I have a very nice friend who gave me good advices and chat with me occasionally. But i just can't stand it when she always ask me to join their religion meetings that doesn't concern me and those meetings always make me feel awkward and uncomfortable. I need and want friends who are not so obsessed with religion and can go shopping with me whenever we are free. She is quite a nice person and how should i reply her so as not to hurt her feelings???
2006-11-11 17:14:55 · 10 answers · asked by Daffodil 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your religion is frankly... none of her business... A good friend (in my opinion) would love you regardless... of what you look like... what you drive... what religion you are... political party...
I would take a serious look at your friend and see if this friend truely views you as a friend and not her charity case...
Just because someone is smiling at you doesn't make them friendly...
And, if the friend is trying to get you to convert to something that is not you... it's only damaging the friendship... friends shouldn't try to force things on you (this is called "peer pressure")... and they dang sure shouldn't make you uncomfortable on a regular basis (especially when they do it knowingly)...
I would put it to him/her plain... tell her you're not interested in converting to his/her religion... if she chooses to take that as an insult... it's only because he/she feels they HAVE to save your soul... and that's not their job (especially as a "friend")
2006-11-11 17:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by grimmy19812000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a sister, who years ago would call me and preach to me about religion. It was a bad time for me then, and I finally had to just about get rude with her to make her stop the incessant preaching. But she finally got the idea and stopped.
I don't know the psychology of what causes people to act the way your friend does. The obsession is so great and they are so enthusiastic about it that they can't understand why you don't feel it too.
I know you don't want to hurt her feelings, but my experience with most of the religious fanatics is they are pretty callous and can take it without insult. Now I said fanatics, and that might be a bit much, but you get the idea.
It is hard to say what exact words you use because we don't know the person and how their personality is. But use your own good judgement and be honest.
2006-11-11 18:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Gnome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hopefully you'll find friends who aren't so persistent in their religion.
Until then, just politely tell her the truth. Not so much that the meetings make you feel uncomfortable, but simply that you're not interested. Thank her for sharing her faith with you, but tell her you're not interested.
She may persist, which is rather irritating, but there's unfortunately little that can be done about that. About the only thing you can do if she persists is repeatedly tell her in as polite and calm a matter as possible that you're not interested. Hopefully she'll get the hint.
2006-11-12 03:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ophelia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her politely yet firmly that your religious beleifs are already set and feel true to you. Thank her for her interest in including you, and tell her that you respect her faith. Then ask that she respects yours (even if you're atheist, it's still a recognized system of beleif). A true friend will honor you by backing off, yet the chance for ruined friendships is minimal since they walk away feeling accepted by you. If she pursists in pushing her religion at you, she cares more about her church than she does you. In which case, you're not losing a friend--you're dropping an annoyance.
I've been down that road way too many times myself. Good luck to you: Hopefully she'll learn to accept you and all that comes with you... without trying to change you.
2006-11-11 17:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by writersblock73 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I have had this problem at least a dozen times... Still I don't really know the right way to decline it I just do the best I know how. Which is to smile and thank them for the offer but then decline it gracefully. I don't want to be offensive but I try to give them a good indication that I am not interested. Usually my point never really gets recognized but I still try to be nice. Kinda a thank you but no thank you but with a smile. Good luck.
2006-11-11 17:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by justpeachy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of this annoying,busybidy and boring friend of yrs for good.Tell her off directly.its not a matter of whether u r going to hurt her feelings.U complained in the very first place you r the one who cannot stand her.if u still hesitate, then stop wriitng to tell others abt yr problems.you are really BORING thers to death.
2006-11-11 19:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by chasen54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 07:33:03 · answer #7 · answered by livesay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you heard what she said the first time and if she cotinues to push this you can't be a friend.
2006-11-11 20:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kindly tell her you are not interested and will not go. those meetings have timely info, though. and just stop spending time with her. just tell her you are looking for friends with different interests and appreciate her good advice. I bet she isnt annoying when you need something though?
2006-11-11 17:20:19 · answer #9 · answered by fan_wan :-) 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have the same problem!!!! theres nothing wrong with asking her to please respect your choices as you respect heres. religion should never be an influence on a friendship! freedom of religion is in the constitution, ask her to respect your rights. friendship is much more important than any religion
2006-11-11 17:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋