I really gave him my all, I fell in love with him quickly and deeply. Everything was fine and then she being the mother of his child came to him with option of getting back together and he did it. Now, I'm left out with my feelings hurt. I just keep thinking about him, I know we didn't have anything or else he wouldn't have left me, but I'm really hurt. I'm turning 30 next mth and this crap with men is getting old. I thought he was a man. What am I gonna do now?
2006-11-11 14:19:29 · 9 answers · asked by precious girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like your a little desperate.
First of all, of course he is going to try to make it work with the mother of his kids before you. He has investment with her. He has nothing with you. He can find another you anywhere. Stop worrying about him and worry about yourself.
Stop getting involved with men that have their own problems/family/kids/divorce/court/jail etc etc.
Don't go looking for love.
Pray to find the right one and Jesus will take care of you.
2006-11-11 14:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by yo mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just needed some time away from his "broken" marriage. I guess he only "used" you to fill in some lonely gaps after he left his previous wife. But now that he's all better now, he felt like returning to the mother of his child. I guess you fell in love with him too fast also. It's very common for women nowadays to fall quicker for men who have had previous families. They tend to have some sort of attractive "caregiving" powerful magnet.
Keep your head up and keep searching for your man. Go out and have fun on your birthday because you never know who you might bump into.
2006-11-11 14:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by Meliss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start over and look for men in a new place. Don't go to the places you normally would or you will find the same kind of men again. Try new places like hobby groups or special interest clubs.
2006-11-11 14:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when we are choosing a mate, we need to look into their past, we need to know if he is someone we can trust our heart to, can we rely on him, and does he have things in his past that aren't resolved. he is causing u to feel as if it was u who had nothing to offer him, it is affecting your own self worth. this wasn't about u, it is about him and the woman and his child. in most relationships children always come first. respect and love yourself, this was something u could not have anticipated, your self worth doesn't come from his love or aproval, we wonder why we were left why they chose her over us, and what does she have that i don't, the only way we can loose our self worth, is to blame ourselves, and persecute ourselves with unreasonable illogical negative thoughts. u certinly have strengths, and are a good person, and its best u found out about him now, than later on, after maybe u married him, or had children, best to know the true him now, than wait until more time was invested. this has nothing to do with any thing u did in the relationship, he just wanted to be with her and his child. get to know yourself, get your self worth back, and than move on hopefully to a better relationship with a more honest man. sometimes we get in a hurry to marry and find love, we feel pushed by time, so we choose and settle for less than we deserve, we take whatever we find, and we really haven't gotten to know that person, we fall in love too fast, and really we know very little of that person before we give our hearts away.
2006-11-11 14:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep out of relationships for a few months. And stay away from rebounding guys. Find a guy without past baggage.
2006-11-11 14:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just go on forward with your life and not look back. If he will do this to you one time... He will do it to you again... Find you someone that cares for you, and not someone who is still living in the past... His g/f/ex-wife(whatever she may be) will always use their child to convince him back.
2006-11-11 15:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay single for awhile and stay away from guys that has been recently taken. Go out with some one that has had time alone also
2006-11-11 15:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he did you such a big favor by doing it now,,,you are too good for him, you are a loving intelligent female that will move on to the next open door and a happy life with the right one,,,,dry your tears ,hold your head up and thank him for not staying with you to make your life miserable.
2006-11-11 14:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by beachbridal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, men do things and say stuff that they do not mean. just so they can sleep with us.
2006-11-11 14:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋