I love with a married lady, a staff member of my spouse, she has also favour for me, but social limits ...?

Question

But social limits block us to openly show our love and affections to each other, I want her association but also maintained with my spouce and family. We both are satisfied with our spouces and family relations, but wants association of her merried beautiful nice lady without disturbing our merried life. How it is possible ?

Answer 1

Emotional Love may not be possible
at all, nor you should attempt it.

Love for romance may be just Okay.

She may need you for her sexual desires
and vice versa.

She may be very attractive and beautiful,
and intelligent- may be more than your
wife. But having emotional bondage
is bad. You may have a relationship with
her and tell her about your inability to leave
the wife.

You may go out for having fun. But at the same time,
you have to ensure that nothing spoils by display
of our love. Shortly, the lady love would realise
that she was on a wrong trip and disassociate
physical relationship with you.

I am not Hypocrate to say that these things
do not exist in our society.

Most of the males, and females, if get a
chance, they will enter into such an affair,
because it does not require any emotional/
social/financial obligations and "till die" sort
of understanding.

When time comes, you or she may realise
the mistakes of the past and regret.

Bhagwat Gita, also tells you to do such
a thing, which you may like. There
are instances in our old Epics, when
the Munis or Great Saints had similar
affairs. Menaka, Rambha, Urbashi
etc. may be read by all answerers.

This is not termed as prostitution. This
is just exchange of love for a temporary
pleasure, without any obligation to each
other or for future. You can be the best
friend as well, while in love.

If both of you ramain happy for few moment,
why the world should be jealous about you-
may be because they did not have any
such opportunity.

Most importantly, the womens' mind(including
the mind of wife as well), has never been
understood by any husband. It may be just
1%, women, who must be so expressive to
their husband. It is the most complicated
mind of a living animal.

All the philosophers, and wise men will agree
with my view point.

Why married people visit prostitutes?
It is because they are not happy with their
wives.?
They are asking for too much of sex
from their wives?
Their wives are too much concerned
about their retaining youth?
To make excuses of children being
awake at night?
They hate experiments of different
poses for sexual pleasure?

What if the person has extramarital
affairs for some time with peace
and tranquality, which may not have
been available at home.

If (a wife) she has some affair like
that, how can you know that and what
can you do . You cannot take her
for a Narco Analysis Test in Bangalore,
to find the truth. like a policeman.

Jaelous people will always curse
such affairs. It is as simple as an incident:
When we see a street dog attempting
to screw a *****, don't we feel the heat
in your mind and look at it
at such a fashion, that you have not seen it
and not liking the show for free.
If we say no, we are hypocrates.

Lucky are those, who are happy everywhere.

Answer 2

Go ahead and be true to your luck. You need no advise, just follow the instinct. Answer of Pianist is perfect and moreover best possible realistic openion. I already safely had and once again having such a realationship and enjoying to the fullest. If you dont harm anybody, nothing is wrong as it is sure that you both have some unspent love which must be taken care of before life ends. Need not think of ethics and morals and never try to define the relationship just live it.
You both are lucky............Congrats

Answer 3

Wow, you talk as if it is a simple business arrangement. Don't you realize the gravity of what you are planning to do? You say that you are satisfied with both of your families and spouses. Why then do you want to create trouble and problems? Because basically, this is what you are trying to do. Just because of your desire to satisfy your cravings, you are willing to trade the peace and happiness of two families. Stick it out with your family and tell her to do the same. Be faithful to your particular spouses. An hour or so of carnal pleasure could not be enough to compensate for the lifetime grief and trouble both of your families will endure if you proceed with your plan. Think of your kids and hers and most especially of your wife and her husband. Think of karma.

Answer 4

"Since when do the taxpayers, hire personal staff for the first lady? She is not in a government recognized position, up until the last few administrations all first ladies had personal staff hired with personal money." You have answered your own question. If you don't like it it, contact your congress people. They could cut the funds from the budget. It's kind of like peeing in the ocean. The money spend on this is minuscule compared to other expenses. "Why are they spending our tax dollars like Hussein spent his?" Laura Bush's staff cost us about $1 million per year.

Answer 5

Are you cracked? You don't sound satisfied and I'll bet your wife isn't either. If you want to act single then be single otherwise grow up and act like a man. This is a no win situation.

Answer 6

If you keep on living complicated life, then one day you will be hurting others and yourself in the precess, once the facts are known then you will have to live the life of an outcast and no one will trust you forever. So please think very carefully what you have embarked upon.

Answer 7

Are you kidding? If you are happy with your spouse you wouldn't seek another's attention to begin with. I don't see how it's possible to have an affair and not disturb your married life.

Answer 8

It's a crush just be honest to the people[life partners]who trust u guys. will u accept if your spouse behaves in such a way?.Stop the sin.

Answer 9

you are sexually attracted to her not in love with her as you are married you should know what love is or it is when you married your wife you don't even know what love is!! as i have said before on another question everything we can go for it but just remember to face the consequences arises.

take time to relex think it over find the meaning of love not everyone knows the meaning of love

Answer 10

umm quite frankly...its not possible. There is no way you can be truly happy in both situations and it is not fair to your wife..don't cheat yourself or your wife...either stop the affair or come clean and get a divorce