my boyfriend has just admitted to me that he doesnt know who he loves anymore or who he wants to be with. He tells me he loves me but i was able to log into his messenger and say him and his ex's conversation and he wants to go screw her and says I was a mistake and so was this baby but then he will still tell me how much he loves me and I am totally in love with him and I just cant survive without him. And now I am stressing about it and I am scared that I am gonna miscarry my son because of it and he is mad at me because I dont wanna be her friend. What do i do??
2006-11-11 16:57:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It sounds like he is playing games with both of you and that is not fair to you or your baby. If he truly loved you he wouldn't put you through this. You don't need a man like that in your life, you deserve better-stress is not good while you are pregnant. You need to do what is best for you and your baby- you can survive without him!
2006-11-11 17:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sakora 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-22 06:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, this sucks, and I am sorry you are going through this. It seems to me that he is a dog, and you will be better off getting rid of him. I know you say you love him, but don't you love yourself more? You should...any self-respecting woman won't put up with garbage like what he is pulling. There are many fish in the sea, and a better guy will come along someday. But before he does, make yourself into a person that YOU love first...that way you know the man you are with has a totally awesome woman, that way he wont have the notion to cheat or be a liar to you.
No baby is a "mistake." God makes all babies for a reason. If you have to be a single parent for this baby, put all you have into it, be the best mother possible and do your best. Good things come to people who work hard, are kind and do good things. Trust me on this one. Good luck to you...
2006-11-11 17:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by jenteacher2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to be looked at as a sloppy second? No woman should ever have to compete for a man like this. If he loved you, then he wouldn't want to even look at anyone else. You need to be strong, you can survive without him. Your child deserves to have a man in his life that doesn't look at him like a mistake. He doesn't need to grow up thinking that that is how a man is supposed to treat a woman. Your son should grow up respecting women, and wanting to be a better man. If he is mad because you won't be a friend to the "other" woman, he needs to get over himself. Just walk away.
2006-11-11 17:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by ~*April*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your main problem is that you really believe that you can't survive without him. You can, you just don't want to. And that's why he is treating you this way, because he is taking you for granted and he knows that you are vulnerable and pregnant. I'm sure he loves you but why in the world would he expect you to be his ex's friend? You really need to pull yourself together for your child's sake and do what is best for you and your child. If he decides to grow up and be a man, then that is great, but for now he is acting like an indecisive kid in a candy store and playing games with your emotions while you are pregnant of all times! Respect and love yourself first. Otherwise no one will respect or truly love you.
2006-11-11 17:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by mrsleslie_lady 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You truly deserve better and I hope you know this. Your boyfriend is really disrespecting you by referring to you and your baby as a 'mistake' this is the point where alarm bells should be going off!!!!!! Trust me when I tell you this, if there is no respect and trust sooner or later your relationship is bound to break. It may feel like you cant survive without him, but that's your fear and love blinding you as any outsider will tell you that you and your baby deserve better and are better off without him. Your boyfriend sounds confused and dishonest-you deserve better and if you dont respect yourself nobody can. If I were you I would swollow my loss and leave, I know very hard especially now that you are pregnant, but you and your baby deserve better and there are more fish in the sea. Good luck and be strong
2006-11-11 23:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by Caro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing first, take a deep breath. It's hard to make a rational decision when all of those emotions are involved. You say that you are totally in love with him......Is it really him you love, or the image of him he is portraying?....there is a big difference. Your first priority, as a mother, is your child. Take care of yourself, even if that means removing yourself from a situation that brings stress and grief.
From your story, it sounds like this guy has huge confidence issues....he tells people what they want to hear....but remember...they are his issues to deal with...not yours. Therefore, don't let him make your life decision. Don't give him the control over your emotions and your life. No man or woman should have that kind of power over you. You can definitely live without him if that is what you choose.
2006-11-13 14:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by MEMyselfI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend did the same thing, except I was living 2 hours away when I found out that I was pregnant. I told him that it was okay for him to have sex with her as long as he still loved me.
It was a mistake. I'm absolutely miserable. I'm pretty sure that I'm going to lose him to her.
Dump him. Let him be with her. If he realizes his mistake and comes back, only take him back once. Otherwise, move on. He isn't any good for you, and he doesn't love you.
2006-11-11 17:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this situation is a very ugly one...nobody should have to go through this but unfortunatly we do.......the one thing I can tell you is for sure if an ex is in the piicture....you shouldn't be...and having a man's child you care about is hard but you can do it.....all you have to think about is your baby thats the only person you should care about at this point that baby is going to love you and you still have a chance to find love, it always doesn't have to be the baby's father.....because a real man will love you with or without a baby!+-
2006-11-11 17:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way i see it is that he dont love u,he just have feelings over the baby(son),misscarring , it will drive him away.Try to be u love your self and the baby,dont show him that you are so weak and cant live without him,try to show him that he must act like someone who is especting a baby and not a ladies lover,try asking him this and that about the baby may be it will atract him to u again,gud luck.
2006-11-11 17:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by kijiti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋