I always thought it meant you were gay but now that I think about it, not so much gay. What do you think? Also, what if you catch yourself looking at a guy but know that you are not gay.
2006-11-11 21:49:09 · 19 answers · asked by kirr45 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like I say it all the time but I have really only done it like 5 times in my life.
2006-11-11 21:54:09 · update #1
It is not 'gay' to recognize that another person of the same sex is attractive, handsome, or good-looking. It is not something that you consciously do, it is almost automatic. It is based on deep rooted survival instincts, we all have this ability. Attractive and healthy people are seen a viable and able, they were perhaps good providers and had social power in a group.
Socially, attractive people are assumed to be smarter, more capable, and more like-able. It is unfortunate that it happens, but employers are more likely to hire someone known to be attractive by societies standards, as they are thought to be more competent. It's hard-wired into are psyche. You can look at people and find them attractive, but unless you look at them with an interest to be sexual with them, sexuality is not an issue.
Sexuality, being straight, homosexual, bisexual, or 'gay' is very specifically related to a desire to be 'sexual' with someone of the same sex. It is very much the same as feelings between a male-female couple. This can mean a non-sexual relationship, but involves a desire or love for that person in a romantic way, wanting to be with them sexually or non-sexually in an exclusive way, with a deep emotional bond.
Sexuality and "SEX" are not the same either. Just because a man has sex with a woman, it does not mean he is straight the same way that two individuals of the same sex having sex does not make them gay. There is a difference between the ACT of sex and the romantic attraction of sexuality.
Hope that answers some of your questions,
2006-11-11 22:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ket-Su Jhuzen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong, and not necessarily gay either... it depends on the context. Even if you are not gay, you know whether someone of the same sex is attractive looking or not. Nothing is wrong with noticing that. If you're flirting with him or saying, "hi handsome" that starts to look a little gay.... lol... but just noticing it doesn't mean anything. And everyone looks at each other... its human curiosity! As long as you're not completely checking them out. If you're doing it, you'll know the difference.
2006-11-11 22:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by cartmansmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's neither gay or wrong to call another person that he/she is handsome/beautiful; I'm a female and straight but there are times that I see other beautiful women and I just state it. But when you say that you are "looking" at a guy, then it might be slightly different; if you catch yourself staring at a handsome guy it might mean that you are a bi-sexual; and if there's a possibility, well it's not wrong at all.....My opinion and i hope I didn't offend you....
2006-11-11 22:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by inatuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and no. If your secure with your heterosexuality, you should be able to admit if a guy is attractive or not. Clearly all us straight guys know if a guy is attarctive (wether admit it or not) because in order to date pretty chicks, you have to know your competition, so guys all know what guys are good looking or not. Otherwise, how could we know how to compete and make ourselves look good enough for the chicks?
Guys who can't admit it have sexuality issues, and probably gay or bi or sexually confused. Guys who point out attractive guys too much, like he's all about it, are again probably gay, or bi, or sexually confused. There's a balance.
But also, in todays society, I wouldn't mention out loud so much what guy is attractive or not because in this man hating society, just about anything you do is considered gay, weak, effeminate, stupid, imature, etc, etc. Unless your drinking a beer and talking about football, your gay. And even then your considered a supress gay. Don't drop the soap around these homophobic folks.
2006-11-11 21:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Now, if you wanted to have a relationship with the guy, then it's gay. Just acknowledging that another guy is handsome isn't gay unless you're attracted to him.
2006-11-11 21:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by i luv teh fishes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless one of the guys is gay. Dude, chill. You can't make yourself queer by talking. Saying that Elvis Presley was a handsome man, doesnt make you gay, it makes you a good observer of humanity. Guys who can't deal with that are closer to being gay than you are. Plus they're scared of it. Thats why they dont want to hear it.
2006-11-11 21:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by messier 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's just a general comment on someone's looks, then no its not gay. The fact of life is some people are more attractive than others.
Now, if you find yourself looking at men and getting aroused, then you're probably have latent homosexual tendencies
2006-11-11 21:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by Nija 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think so. if you are praising someones qualities then it shows that how observant you are. most of the fathers say that " my son is too handsome and intelligent" then you mean that they are gay ?? its just the way of expressing in words whatever you feel for the person. if one thinks like you then 90% people will be les and gays. so chill. its just ones observation.
2006-11-11 21:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it wrong to say he's intelligent, or blonde, or funny? Nope. I think it's simply an observation. Some people, men and women, are just beautiful. If you're appreciating that beauty, it's not necessarily sexual. It could simply be that you recognize they have unique qualities.
2006-11-11 21:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that Expressing your feelings os gay. If you feel that the guy is looking good , then you are just expressing it in words. There is nothing wrong in that !
Pleasure to HELP !
Salik
2006-11-11 21:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by Salik K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋