He thinks she doesn't know, he is sleeping with the guy that lives across the street, should she confront him or leave it alone??? I don't know what to tell her. Please help any advice appreciated!
2006-11-11 14:19:24 · 17 answers · asked by alleybug_2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Confront....she could be at risks for STD's or HIV
2006-11-11 14:21:36 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She definitely needs to confront him about it......if he's having an affair, that's an issue in and of itself. The fact that he's sleeping with another man is a whole different issue, neither of which are part of a healthy marriage.
I think your sister needs to do what's best for her and show herself some respect and either get him professional help or seriously consider moving in a different direction than him.
I'm certainly not an advocate of divorce and if he's willing to seek help, I would hope she would support him and stand by his side. I'm not sure I'm strong enough to do that though, good luck to her.
2006-11-12 00:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by C J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should politely go over there one day while they are in action and then politely leave her husbands belongings on the frony porche with a nice little note that says I knew about this the whole time have fun catching aids or something worse together and change the locks on the house and put tresspassing charges on him if he tries to come on the property after she gives him a warning to stay away so if he must have his male friend that badly then let him.
2006-11-11 23:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no right answer because we don't know all the details, but there are issues she should consider before deciding what to do.
is her husband a gay whose in the closet and does not want to come out.
if so does he genuinely love her or is he just using her as his cover.
can she afford to support her self if she confronts him.
is she afraid his conduct could expose her to the HIV virus.
if she answers yes to a few of those questions then i suggest she talk to a lawyer before she confronts him. a lawyer will be better to disclose all her options to her, and help her get it all under control. confronting him first would only cause the situation to blow up and become a nightmare. if she goes to a lawyer and decides to divorce him, she then is in the drivers seat and has a stronger chance of getting all she wants
2006-11-11 22:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by redsyoungstud 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do believe you shouldn't confront him yourself because you do not know how he will react. I do however think you should let your sister know that you know something disturbing about her hubby and if she says she knows or questions you further tell her to ask her hubby about the neighbour and leave it at that you do not want to be a rat but if she questions him then he will either deny it or come clean if he denies it and she tells you this then maybe you should tell her what you know.
2006-11-11 22:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him on that. That is just so wrong. I aint into that gay crap anyway. I was brought up diffrent I guess. I just don't believe in it. And this is one very sick man. Or she can pack his things up and throw em across the street and give the other man her wedding ring.
2006-11-11 23:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by Babie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats this, BrokeBack, Desperate Housewives? Okay really, if she knows then let her make her own decision. If she doesn't, well, blood is thicker than mud. He is actually putting his wife at risk of contacting HIV. If you haven't told her all ready, then what are you waiting for? An invitation? You are your sisters' keeper. If you can't at tell her, show her. It is your responsibilty. Moral and Ethically.
2006-11-11 23:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm... yeah that is a little hard to answer.. I would atleast let her know and she should confront him... unless she wants both of them. Then it could work out for both of them... Tell her good luck though...
2006-11-11 22:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by Justin N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister what you saw and what you suspect and leave the rest up to her. If she saw your bf doing something like that wouldn't you be grateful if she told you about it?
2006-11-11 22:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know this for a fact? And how do you know it's true? She won't believe you unless you have deniable evidence, BUT she should be told of your suspicions. Where's your loyalty babe? She's your sister and you got her back. If this man is cheating, then you should bust him!
2006-11-11 22:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by WildMtHoney65 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you talk to your sister about this most lickley she is going to tell you to mind your own business.but i think you should try any way just to get it out into the open.good luck
2006-11-11 23:06:04 · answer #11 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋