Hi... I've been friends with this bengali muslim girl for more than year already and we see each other in school... and recently for the past 2 months we've been calling each other everyday and talking for 2-3 hrs every night about anything and everything and she is someone I can see myself with. However, she's muslim and she can only marry another muslim I think? I never brought up about me liking her or what not.. but I just really like her company and I would do anything for her. Can anyone give me any thoughts on this and if there are any muslim girls, can you please give me your opinions? I'm chinese and I would marry her, but I wouldn't want to bring it up until I get some clarity on this issue because I wouldn't want to jeopardize what we have now. Also, I noticed in school, she doesn't really talk to me much when her muslim friends are around. But when they aren't, we would always talk... And I would also like to know if us talking so much on the phone means anything.
Thanks!
2006-11-11 20:10:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And I don't know if some of you know this, but muslim women can't date, so I can only get married.. And I am chinese and I have no religion =X so... I wouldn't mind converting
2006-11-11 20:12:29 · update #1
Hello!
I knew a fellow many years ago whose father was Chinese and his mother was from Pakistan. So, it can happen.
He was raised in the USA and by the time he was in college he had become Christian.
I also knew a Pakistani girl who ended up marrying an American of northern European ancestry. She had grown up in the USA and was not practicing Muslim though.
So the cultural and religious differences can be overcome.
But here's a big BUT......
Is her family a more modern, Westernized Muslim or the fearsome traditional family where the father would think nothing of killing her for showing interest in an "infidel"? Lots of Muslim girls are victims of honor killings for things like showing interest in non-Muslim suitors.
If you are living in the USA or Canada you would have FREEDOM to chart your own course and live your own lives without the frightening consequences I just described hanging over your heads.
Good luck!
2006-11-11 20:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by WhatAmI? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Muslims are protective and care to their daughter, because girls will be a mothers and Muslims give respect to all mothers. The position of mother is high in Muslim world. Muslims people don't want to damage/break their mothers/women/girls. And also good Muslim girls must protect and care herself. That's why Muslims don't allow their girls/women to become sex objects/ pornography/ porno actions. You will know if you learn Islam in right sources.
Yes, good Muslims girls never take date. The way to do is to arrive to her house and communicate with her and her family/parents and show that you can responsible to her. You can convert to be Muslim but it should be because you understand and accept Islam as your way of life, not because you want to marry her. So it's better you learn Islam before you decided to marry.
Actually many Muslims in China. You can find a lot of Chinese Muslim tribes there. And you have to know that the famous Gen. Sam Pho Kong in Yuan dynasty (I hope it's right) was Muslim.
So what do you think?
2006-11-11 20:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by eddy 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well I mean...you COULD marry her but depending on how serious about her religion she and her family are it may cause serious issues. I bet if she truly wanted to and thought it was worth it she would take the chance. Talking on the phone means she likes your conversation. Don't read so much into that one and if you really wanna know...ask her not us retards floating in cyberspace whose answers will be clouded by our own biases and such.
2006-11-11 20:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by blackdahliagrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem. So long as the husband is the same religion as the Muslim woman's.
2006-11-15 10:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by farhansallehin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi im muslim as to our religion she cant get marry from you unless you be muslim this the only way unless she want to get over her religion but i dont think she do it so why you dont read more about islam and see what in it
2006-11-11 20:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by TITO 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Muslim people are very religious. So, they will married only if the chinese will convert to musli religion.
2006-11-11 20:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the girl and her family, but yes you are supposed to be Muslim. But talk to her.
2006-11-11 20:17:28 · answer #7 · answered by Ricky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a civil marriage and u can both stay in your faith
2006-11-11 20:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by q6656303 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ifm they love each other to overcome the herrendous hurdles in their wat, go for it but it seems a bit strange and highly irregulart
2006-11-11 20:13:42 · answer #9 · answered by devora k 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well wat do yall parents think?dey mite not b ok wit da situation.but luv is luv so follow ur heart.
2006-11-11 20:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by numba_1_babii 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋