My best friend is having her birthday on December 4th, which is a Monday. She is a girl, I am a guy, and we're just friends, nothing more... OK, that's the background.
I offered to take her out for dinner during the preceding weekend. She doesn't want me to do anything special, and wants it treated as just another day. I wasn't going to do anything too fancy, just a nice quiet meal somewhere. Her comment was (in a text message): I just don't want a fuss, I'm not worth it.
She's my best friend, and we've been there for each other so much recently. She's special to me, and it should be her special day. Should I force the issue, or back off completely? I feel like there may be other issues at play, so I don't want to upset her by being too pushy.
Does anyone have any constructive thoughts on how I should proceed here?
2006-11-11 19:44:54 · 8 answers · asked by Tiger1980 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I should also point out... I don't want anything to happen in the 'romantic' sense. We're best friends, and that's the way I want it to stay. I just want her to be happy!
2006-11-11 20:01:35 · update #1
Tell her everything you wrote here. You're good!
best of luck...
2006-11-11 20:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Balls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make something simply and memorable lunch/dinner. something sweet from a best friend. sure, it is okay to bring her out on that day eventhough it is just the two of you.
I recently planned with my very best and special friend's boyfriend to make her a surprise birthday party on her birthday...which she thought that she would be celebrating with her boyfriend only. But actually, me and her other closest friends will be waiting in the apartment and will surprise her with gifts and birthday cake once she comes back with her dinner outing with her boyfriend. So I brought her out and just us together a few days earlier before the event so she wouldn't be so suspicious or anything. Anyway, it was such a happy and fun event. Not many people yet memorable for her.
Try something simple, a little goofy (with some laughters) and fun.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-12 07:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by photographer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe it's a female thing, like her, I always say that I HATE birthdays and don't want anyone to make a fuss about it. However, I know I'd be furious if people listened. If she's not seeing someone, you don't have to worry about messing up someones plans and should take her out to dinner. If she is with someone and there is a chance that plans are made, get her a card and a gift card to her favorite store. Hope it all works out.
2006-11-12 03:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by graduatecj08 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should still take her out. youre friends.. and friends go out all the time. to keep it easy going between the 2 of you, i think you should just let her know that it isnt anything fancy... just dinner for her bday gift. if its still going to be awkward for her, let her choose the place and you take her there. im sure she'd pick a laid back kinda place to kill the romance that may occur.
she's at that point where she thinks if it goes any further than friendship, it might ruin the bond you guys have.
2006-11-12 03:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by bjperez07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You Should Take Her To Your Place .. and After Dinner Have A Singe Cupcake with a lit candle in it and a card .. Amazing
2006-11-12 03:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by untouchedangel06 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would let it go. Aske her to meet for coffee or something else you normally would do together and bring a simple but meaningful gift. A book about friends would be nice.
2006-11-12 04:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by rowes_yoyo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be polite, try something if she backs away just tell her it was a stupid thing to do. Sometimes people don't like to look as théy're themselves onto people, but deep inside they want it.
2006-11-12 03:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by spicylady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honor her wishes, give her a call and tell her happy birthday, bring a little gift and card to her, and maybe a cupcake with a candle on it, spend time with her, make her laugh....
2006-11-12 04:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by churchonthewayseniors 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋