I really like this guy that I have been talking to here for about 3 months now and next weekend I get to meet him, but I have a problem.. My problem is that I have low self esteam about my chest and I am afraid that if he sees it he won't want to talk or see me anymore. My problem is I have what they call invert nipples and under my boobs break out and I am so ashamed. I really brings my self confendance down alot. I've been single for 2 and 1/2 yrs and I blame my problem on me not getting involved with anyone because of it also I blame it on my relationships not lasting . I cry all th etime when I have to put a bra on cuz its nasty. I don't know what to do.. Help!
2006-11-11 16:45:26 · 12 answers · asked by AA 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
It's not that big of a deal, hun. Boobs are boobs, and that's all there is to it. Of course you're gonna have guys who love bigger boobs, and there are those who love smaller boobs, but would you date a guy who wants you not because of your personality but because of your boobs? I know it's cliche, but accept it.
Check out nenarmz's answer: her friend's got inverted nipples and her significant other thinks she's the hottest thing around! That's gotta say something. As far as the breakouts are concerned, you can always fix that. Do you change your bra daily? You'd be surprised how many girls don't! That could be a culprit. Purchase a loofah in order to cleanse that area well and buy an acne body scrub to go along with it.
It's all a matter of effort and if you've gotten to know the guy like you should have (meaning all shallowness aside), then he won't have a problem with your physical appearance.
Besides, it's a little elementary if guy freaks out because of that, don'tcha think? There are TONS of women with inverted nipples, which just goes to show it's nothing to be worried about.
2006-11-11 16:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by Θ Chez Θ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK you need to stop thinking about your inverted nipples and break outs so much. what youre doing is portraying low self esteem even when you dont realize it.
Heres a secret: have you ever met those people who seem extremely attractive yet they may have obvious flaws but for some reason they still seem very sexy? Well those people think positive about themselves more often then not and that is the key.
When you think negative about yourself it shows in many ways that you do not even realize. Youre actually sending out "I'm insecure and suffer from low self esteem" signals in both the energy and body language you display.
This is a big turn off to many people. Start focusing on the things that are good about you rather then the things you believe are awful.
People who feel very bad about themselves and dont believe in themselves also look so physically often times. they slouch, they cant keep eye contact, they dont take care of themselves physically, and they often send out negative signals that are detectable by others very easily.
STOP doing this to yourself. and start looking for ways to boost your self esteem. I want you to ask yourself everyday "whats good about me?"...then focus on those things and accentuate them.
2006-11-11 17:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem because I am really insecure about my boobs too. They're really small and oddly shaped and I hate showing them off. Despite that, I know that if someone is really into me they'll look past that. The best way to deal with it is to tell him that you're really insecure about your breasts because you don't think they're atractive. If he reacts negatively, he's not worth it. Otherwise, be happy that you got a good one! The biggest part of confidence is just having it. You find it in yourself and work it. If you act like their appearance doesn't bother you, eventually it won't. Also, if it's truly causing you emotional pain, you should consult with a plastic surgeon to reshape your nipples. Also, a dermatologist can help with the breaking out and that might help. A lot of doctors help with a payment schedule to help you pay off the surgery. I hope you can find your own confidence to talk to him and be proud of your body.
2006-11-11 16:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, get advice from your doctor. But there are exercises you can do to help your nipples stand out. If you are so self conscious about it, go to a doctor already!!! And believe me, if a guy breaks up with you because of that, he was not worth the effort in the first place!!!
2006-11-11 16:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by monkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to see a dermatologist about the rash. but the inverted nipples are not really a problem because they come out really easy when stimulated. I really dont
think that is your problem with men. Its mind over matter.
2006-11-11 16:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really intend to show him your boobs so soon? Why feel bad about something that people don't know about, espessially something that is considered normal. That's just the way you are, no need to feel bad. The more he sees you as a person, the less he'll worry about your chest.
2006-11-11 16:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Bloody Wing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 08:38:22 · answer #7 · answered by yakel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl u r fabulous if he dnt lik u 4 u HE ANIT WORTH IT he shuld look past that dnt cry ur not the only one with problems! if u need a friend email me ur great dnt but ur self down think about the positives and u urself thats buetiful! personality cums 1st dnt worry b urself and if ppl start likein u u noe its 4 u not bcuz ur being sumthing else...
2006-11-12 05:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are beautiful. Realize that. God made you the way you are for a reason and He loves you. If this guy can't accept you for who you are, then he probably isn't the one for you. Good luck with your outing!
2006-11-11 17:03:15 · answer #9 · answered by Kaity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't cry, please. the fact that you have inverted nipples is a problem only for you not for your partner. i have a friend that has inverted nipples and her husband thinks she is the hottest thing around. forget about your nipples, just be yourself, and you'll see how cool you'll feel.
2006-11-11 16:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by nenarmz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋