I left my spouse 5 mths ago. Met a terrific guy who is unhappily married. His wife has moved out, moved back in etc over the past couple of months. he says they are deffinitely getting a divorce, just arguring over property settlements. i see him 2 or 3 times a week, sometimes he stays at my place for a couple of days at a time. we really get along with or without sex. we laugh, we like the same music, our views are very similar. you would think we had known each other our whole lives. i just worry sometimes about maybe this will not work out, he won't get divorced etc and i am not good at just having an affair. i really do believe him and i want us to be together, what are the chances you think>
2006-11-11 21:33:33 · 13 answers · asked by loveseat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Id like to say good luck and that it will.......BUT....you need to remember that you dont know what things are like on the otherside of the fence.....how is it possible that everything is her fault.....i dont honestly think it is, there surely must be reasons why she has moved out on him so many times.....i think you should ask to meet his wife, to understand all aspects of the relationship.....if not for anything, but your peice of mind to know, that things are really as he says.....
2006-11-11 21:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you left your spouse 5 months ago you are almost certainly in rebound mode, which means you aren't a very good bet for a relationship. If he is still married, then he is a terrible bet. So the chances are slim.
My suggestion. . . stop seeing this guy. In fact, don't see anyone for a while, a year or longer. Take some time to figure out what happened in your marriage, especially what YOUR role was. Take some more time to figure out who you are and what you want. Do not start dating again until you know the answers to these questions. And when you do start dating again, don't date men who are still married, even if they are separated, or who haven't done the emotional work you've done.
Remember this: it is much, much better to be single than it is to be in a bad relationship!
2006-11-12 03:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the true feelings you both feel and share.However,please Be careful,due to the fact that his wife moved out,then back in,this could be one of those,(have your cake and eat it to).I surely hope not for your sake,but so far the signs of what you are stating are not to secure for a stable relationship with you.He doesn't need his wife to move back into the home to settle anything,that is what telephones and lawyers are for.Also,she couldn't of moved back into the home without his knowledge to begin with.I personally would put his loyalty of this relationship to a test.I would tell him that you don't want to be second to someone that he claims he doesn't love and wants away from,along with not wanting just an affair or fling,that when he gets everything settled to call you and let you know,then you both can move forward as planned.If he doesn't settle anything,he never intended to,and you would be better off to realize this now,if this would be the case,then to be made a fool of and hurt even more as time goes by.For your happiness and dreams,i hope things work out to the fulliest for you,so best of luck to you always!
2006-11-11 21:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loveseat: wake up Honey and smell the roses, your having an affair and he's enjoying it to the 'nths.
He has you suckered in and has the best of two worlds, when he tires of one, he goes to the other.
I'd like to know how he got the two of you and if there's any more of you to go around. It's a nice operation.
2006-11-11 22:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when w get away from our partners willingly or unwillingly, we will be emtionally weak and we will find all those persons as gud whoever supports us with their words,and their friendly nature and many more. but we will be in the confused stage whther to believe such person or not, when w r n such condition, i think w hav to b frndly with that person who r colse to us instead of planning to settle with them,becoz we will require sumtime to understand a person when we become sure about our decison,that s whn we feel our decision is right only than we can proceed further, i think so.
2006-11-11 21:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by sweetu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one million. Have the youngsters on the two area met and frolicked collectively? 2. How do they sense approximately each and every of you and the two one in all you being collectively? 3. have you ever "all" accomplished issues collectively as a relatives? in case you replied confident to all of those then it is going to paintings out. What i could recommend doing is calling the two instruments of youngsters their feeling on the two one in all you being married and being their step parent. in step with their reaction you bypass from there..
2016-10-17 04:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by swindler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe these sort of relationships making it, is very slim to nothing.
He needs to be free as you are. Otherwise the future will be grim. Why jump from relationship to another one.
2006-11-11 21:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that people who are not free and get into a relationship with another person is cheating on their spouse. neither of you is divorced.
2006-11-11 21:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they divorced the first time, they'll probably do it a second time. Unless they actually learned from their first terrible decision.
2006-11-11 21:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are alot of single guys out there. I mean when are we going to find that right one if she keeps running to married men.
2006-11-11 21:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Head 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋