i know this sounds stupid, and i should feel more confident about my self and marriage. but im almost 6 months pregnant and dont feel like my self. i know that a lot of women find him attractive, so i feel like he might start looking back at them because im growing. My husband and i both are nursing assistans and we both work together..so this women made a comment about him when he left the room (not when i was around). and i had to hear about it.they told him he was married and had a baby on the way...but that makes them want him more...i feel crazy. I'm i the only one out there that would feel upset about this?
2006-11-11 15:57:55 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Obviously, you can read all the above comments and realize that you are *not* crazy for being upset about this. It's natural to be pissed thinking a woman is going to make a move on your man. But we both know you've nothing to worry about. Al is completely and utterly in love with you, and I would wager, finds you even more beautiful as you are carrying his daughter. Remember, he was the one making you eat when you first got together. :)
Don't stress yourself out over this...maybe make a comment to the aforementioned woman, such as "So, I hear you think Alan is hot. Thanks..I made a good choice, didn't I?" This is something you can say with a smile, yet it lets the ***** know that you're onto her. Do what you can to make moments for you and Al at home, times where you can be romantic for a while. I'm sure you'll find that you're the only thing on his mind, still. I promise, all will be well. :)
2006-11-12 12:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by BrightEyedBlasphemer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't, and your pregnancy hormones aren't helping the situation either. Here's the question. Do you trust him? Because if the answer is anything other than yes, then you don't need to be with him anyway. I am sure your husband loves you and would not want you upset about the situation. But, would you rather the gossip be about how ugly and gross he was? That probably wouldn't make you very proud. Hey, it's you who is carrying his baby. It's you who he made a vow to, and it's you who he comes home to every night. Congrats on your new baby. I am sorry about the hormones it is causing. You already know that's just part of it. Try to relax though, you aren't doing your body any good with this stress.
2006-11-11 16:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control what other women say about your mate. As long as he isn't acting on it, you're ok. You are pregnant, he should realize you aren't a size 4. Being pregant is a miracle and gaining weight or getting stretch marks should be the last thing anyone thinks about. The health of your baby should be top priority. Most men think a woman is never more attractive than when she is carrying a child. Without women, where would men be?
2006-11-11 16:01:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just insecure right now because of your ever changing body. BUT, and this is the truth as it happened to me personally. I cheated on my wife EVERY TIME she was pregnant. We have four children and I cheated EVERY SINGLE TIME. Not because I didn't love her or even find her attractive. I think it is because OTHER women KNOW you have not been getting enough sex and they KNOW you are fertile and it is GENETIC for a woman to seek a fertile male. They threw sex at me when my wife was pregnant. I think it is genetic.
I regret all of those cheating events, but they did happen. If anything, I would just warn him of what I said because I can tell you right now, my betrayals haunt me. My wife did NOTHING to deserve my betrayals. I did them out of weakness and as a result of being pursued, basically as you describe is your husbands situation right now.
I would also recommend that you give him lots of oral right now. Make it a mission to learn how to really please him orally right now. Make him think all day about coming home and getting that blow. That will keep him focused on you and the family.
Honestly, my betrayals were not planned on my end. I can only say that you need to try and thwart the other women's plans.
2006-11-11 17:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be fine..He is your husband and he is married to you..Just realize that you are beautiful..Those women who are doing that are going to have the same thing happen to them when they are pregnant one day..Dont let it bother you, just focus on your new baby. Try to spend time with your female friends and female family members, and do things that make you happy--that way you arent all wrapped up in your husband. Dont worship him like he's a god. Still have a life of your own and find some happiness.
2006-11-11 16:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by Victory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I probably would feel the same, but then remind myself that we both have GREAT communication and he thinks I am most beautiful when I am pregnant. Woman drool over my husband, but he doesn't react to it. I take it as a compliment. But if these women were to act on that feeling knowing that he is married then that is disrespect and plain dumb of them. I am sure he loves you...did he boast "a pretty woman complimented me!!" if someone else said she was pretty then forget it, it's nothing. Your husband is smart! Don't fret cause it's only the hormones messin with u.... Hey congratulations on the baby!! Best wishes to you and your family!!
2006-11-11 16:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i did to when i was pregnant but we are more emotional and don't feel too beautiful and attractive when we are pregnant. But that isn't true because even though your body changes it makes your skin so beautiful. Remember he comes home to you and you have his beautiful baby inside of you so calm down a little bit and enjoy the fact the you have a good looking husband that comes home to you.
2006-11-11 16:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Congrats on becoming a mother. It is such a precious time in a woman's life. It is normal for you to feel that way. But, if he truely loves you... You don't have anything to worry about. Marriage is about trust and committment. My husband saids he likes men to brag on me, because it makes him feel good to know... that they can wish.... but he has me! As Tim McGraw sings " She never lets it go to her Heart" Your husband took your hand in marriage, and now you have a baby on the way... I really don't think you have anything to worry about. I am sure he thinks you are as pretty, as the day he married you:) God Bless!
2006-11-11 16:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre hormonal so its ok. be happy that others find your husband attractive because you dont want what someone else think is ugly. he is your husband and he loves you. soon you will have a full family and he will love you even more. let the world know who he belongs with.
and on the side you may have to remind your coworker of who he is dont stand down just because you are pregnant
2006-11-11 16:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a right to feel upset about it, but not with him. he didn't make the comment, and he didn't solicit the comment. if this had been from a stranger, i would have said "let it go", but since this was said by a co-worker, and possibly more than one, then this is something that has to be nipped in the bud. they should have more respect for you and your husband, both as people and as co-workers....
arguably, this could classify as sexual harassment, and if it continues, could constitute a hostile working environment.
My recommendation: approach the women who said it, and let them know that you appreciate their approval of your choice in men, but that their comments were unacceptable and that you insist that they stop
2006-11-11 16:03:43 · answer #10 · answered by Heath 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋