Do you have fixed house hold tasks ? Who does the cooking ? Who decides about which purchases ? Or about what is on TV ?
2006-11-11 23:58:42 · 6 answers · asked by meiguanxi :) 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The great thing about GLBT relationships is you don't fall into any social or historical requirements about these things...let the better capable person (or person who likes doing it more) do it. Oila! Problem solved.
I tend to cook, do dishes, and general household cleaning because I tend to like doing it more...or at least am more bugged when it's not done well. My partner does laundry, vehicle maintainence, and bill paying because he's obsessive about these things and I'm not (which is funny since I was educated in accounting.) It all works out.
2006-11-12 00:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Gamerbear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The one that knows how to cook would be the best one for the job when it comes to cooking or the one who is home earliest . I would say both should do the shopping or the one who will be going by the store. Who pays, well that depends whos the one making the most money or just put all the cash together and that way you both are paying. What to watch on tv now that one is really simple , you get two tvs and there will never be an arguement about what you watch. I dont care who it is there is no way in hell I would spend time watching a soccor game but instead of trying to get them to change the channel I will just turn on another set some where else. that way everyone is happy. Really I dont see a relationship having tasks that should be divided , what needs to be done should just get done by whoever is most capable and who ever is in the area at the time something should be done. Its like if a person has been working late all week and the other hasnt and has had a couple of days off and the lawn needs cutting the one that should do it is the one who had the days off man or woman. If both parties always pick up thier own mess there wont be a cleaning issue. I really dont see any task around the house as being assigned to one or the other or being a mans or a womans job. Some people will say one cook and the other do the dishes but me personally I like to be doing the dishes as I am cooking so there really arent many dishes to do except for the plates that we eat off of and do those as I put the leftovers away. When it comes to laundry I would make sure the one that does do it knows what they are doing so you dont end up with everything being one color or shrunk. Truthfully if you are tripping on who is going to what now so early in your relationship I dont think it will be a relationship very long. If you love each other things will just fall into place and neither should think that the other is a maid and both pick up thier own mess.
2006-11-12 08:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by hersheynrey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can divide them however you want.
I found that dividing up cleaning tasks is definitely in order. You want those expectations set up front so there is no resentment on "who does what".
Purchases should be done together if both are going to use it. That avoids grumbling.
If you both like to cook...set up days to cook that make sense for the other person's schedule. If one hates cooking, make that a cleaning "task" for the person that likes it.
What is on TV...you compromise or get 2 TV's if you can't...or get TIVO.
My experience it is VERY important to do this up front. It avoids stupid arguments that hurt a relationship.
2006-11-12 08:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
cooking can be done by both but the only thing is guys mess up. It is better if any one person decides.
2006-11-12 08:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by leena_070586 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The women spend everything and does noting the man does everything and spends nothing..... Wouldn't it be nice if it wasn't just a dream.
2006-11-12 08:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by Deanna D 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I find consensus the best method.
2006-11-12 08:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋