my neighbor just gave my 11 year old alcohol.......?

Question

my neighbor told my son to take a drink of her drink,he did.afterwards she tells him there's vodka,orange and mango juice in it.WTF?now my son is telling everyone he has has vodka.it didnt harm him....but that's not the point!!what would u do or say???thanks

i cant ground my son when he didnt know someone was tryng to give him alcohol.

colleen,get over yourself.he was supervised by adults.i never thought my neighbor would do this.she was my friend.he was outside playing...like all kids do.

i had 2 wait 4 my baby 2 go 2 sleep.i just went off on her!!!

Answer 1

R U serious? I'd have some serious talkin to do with the neighbor out back in a dark alley! Ream her a new ******, and if she is lucky, don't kill her. That is so wrong! If you cant control yourself, make sure you hide her body in a big dumpster on garbage day! LOL
(yes people.. this is a joke.. so don't go reporting me.LOL)
Seriously.. I think I would go off on her every chance I got, them tell all the other neighbors with kids to keep their kids away from her! Oh, also, tell your son not to be braggin about that, because it just takes 1 wrong person to hear for CPS to be called checkin on you (yes I know you did nothing wrong and they would quickly figure that out... but still... you don't want to get into that mess!)

Answer 2

Obviously your neighbor is either a) an alcoholic who has damaged so many brain cells that her judgment is totally gone, or b) an irresponsible person who shouldn't be around children - or both.

I would tell her in no uncertain terms that what she did is NOT ACCEPTABLE and NO ONE in your family will be coming to her house again. If she has children who play with your son, it will be at YOUR HOUSE under YOUR supervision. If she doesn't like that, too bad.

When talking to your son, you need to keep a careful balance between explaining to him how wrong what your neighbor did was, and how bad alcohol can be for you, but also make sure that you don't make such a big deal out of it that it makes him so curious about alcohol that he wants to try it again. That's the danger in this kind of situation.

The way I handled it with my son when he was that age was by telling him that when he was 21 and of legal age to drink, he could make that decision for himself. At this age, it is the parent's responsibility to see that the child does not drink, not only because it is illegal but because it is damaging to the body and the brain, and it can lead to reckless and potentially dangerous behavior.

Good luck with this situation. It is difficult when neighbors can't get along. Just a few days ago, a man in a small town here in Oklahoma took a gun and shot three of his neighbors and then himself over a dispute about where to put a fence. I sure hope your neighbor will be reasonable about this. :-/

Answer 3

I would go over and give that neighbor a piece of my mind. Tell her that you don't know how things are done in her house, but in yours you don't give alcohol to children. Tell her that your son is no longer able to enter her home or accept anything from her because she is negligent when it comes to children. I know she is your friend, but you have to say something. Don't call the police like others have said. Your son is fine and not hurt, thank goodness. Ive called police on my neighbor before who was also a "friend" and all that came out of it was living with a nightmare neighbor, she made my life miserable after. As for your son, its too bad that he got taken advantage of like that and I bet that when he drank the drink she laughed at him, that's what some people are like. But your son is the innocent one and make sure you tell him that you are glad he told you about it and its not his fault. Tell him that next time when he is out playing and he is thirsty to come in and grab a drink. Good Luck

Answer 4

Honestly, I would question why she was giving alcohol to a child his age anyway. There are waaaaay to many child abusers and pedophiles out there to take something like this lightly. She knows that it is illegal and unacceptable, but she doesn't care. So threatening her or trying to talk to her will probably be a waste of time. I would tell my son to stay away from her and tell her to stay away from my son. I would let other neighbors know what happened, as well.
Your son needs to be told to keep his mouth shut. I am sure you don't want for another kid to come to your house telling your son things like "I drank vodka and it was okay." I am sure other parents feel the same way.
Explain to your son that we can damage our health in ways that we cannot see immediately. Talk to him about obeying the law, which says minors cannot drink. Tell him about people who drink, think they are okay and 'it didn't bother me' and went out and had horrible car accidents.

Answer 5

Don't let your son alone with someone who is drinking and this won't happen again. Obviously your neighbor has poor judgement and should never be allowed to watch your child. Also you probably want to make sure that your son is drinking out of other people's glasses since that's how cold sores, Epstein Barr and a host of other diseases are spread.

Answer 6

I would not let him go back over to her house. I would tell her that she is not very responsible to give an 11 year old alcohol and I would also tell her that he is no longer allowed to come over there. Good luck

Answer 7

Talk to your neighbr and let her know that it is not acceptable under any circumstance to let your son drink alcohol. If it happens again, then consider something more drastic like calling the police.

Answer 8

The neighbor did something irresponsible, illegal and just plain stupid. Sit down with your son and educate him on responsible and irresponsible behaviors. Talk to him about trust and about choices. While he didn't intend to drink, his choice of what to do with it now is telling alot about where he is in making wise choices.

As far as the neighbor, distance yourself and your son from her. She is not someone that you want influencing him.

Answer 9

WTF where were u at i would have said dont give my child any drinks if i want him to taste any i will let him have a taste of mine the drink its called a screwdriver by the way vodka and orange juice. I would def tear in to her for that it wasnt right if he had no idea then it def is not his fault but u should tell him not to acept open drinks from people even if he knows them. and tell ur neighbor next time u r calling the police

Answer 10

Call the police and report her, what she did was against the law.