How should I come out to my parents?
2006-11-11 20:18:04 · 16 answers · asked by tanner_hammock 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
OK, how about this great classic.
It's Thanksgiving dinner, you say to your father, "Dad, would you pass the yams to a homosexual?"
That should work.
2006-11-12 01:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Chances are they already have a pretty good hint either way. I wouldn't take any advice on this situation, as only you know your relationship with them and what their inclinations are. If you live with parents who were openly hostile to gays and lesbians, make plans so you have a safe place to go if they react badly. If mom and dad have always been very supportive, involved, and have friends of all sorts, just letting it out one day may be all that's needed. You might even end up coming out to one parent and not the other first, and get see how it works. Unfortunately not a lot here strangers can help you work out!
2006-11-12 08:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by Gamerbear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person is different, so how you come out will be different. If you have any gay friends, ask them about how they came out. Know when the time is right, There are good times and bad times for doing so. I came out by way of a gay men's chorus. I like to think that I outed a gay choir to my mother to come out myself. Just take it easy, no need to hit them over the head with it. It will take some time to adjust. If they don't want to go into the discussion at that time, that is okay. You could check out some of the support groups available.
2006-11-12 11:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by David Y 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question. i think the best thing fo ryou to do is to go to a place that will give you support first. if you think their might be some opposition to you opening up to your family, try to find a safe haven for you. find a local LGBT center and ask them about ways to do it. they have great insight and resources for you and your parents. i wish i would have known that when i came out. Just be strong and confident in who you are. if this is what makes you happy do it. and if you wnat your family to at least understand who you are go and get those resources.
2006-11-12 05:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by kristina h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like Diana Ross song! Come on out and let the world konw!
2006-11-12 10:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by Vanity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi mom hi dad this is my boyfriend? Mom, dad you guys support me? Then I hope you voted for gay and lesbian weddings. If you every want to have an in-law. Mom, dad you guys want to play charades? Go to the closet walk in the walk out. Get the message, mom and dad?
2006-11-12 05:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by wondermom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be honest about it, but dont expect they wont be shocked. they will have emotions that will need to be dealt with. it may not go well at first but they are your parents and what or who you are should not matter to them. just do it in a respectful way, remember as hard as it is for you it is equally going to be as hard for them.
2006-11-12 07:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need more information...how old are you? are you able to be financially independent if things don't go right. Is one parent likely to be more supportive?
2006-11-12 06:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say, "Mom ... Dad ... I love you ... and I'm gay.... I hope that won't make a difference in our relationship."
If it does make a difference to them, then it won't have mattered *what* you said or how you informed them. Don't worry about their acceptance, just be true to yourself.
2006-11-12 05:05:16 · answer #9 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends where you at. But I think for most ocassions you will have to walk out.
2006-11-12 07:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by Johny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋