Why are more people living together instead of getting married?

Question

I mean you mine as well marry if you are gonna live together... Right? Especially if you have kids???

Gotta love the excuses... We as people lack integrity and common sense. Anything worth having requires work...

Answer 1

It is an overall increasing belief in our culture that people think they have to try before they buy. The reality is that the divorce rate among people who live together and marry is much higher than people who marry and haven't lived together or had sex for that matter.

Many people are afraid to committ to the act of marriage because they are weak. In all my years of counseling people, I most often heard people say, "it's only a piece of paper" If marriage is only a piece of paper then why don't you get married? I was almost always answered with silence. \

The truth is, why should a weak male, who wants to come and go when he pleases, marry a woman when she stoops so low as to give him all the benefits of marriage without marriage. Women are so desperate for intimacy that they are willing to trade their souls for false intimacy and security. If you want the best, then you have to demand it. Don't have sex until you're married and demand that your man be a man.

There was a time when it was rare to see a woman with children and unmarried. Now it is the norm and women complain that their men won't pay child support and won't be a father to their children. More than 70% of Black American familes lack a father in the home. The reality is that the best solution is to have a married couple with children, working together like two mature adults to raise their children to be mature adults.

Try before you buy is baloney. A man has a penis and a woman has a vagina....in more than 99% of the cases, one size fits all. It isn't sex that that's a challange to perfect in our culture, it's love and intimacy. Never confuse sex and love for intimacy. Any one can have sex, few men and few woman are interested in holding out for love and intimacy.

You get what you settle for and if you get the milk for free, why buy the cow?

Answer 2

How outdated is he. once you get married there are a number of criminal responsibilities, you're finding at this long term and an eternal courting, he could be questioning issues could replace in 7 years time. And howdy guess what issues would be distinctive in 7 years time, i could decrease backpedal, in case you do no longer desire that challenge. the final factor me and my companion did grew to become into no longer get married, she gave it 2 years, 11 years later she provides it 18 months to two years LOL. I agree as we haven't had a controversy for extra or less 6 years, yet neither persons wished to dedicate on the time, and thank you to each little thing being consistently up interior the air, this is unclear we will. start to examine what your likes and dislikes are, do you spend all your spare time doing comparable issues. If he's under 25 then wait till he's around 26, 27 and notice what the placement is, becuase he would be a distinctive human being, and so will you. And while you're actually not married and make sure to area, there'll be an hassle-free chop up. while you're married there'll be blood everywhere.

Answer 3

Because they can. Plain and simple.

Society is NOT what it once was. This is no longer unaaceptable by most means. People just look at it as the norm. People have children out of wedlock (myself included) and it doesn't carry the same stigma it once did. Women have sex before married like it's a first kiss. Like it's normal.

Sex isn't looked at the same as it once was and everything else is following.

If you allow yourself to look at sex as a casual thing, then it's only normal that you would live togeter without being married.

Why get married if you can do all the stuff a married couple does without going through that actual committment. If you are just living together with kids, you don't have to worry about splitting up assets or your wife divorcing you and demanding alimony and child support if you screw up.

Basically, what I am saying is...people live together and have kids out of wedlock because both people and society as a whole have allowed it.

Answer 4

I think some people just want to play house. No real commitment' Have fun while it last' If it feels good do it. I see so many on yahoo answers asking questions about there cheating boy friends. They don't seem to understand that if a man is not committed to a relationship he is going to play with any girl that will. If a man loves you good enough to marry you' Then most likely if he is being treated right at home he will come home to you and the kids. He is in love with his family. He is committed. If he doesn't want to marry' You may as well say that he doesn't love you enough to commit. He wants to leave when he gets ready. No real love' No respect. And for the ones that use health insurance for a excuse not to marry' Simply put' If the man has a decent job he can always put the wife on his ins'. Unless that is the lie your boy friend is telling to keep you silent.

Answer 5

People say that they want to live with someone because they want to see if the relationship will last. However, I've always thought that is what dating was for. If anyone pays attention, the divorce rate is going up and it is directly related to when people started living together instead of tying the knot.
Oh, and when you put kids in the situation. I think it's really damaging to the kids to have moms "boyfriend" living with them. Most of them don't understand what sex is, and if they do they're not going to repect thier mom for having a guy living with them so mommy can get laid. I mean, come on people!
So, in short, I agree with you, I think if you're ready to live together, you might as well just get married first. As my mom would say, "a guy who lives with a girl probably won't marry her because why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". People interpret this as milk=sex, but I think it's more milk=someone to clean, and cook and pay bills.

Answer 6

No, My husband and I were living together for 3 yrs. before we got married and we already had 2 yr. old twins. I think you should live together and share normal life and household experiences first . People tend to hide things from each other and until you live together you don't get to see their other sides. It's hard to believe but some of the little things cause more problems than serious ones do. You need to get a eyes wide open perspective of things before taking that big leap. Our kids know we were not married when they were born, and it hasn't affected them. And in the long run if your not married it's usually a lot less messier and cheaper to end the relationship. We have now been together almost 11 yrs. and I am glad we lived together first!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

What is the divorce rate there? It seems to be easier and financially pain free to get out of a relationship that doesn't work out if not married. There is so much cheating now adays, it is almost accepted. Why get married, many don't commit like they did years before.

Answer 8

In my mind if I love a man enough to live with him, then I love him enough to marry him. Some people don't see the need to marry. They figure that it will be easier to split up that way. I don't plan to ever break up with my man, so marriage is the only way to show how much I truly love him. We are so dedicated to each other that we want to declare it to the world by being married.

Answer 9

Getting married isn't cheap and him and I can't afford it right now. I also don't see the point in it, we don't need rings and a piece of paper to live our lives. We're not going to have kids, so it's not like they'd have issues with last names. And most importantly, I get health insurance benefits as long as I'm in school, and they are revoked if I get married. Having health insurance is a lot more important than a ring on my finger.

Answer 10

I agree. It is becoming more and more acceptable for people to live together with out making life long commitments. But It is so easy then for people to walk out when there are problems.
Marriage is the best!