2006-11-11 20:27:02 · 14 answers · asked by Jagdish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, for one thing your wife and children are NOT TO BE ORDERED like grunts in the army!
Your wife is not your subservient, she is a life partner who has an equal say in how your SHARED household is run and an equal say in how your children are raised.
Your mistake is giving your family orders as if you were a general and they were grunt privates!
Okay? Now treat your family like a family and not a platoon!
2006-11-11 20:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by WhatAmI? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start with yourself. Look at your writing, it says, "I am a lazy person!" You need to change your own attitudes. Marriage requires you to work at it every day. Your wife has devoted her life to you, you should make every effort to treat her with the great respect this deserves.
Here are some things to do:
Put the toilet seat down when you've been to the bathroom.
Clean up the floor if you made a mess.
Wash the basin after you've shaved.
Always wear respectable clothes when you go out with her.
Always say thank you for dinner.
If she asks you to help her, don't make excuses without good reason. Go and help as soon as you can.
Never shy away from doing menial tasks.
Never get drunk.
Never spend to much time at work. She didn't marry a space on the sofa.
Never gamble (more than a few dollars).
Never use illegal drugs.
Never look at porn on the internet, don't buy porno mags, throw out all your porn stuff, yes all of it, ask your wife to help you if you can't manage it. If you can burn it that is even better. If the Devil came to your house and asked to come in would you let him? No Way! So why do you invite his friends in? After you have thrown it out you will find the behavior of the family will improve.
Never shout at her unless it is an emergency. If you are in control you don't need to shout. The same applies with the children, don't shout unless you have a very very good reason.
This list sounds very difficult, but it isn't if you have the right heart attitude. Don't announce your change in heart to the family, keep it to yourself. They will soon see the difference. As I said above, you have to work on your marriage every day. Also, listen to your wife, she is your best friend.
As I said, start with yourself. If you memorize this list and follow it religiously you will find it difficult, if you memorize "She loves me, I will do my very best to be the good husband she deserves" then the list will be very easy.
Lastly, pray for the family every night before you go to sleep.
2006-11-11 21:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by Bad bus driving wolf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you too demanding? Are you trying to make your wife and children a prisoner in their home? Do you consider it to be just your home or is it their home too? In most homes the mother disciplines the children. Maybe you want to be a dictator and be in complete control. Why don't you think it over and change yourself so you can be happy and have a happy home. It is easier to be kind than it is to be angry and being kind feels good. Just love them and let go of your anger.
2006-11-11 20:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by DeeJay 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if wife & children not listening your order, get a waiter to take the order and repeat it to them...
Try to be good cook! Do not be manager!
2006-11-11 22:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by Goombul! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ordered? No wonder they aren't listening. Your mistake is ordering them. Maybe you should try asking them. You would not like being ordered to do things.
2006-11-11 20:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
one thing i can't understand your question. maybe they can't understand your order. people will do more things for you if you ask them in a nice way. do you say one thing and do another. do you joke or play around with your children if so may be that's why they don't take you serious. mean what you say and say what you mean.
2006-11-11 20:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try negotiating with your wife. tell her why your idea is better...dont try to force the idea...suggest it. and your kids....if they are young kids 5-10 you need to show them that YOU ARE the voice of authority. you dont let them walk all over you. ground them, tell them they cant watch any TV/videogames, make them do house cleaning. you might as well start disaplining them young since when they get older...itll get harder to tell them why theyre idea is bad compared to yours. if theyre older...the best way is to talk to them and respect them like adults.
2006-11-11 20:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mistake was dropping out of school.
2006-11-11 20:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by Haven 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Think it over, what have you done that they are not listening to your order. Have you done something wrong?
2006-11-11 20:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by Cutebunny 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I cant believe people are answering questions that make absolutely no SENSE!
2006-11-11 20:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by wifey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋