Am I bisexual, this gets kinda complex!?

Question

Ok, There is this guy, two years younger than me, although he looks about five years younger, with me on my tennis team at school. Lately, I've found myself becoming attracted to him, but not really in a sexual way. I think he is really funny, despite the fact that a lot of people think he has an ego, he has never appeared that way around me. Everytime I am with him, I feel really happy and we always laugh a lot. I know for sure that I am at least straight because thoughts of girls turn me on, but I am starting to feel very close towards this guy. I have a suspicion that he might be bi too, because we do stuff like stroke eachother's hair or squeeze eachother's shoulder in a joking manner, but I don't know for sure. I just want to see what anyone out there things about this.

Answer 1

Logi, only time will tell. You tell us that you are sexually attracted to girls but you don't tell us outright that you are sexually attracetd to any men -- but you do insinuate later that you are bisexual (you say, "I have a suspicion that he might be bi too ...").

Stroking a teammates hair or squeezing his shoulder is not homoerotic; male teammates often hug each other or slap each other on the butt and that is not considered homoerotic either.

I think the question you have to ask yourself is this: Has this happened before, with other men? And then you have to ask yourself: Am I sexually attracted to not only women, but men too at some level? Do you fantasize about having sex with men? Do you enjoy looking at male pornography? These are questions that only you can answer.

I have a secret for you: All men feel the way you do at some point in their lives, about some male friend they are very close to. Most of the time, these romantic/sexual feelings disappear, like a lightswitch being turned off.

Then again, there are a lot of bisexual fellows out there -- but I have to tell you: Without any background information on your associations with other men, we can't really give you a full answer.

You may also be confusing a close, platonic, brotherly friendship for romance.

I hope this helps you.

Answer 2

Look at your question... "Lately, I've found myself becoming attracted to him, but not really in a sexual way"... then you say "I know for sure that I am at least straight because thoughts of girls turn me on". If you are not attracted to him sexually and girls turn you on, thats a pretty good indicator that you are not gay.
That being said, you then say "I have a suspicion that he might be bi too"...
Huh? In a paragraph you went from being straight to being bi.
You went from straight to bi just in asking this question. I think you have a hang up about being labeled as gay, and that is why you started out in your question as being completely straight and suddenly called yourself bi. You know who you are attracted to (sexually), and it is either guys, girls, or something in between.
Be honest with yourself, and you don't need me to tell you how you feel about this guy, (two years younger than you who looks five years younger, it is obvious), but you are scared to like him that way. You only have one chance at life, and having regrets is not the best choice.

Answer 3

I think you're a fairly normal, healthy, well adjusted teenage guy.

Look, my seventeen year old son likes American Musicals, loves theater and costumes, will actually wear make-up on stage with his band and has impeccable taste in clothes...and guess what?

He's straight.
He's athletic, hard working, loves cars and racing, thinks wrestling is cool (ugh) and all the other trappings of "straight male" society...but with all those other interests as well.
He has a girlfriend, who he's been with for three years too.
He's VERY straight, but just not uptight or insecure about his sexuality. He grew up in a theatre family, my partner and I have been involved with community theatre and reenactments since we've been together. He has always been a natural performer, even at eight years old he was always getting the lead roles or really exaggerated roles in school productions and performed with me at our local Renaissance faire....and he had to wear tights!

So, no, I don't think your "closeness" to your friend Means Anything at all. Just that you actually have found a friend who doesn't judge you on static social structures. So what?

Answer 4

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Answer 5

You said that you think that he is 'bi too' which means that you already think you are bi.
Stroking someones hair is pretty loving and affectionate. You are fond of him but not in a sexual way?
I don't know. I think its common for people to have these 'crushes' on people of the same sex, you kind of look up to them and want to be like them. You can be good friends and confuse this for a romantic or sexual feeling.
Just don't jump into anything with both feet or be concerned about labelling yourself or your feelings. If you are not finding yourself wanting to kiss him or touch his butt I think you are probably just over analysing this friendship.

Answer 6

Ok, first of all don't listen to anyone in Yahoo! Answers. Finding out who you are is totally your thing! Yes, there is a possibility you could be bisexual but that does not eliminate the possibility that your attraction to him is nothing else than friendship.. Just don't stress, time will show and by the way good luck with that! ;)

Answer 7

It's possible you have a romantic attraction to him, but not a sexual one -- but I don't know you well enough to say.

I don't think there's anything wrong with being able to express your friendship in they way you describe -- I wish more people were open enough to do so. Men often become so afraid to express affection (not romantic or sexual) for each other that they don't express it at all, and that's just pathetic!

Just go with the friendship. It's a good thing!

Answer 8

You two might have just found the right guy. Many would say we're all bi to some extent. If you two are into each other, then go out. Have fun. Oh, and be safe.

Answer 9

I would just like to reinforce the attitude that sexuality is not something that has nice clear definitions to it. It is perfectly natural to have friendships and they are all based on attraction on some level or another. Therefore don't worry or fret about it, just get on with enjoying your life and your friendships with others where ever they might lead.

Answer 10

Only you can answer that question. Sounds cheesy but it's true. It can be confusing when questioning but you'll know. This could just be an admirative crush or it could turn out you really like him but only you can figure it out.