Communication is the biggest reason parents and children drift apart, followed by lack of understanding and respect of each other needs or wants.
Young people want to experience life, with out constraints put on them by their parents, school teachers and the community. Young people don't realise parents want to keep them safe.
Parents, need to let young people to learn from their mistakes, not ours (parents) we may have done in the past as young people. Young people can be vulnerable, to unscrupulous people taking advantage of them, and its only natural we want to protect our young people.
Saying that young people are quite intelligent, and can easily pick up when something is not right or safe etc. They just have to be given the space to PROVE themselves! Just not to much (yes I am a mother)
Give young people the skills to make choices, that are hopefully the correct ones, if not they learn from their mistakes, and accept the consequences for their choices, weather good or bad.
Communication:
Talk about things that concern us, good or bad, be open, don't hide things from each other.
Listen:
Really listen to each other, hear what is really being said, and acknowledge what is being said.
Respect;
Each others thoughts, feelings and property.
Clear understanding:
Of what is expected of each other, e.g don't swear at me, and I wont swear at you, don't yell, don't throw things around etc
Space:
Bedrooms should be a safe place to go when feeling upset. So if some takes of to the their bedroom, don't follow. They need space to cool down and think.
Praise:
We all need a little praise, for the good things we do, however small they be, just help doing the dishes is a help, and should be acknowledged.
NEVER put each other down, or tell each other they are stupid or dumb, (you can say I don't like what you do, say or wear etc).
Don't have unrealistic choices or options, of each other.
I suspect I may have gone over board, with my thoughts, but I hope it helps a little with every one else thoughts and ideas.
2006-11-11 22:14:15
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answered by Georgie 7
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little ones are very merciless yet extra honest than adults in a good number of procedures. they search out then discuss each and every weak spot. even as being a thoughtful and smart human being may nicely be an income, that is going to draw bullying like a magnet in a baby. yet there's no aspect attempting to forcefully replace your toddler into spontaneous alpha kind through the undeniable fact which will honestly reason extra complications in adulthood. you purely favor to coach some coping options (honestly because you suffered an similar ingredient, you're too close to to the issue, so perhaps getting somebody else to attempt this may be more effective).
2016-11-29 01:38:28
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answered by Anonymous
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1) Parents want to protect their kids and kids need to become individuals and make mistakes
2) Parents used to be kids, but a long time ago and things are different now. Kids don't know what it's like to be a parent and will never truly understand unless they have kids of their own.
2006-11-11 18:13:24
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answered by bizou_bear 3
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trully what keeps parents and children apart is lack of communication because they can be completely different individuals but if they have communication within the family it won't matter...
in my opinion its just lack of communication
2006-11-11 19:10:59
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answered by smiley 1
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when parents try to keep there kids close and try to protect them it could just push them away and if a parent trys to tell them who they can or cant date or be friends with that may also push them away
2006-11-11 23:51:33
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answered by eaw_mkj 2
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EMBARRESESSMENT. oh my god. think of all the embarressing, weird, life changing experience us teenagers go through. instead of telling our parents we usually with draw from them because we feel stupid about asking.
2006-11-11 21:43:58
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answered by carlz 1
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