what if ur friends r not helping u the way u want?

Question

my 1 friend had an brekup , so i talked to her bf, & cleared all misunderstandings between them...i also want my........... any friend to help me like this as i too had an breakup......but i think no one is interested in helping me................why is it like that, i am very upset due to this...................i always help them to cope up with their problems......then why they aren't?

Answer 1

Hi,

Accept the truth,live in present,forget the past,think about future.
Accept these things in life,I assure u will never get disturbed & worried.

Also why do u want to talk 2 that boy who r not interested in u.Search the one who accept u as a friend,who looks ur inner beauty rather than ur externity.

Thanks


Thanks

Answer 2

Because you are an Angel, you did what is expected out of friendship!! Normally people keep friends away from romantic altercations and normally friends consider this as a personal subject. Did you speak to your friends about your problem? Be frank enough to seek their help. All may not understand these situations and only very few friends can help on this matter.

Answer 3

First, many people like to help others, similar like you. For this situation, you have to help as well as you can do. Don't force too much to help others and make you so tired and upset. Try to help because you want to help, don't think that others will give you good responds. Almost people would not thank deeply to the helper, they just only say Thanks and over. So, you have to realize that.

Second, There are not all the problems can be helped by someone else, specially related with intimate relationship (boyfriend-girlfriend, or husband-wife-family), so you have to make limitation for deciding to help somebody. If they ask you, then try your best to help. If they do not ask you, don't try to help that make them feel interfered by you.

Third, as helper we just only can find the superficial of the problems, many factors involved to make the problems occurred. That's why we have to be careful to find the factors and give solutions, don't be careless even though we want to help.

OK. What do you think?

Answer 4

Don't fret. What is important is that you were able to help other people. It is a wonderful feeling, isn't it? They may want to help you out but you don't tell them enough. Ask directly: "Can you help me out, friend ?" I am sure they will...if they are too busy then take consolation in the fact that you were able to help them. The giver earns the graces of good karma.

Answer 5

you can choose your friends but you cannot dictate the WAY they are your friends...be a good friend to them and don't expect anything in return...THAT is a true friend...you aren't being a good friend to them either if you only do things for them in the hopes that they will return the favor...your friendship should be unconditional...

Answer 6

You sound like me! except i prefer keeping my friends at a distance.

I guess it just takes getting closer to them and spending more time on them and maybe your friendship will grow. If not, and they don't chance maybe you could tell them how you feel... you don't have much to lose cos if they're not going to make the effort for you then don't both staying where your not appreciated.

Answer 7

you're like me, you like to help others. But reciprocality is hard to find and life is just hard like that. In the long run, you'll benefit more though. I'm glad there are people like you out there.

Answer 8

You need some friends. The people who you currently think are your friends are obviously just users.

Answer 9

find good friends ...begin with the people who trust you and go on ..you will find them arround the good pepole ..be sure that life full of good friends who realy will care about you and understand you .... and dont forget that (good friends in good places)
good luck

Answer 10

i dont know why people are like that , it really hurts