I want to do something but my friend is being influenced by bad people and worse decisions. Any advice?
2006-11-11 20:16:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The same thing happened to me this summer.
I confronted her and she shot me down.
She had one of her new "friends" send me an 8 paragraph hate letter stating that I was just "jealous".
What was there to be jealous of?
If she doesn't listen to you (as much as it hurts), tell yourself "Hey, it's her a*s that's getting f*cked. Not mine! I don't care.".
She'll learn her lesson sooner or later.
2006-11-11 20:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by Gwyn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My best friend died from a heroin OD ten years ago and to this day I wonder if there was anything I could have done to stop her. Addiction to drugs has nothing to do with anybody but the person using it. It is a very selfish thing to do drugs. She did not listen to me when i tried to tell her how bad it was she told me that she knew it was bad but she was in control.When she was off her high she cared that I disapproved but when she was high she was invinsible and really couldn't give a crap.
Her back ground was one of powerlessness so to be on something that made her feel so good was something she could not refuse. I don't know what happened and ten years later I'm still guessing. But I know in my heart that in the end nothing I could do or say would have made her stop. Be there for her as much as you can. Don't give her money she'll use it for drugs tell your parents not to borrow her money either. Don't leave her alone in your house without watching her she will steal your stuff you will feel bad and your friendship might take a blow.
It is not easy being a friend to a junkie. But my best friend and I were bonded. we met in first grade and we stuck together through sick and sin for 16 years. there were moments that i thought to give up the friendship especially when she came to our house and stole some stuff. when she was on drugs it was like she had a really evil twin sister but i knew she was still in there somewhere.there were moments when i would get a glimps of her. She was on drugs for four yours befor they found her in a basement toilet of an in inner city appartment block. She died on a friday night we were supposed to meet for breakfast the next morning together. Saturday morning i called her to tell her to get her as* out of bed u see since i knew her she was always late for everything.when her mother picked up her phone i knew she was dead. she just said that they found her body 2 hours ago.Wow now im just ranting. in the end you can only except people for who they choose to be.and decide for yourself if you are willing to put up with them.
2006-11-12 05:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I'm glad I'm not that close to anyone I'm not related to. But hey when someone is on drugs the only help that you can give them is the honest. To them though the DRUGS are more important than anything. I mean you may have to try a little tough love!
2006-11-12 11:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by Saude! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling this person what to do may "blow up in your face" (you've already mentioned accusations--what if it pushes your friend ove the top?
So tell your friend (it's easier for me to say than to DO!!!) that you love him/her, that you don't want thak kind of activity (drugs) in your life, and that you'll always welcome her/him with open arms if the drug part disappears. Tell her/him how much you value his/her friendship and that this new behahvior is too unhealthy for you to condone or associate with. Then say goodbye, and you know where to reach me (give a hug if you can).
Waiting to give this loving and yet rigid boimdaru is not going to help: your friend is already throwing obstacles (accusations, avoidance) into your mutual path. You simply need to acknowledge what those obstacles mean to you and then (this is the MOST difficult!) get on with your life and pass any thoughts of this person up to God.
2006-11-12 04:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by Yenelli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Praying for him is the only sure-fire way to help him. In addition you could try to talk to him, not judgementally, but as someone who cares. I've been down the drug route and it was only through the prayers of those who loved and cared for me can I now honestly say I have been drug free for over 4 years.
2006-11-12 04:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by Paul S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to her and if this doesn't work then tell a close parent or guardian one that you can trust to try and help her get out of the situation that she is in there must be a reason onto why she is doing this, but always make sure she knows that u will be there for her and no matter what try and stick it out for her.
2006-11-12 04:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by i_love_john_cena_009 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, to her parents, friends, anyone doesn't matter if she says she hates you and doesn't need you, take her to the doctor, lock her iin her room, take her to a clinic, don't let her get near those people and specially DRUGS.
2006-11-12 04:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by spicylady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to take ur frnd out from that frns circle in which he have learnt all the bad habbits. then take him to any consultant or if u r gud at advicing, advice hm how harmful it is, and try to take him to sum rehabilitation centers which is n ur town.
2006-11-12 05:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by sweetu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show your friend there is fun without drugs. Hire a prostitute and some liquor and prove to him drugs are bad mmmkay.
2006-11-12 04:21:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would reach out to him as the person probably wants some help and is looking for someone to trust. no-one wants to be a junkie.
2006-11-12 04:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋