotional affair - well, I say no because it is the opposite of emotional...an affair is a type of relationship; using pronography is a behavior. Also I think the current fascination with labeling everything an "emotional affair" is used to formalize the long existing social taboo against mixed gender friendships.
2006-11-12 01:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by Zana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm emotional affairs are an interesting concept, after having read what other peoples definitions of one are....i guess i can say that im having one.....even though the time i spend with this person is not a secret.....(see previous post).
If anything the only way it has affected my marraige, is by making me more determined to leave, as i can see that there are are other things out there for me, where im likely to be happy, rather than unhappy as i am now.....
2006-11-12 00:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think an emotional affair is one where you had the intention of having sex with someone.
It's a hard call, because you can have a friendship with someone of the opposite sex and be just as fulfilled socially as it was with your friend of the same sex. BUT your spouse might feel threatened and call it an "emotional affair" but that would their lack of confidence in the relationship and not quite be the "offending" spouses fault or responsibility. But that doesn't make it ok for "offending" spouse to have friends of opposite sex to make other spouse feel threatened. Does that make sex? If that is the purpose of the friendship than that would count as emotional affair in my opinion. But legitimate friendships shouldn't count, although I think it is human nature to feel that close to someone of the opposite sex and not feel those sexual feelings, and someone in that position should recognize that and be very careful not to replace the feelings they should be giving to their spouse.
2006-11-12 00:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An "emotional" affair is when you talk to another person - most usually of the opposite sex (?) - about things you don't take the time to talk to your mate about. Whether it is problems with the children and, heaven forbid, about your spouse. You should never complain to anyone of the opposite sex about your spouse. It sets you up to be vulnerable and manipulated. Yes, I had one and he was my best friend. It seemed very natural at the time, but it caused a wall between me and my husband.
2006-11-12 00:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by CURIOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for a well snigger. The very notion that ANY affair is much less unhealthy than one other affair is humorous. I'm no longer definite what you imply by way of an emotional affair being worse than bodily dishonest- that is not sensible. Unless it is a case of coins for intercourse- seeing hookers, ALL bodily dishonest entails emotional dishonest. Even if it is only a drunken bar opt for up. Your final sentence was once hilarious. Physically dishonest is solely frame on frame lovin- supplying you with a bodily relief. WHAAAAT? I believe that main issue is imaginable- I simply have not run right into a location in which humans lay round bare, looking forward to strangers to simply flop down on best and hump. Even coping with to receive a hooker takes extra emotional dedication than you look to suppose bodily dishonest calls for. Cheating is dishonest is dishonest. Mental, bodily, or interplanetary. There is not unhealthy dishonest, OK dishonest, or iffy dishonest.
2016-09-01 11:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An emotional affair is loving someone more than youre spouse...not necessarily having a physical contact (like sex).
2006-11-12 00:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by alandicho 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband had an emotional affair on me. It hurt a lot. He talked to much about our relationship with another women. When I got up set he said I was just being jealous. I told him know I wasn't jealous that I just felt that our relationship was our business not hers. To be honest though I don't think he really got it. I know she did though. She was trying to get in his head and breakup our marriage. I finally told her to back off. Not to long after she left town.
2006-11-12 03:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by December K 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I havent but husband has. I dont really trust him now. Iwould say that it cools the marriage...
2006-11-12 00:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by TL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋