My husband of one year still loves video games, anime, still hangs out with his childhood buddies and loves to stay out late partying and drinking (he has an alcohol "exhaler" installed in his car due to a previous DUI when he was single though). Isn't he supposed to act more like a father figure now? We have a 1 yr old....
2006-11-11 14:19:13 · 16 answers · asked by Meliss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey, some guys are always gonna be *****... It's the way it is... When things go in the shitter, try to choose better next time...
2006-11-11 14:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by HONORARIUS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like my boyfriend too lol. But my bf works hard, has a great job, provides for his family and spends his days being serious in a shirt and tie. When he comes home and the kids are fed and in bed, on come the cartoons or video games. And when he goes out with his buddies, watch out. I've never seen so many immature 30+ year olds at one time. It's the way he relaxes. I'd talk to your husband about the late night though, he should not be going out all the time and staying out late. He like you, needs his time alone or out with his friends but he should know where his priorities are.
2006-11-11 14:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do grow up , it just take a little learning. Sit down and tell him what you do and don't like... just dont expect everything to just hault. The drinking and partying I gave up on that even before i turned 21. I can see the video games and hanging out with friends those are nice things everyone needs their hobbies. that is why my wife and i are having problems now. She has NO hobbies and I have lots of them. If she just sat down with me an explained what she wanted out of me then maybe we would still be together. instead she left because she was unhappy. Always talk... communication is the KEY to a good relationship.
GOODLUCK AND GAME ON!
PS: Challenge him to some Mortal Kombat and see how much it turns him on.
2006-11-11 14:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Justin N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30 years old, I could care less for anime, and I do like seeing some of my old school friends, but I also do enjoy playing video games. Mainly for me I use them as relaxation. But I think it he's doing it all the time, that's a problem. Besides if you look at a lot of the video games out there now, you have to be at least 18 to buy some of them because they are so violent. That's why with me, if I play video games, they are usually sports games like baseball and football.
I agree that he needs to take his roll as a father seriously. But also, he may find it a way to relax. As long as he's not doing it all the time and not keeping up with his duties as husband and father.
2006-11-11 14:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some guys never grow up, ther is nothing wrong with still liking video games, but he could try playing them with you and your son.
now that he is a dad he should grow a pair of balls and stay home and look after his family.
it is fine to go out every now and than for some fun with his mates, but he should do the same for you, and look aftre your kid, while you spend some time with your mates
2006-11-11 15:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by sus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you picked this "winner". You knew what he was like before you decided to have a child with him and marry him.
He's not going to change. Why should he. He's got it all and no one expects him to act like a grown-up. It's like being Peter Pan! If you wanted a man, you should have married a man, not a boy.
2006-11-11 14:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by grahamma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please don't lump us all together, we are not all the same. my brother who is a couple years older then me acts like your husband, i on the other hand take care of my family and enjoy every moment i have with my 6 month old. You need to tell your husband to grow up now, he's a big boy.
2006-11-11 14:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by whatup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are going through because I am going through the same thing.You would think by thirty they would grow up but apparently not.And unfortunately not all men are the same after you marry, some unveil their true beings!!!
2006-11-11 14:29:24 · answer #8 · answered by veronica c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man will do whatever he can get away with. It is up to you to talk to him about it and how it affects your relationship with him. Many men will never reach the maturity level that is expected of their biological age.
2006-11-11 15:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do beleieve he needs to up his responsibilities with having a child now but really most of us men are kids at heart and it keeps us young.
2006-11-11 14:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋